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slavejlb -> posting a second question (9/10/2006 2:20:05 AM)
Greetings Masters I am sorry for bothering you and i dont mean to be one. but this question i am going to forward to my ex Master here is the question would you end a realtionship for what ever reason without telling your slave why you are ending it. take care and be safe slave jlb

MistressMaamNH -> RE: posting a second question (9/10/2006 3:14:15 AM)
Obviously you have some resentment and frustration over how your relationship ended with your Exmaster...would it not be better to either try to discuss that with him, or simply let it go and move on, instead of trying to drag others into it? Who wants to be a party to being used as retaliation and a "See, there, I told you so" scenario? Clearly he ended things in a way that has left you confused and hurt-someone that truly cared for you in the first place, wouldn't have done that. Should make it pretty obvious he wasn't the right one for you. Cut your losses, learn the lesson that's being taught..and carry on. MMNH

zero69u2 -> RE: posting a second question (9/10/2006 3:29:23 AM)
its hard to end any relationship.. sometimes if the dating stops you might have a clear end point.. sometimes not.. you get these "drifters" who date off and on.. where your really not sure if its even a relationship.. my advice just move on and realize that things are going to get better. He may not even have a reason for breaking up.. even if he had a reason it would just make you mad persuing it.

RavenMuse -> RE: posting a second question (9/10/2006 3:49:28 AM)
No. I have never just dropped all contact with a girl. If I end a relationship, release a girl from My collar then they are left in no doubt exactly as to WHY I have done so. Most often it is due to something that makes the current situation untenable, but doesn't have to effect the friendship. However there have been the odd occassion where the friendship has also needed to be ended. She is left in no doubt as to which of these is the case also.

Tikkiee -> RE: posting a second question (9/10/2006 3:52:30 AM)
quote: would you end a realtionship for what ever reason without telling your slave why you are ending it. I would like to think that most MEN or WOMEN would explain the reasons for ending a relationship with another; however, I also know that some do not. Just move on; learn from the xp and apply it to future relationships. Life is way too short to keep worrying about the one that go away.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: posting a second question (9/10/2006 9:55:40 AM)
Simply what you are seeking is "closure"...find it within yourself,do not ever "expect" it from someone else.....Tempting

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: posting a second question (9/10/2006 10:14:07 AM)
Plenty of them do, especially if it's a mainly cyber or long distance relationship. You can make a few mature attempts to contact them, but then you really just have to end it within yourself and heal over time. Figure out some of the possible judgement choices you could have done better, figure out what signals you missed, and only when you really want, go out again.

BitaTruble -> RE: posting a second question (9/10/2006 10:37:58 AM)
Slavejib, Personally, I think closure in a relationship is important because it allows you to move on quicker and with, perhaps, some insight as to what happened so it can be avoided in the future. Unfortunately, in this instant gratification, selfish world in which we live, it is a fact of life and it's not confined to just relationships either. Businesses used to let you know you weren't right for the job, they weren't going to hire you, even if they just sent out a letter rather than made a phone call. Now it's as if you don't exist and never existed. All you can do is try to realize that if someone doesn't want you, they don't want you and if they care so little about you that they won't help you by telling you why, they probably aren't the right person for you anyway. I know, in my own relationships, I want someone who wants to be with me as much as I want to be with them and I've always made it clear that all one has to do is say the word, and I'll be out of their life .. no problem. Keep your chin up and hang in there. Live life, enjoy yourself and just keep trying to improve you.. for you. In time old 'what's his name' will be a distint memory. Celeste

slavejlb -> RE: posting a second question (9/10/2006 12:44:25 PM)
thank you everyone, take care and be safe slave jlb

slavejlb -> RE: posting a second question (9/10/2006 12:49:55 PM)
Hey truble belive it or not i did in fact on many times i have told him that and some one was right closure come from inside, but good byes are nice too, you do that when you are standing at a grave site of a lost love one or friend, and that is what the ending of any realtionship is, it is a death and a passing away take care and be safe slave jlb

Estring -> RE: posting a second question (9/10/2006 10:47:38 PM)
I have never let a slave go without an explanation. That would be like kicking someone when they are down. And I doubt that you will get an explanation from your ex- Master by forwarding these replies to him. It would be better to just get to moving on.

Celeste43 -> RE: posting a second question (9/11/2006 11:29:51 AM)
Sometimes people don't have a reason, they only know that things aren't working for them and that they're unhappy in the relationship. In cases like that, it often happens that the person being broke off with wants to know why he/she is unhappy and what isn't working. But too often there just isn't an answer.

Horadell -> RE: posting a second question (9/11/2006 3:10:38 PM)
It could also be possible they weren't proud of the reason. I know that I have seen a relationship end without a word, simply stopped answering phone calls, avoidance in public, blocked online contact, and the only indication was a note that said, "It's over." Of course, it was because the Guy who ended it was married, with kids... and his Wife found out and made it happen, but that is beside the point. Relationships can end for any reason, and while it would be common decency as a person, to let you know exactly why they want to let you go. Understand as I have seen in other threads, and you will see if you look around. quote: ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam There's a difference between rights and preferences. When push comes to shove, for me, the only right the slave has is to obey or not. [...] Each person has their own idea of what is and isn't a slave or a submissive. I have found that my definition of submissive is someone who doesn't want to surrender completely. In the context of this question, this means they want a guarentee of certain rights. In slavery, that's not a guarentee. Master Fire Nothing is guarenteed. It is useless to search for something that cannot be found. If, however, you feel that your searching will not be fruitless, search away. I myself would never end something without telling the person why I ended it, but I am not your ex-Master. Good luck to you.

MistressSassy66 -> RE: posting a second question (9/11/2006 7:37:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavejlb Greetings Masters I am sorry for bothering you and i dont mean to be one. but this question i am going to forward to my ex Master here is the question would you end a realtionship for what ever reason without telling your slave why you are ending it. take care and be safe slave jlb To answer your question...I would end a relationship at 1st without explanation,if I was upset at the time.In hindsight I would go back and give a reason. I would hope that you would say this rather than proving someone wrong if thats what your doing with these posts.

Sallow -> RE: posting a second question (9/11/2006 8:44:54 PM)
Never. Regardless of what the other person has done, they - and your own sense of self-respect - are deserving of your making a clean, clear break with them, and telling them why.

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