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going above and beyond - 9/10/2006 8:53:28 PM

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Each of us, Dominant or sub/slave search for that special person(s) that we hope will complete us. We have an idea, perhaps a list of traits/talents we hope will compliment our own. So many posts are about the negative/problems of relationships that I thought it would be refreshing to hear of the accomplishments that go above and beyond what we hoped for.  Those not so little things that without that special relationship maybe wouldn't have happened.

For Myself I set out in search of a girl that would care for My needs and compensate My own short comings (yes Dominants are not perfect). I searched online/rl for one who could do just that. I discovered her in a chat room being the defiant little slave she is yet today. LOL.  We started talking as friends and since she was so new, I took on the role of mentor to her. We began 1200 miles apart using online and progressed to in person meetings every other month until she relocated within 12 miles of Me. Taking our relationship to more of a 24/7 situation.

My expectations of her were more of a personal assistant (scheduling/paperwork/shopping) as well as domestic service (cleaning/cooking) and of course the important "other needs" <winks>.  All of which she handles with a smile (most days) while she juggles two households. She covered all those "traits/talents" very well.

I've been battling the IRS for over 5 years now. Lovely agency to fight with and with My paperwork hatred....they were far in the lead. I've hired professionals (tax attorneys/accountants) only to pay more and more but getting nowhere. They just shook their heads and said..it's the IRS. pj decide to give it a shot. Little homemaker, no college but one hell of a pit bull. She spent unknown hours digging through IRS tax codes that not even the "Big boys" tackle. About 9 months ago she stumbled across one of their tax codes and the light bulb lit up over her head. She put together an arguement and damn it if didnt make perfect sense. She mailed it off and we sat and waited....and waited....and waited more.  Anyone ever see a letter from the IRS with the words "we are sorry for any inconvience we may have caused?". If you consider 4 months of 100% income levy an "inconvience". But that was ALL they said. Then a letter saying they were sending it to another office. Another letter saying...we're sending this to yet another office.  Then nothing. Absolutely nothing. No tax bills (which were coming weekly)..nothing. Until today. A letter stating all levies against My property were disolved. All that money I paid attorneys/accountants to make the problems bigger and all I needed was my little pitbull slave with a high school education and determination of an army. Did I ask her to do this?  No. I asked her to serve Me and care for My  needs but never expected this. Oh she told Me she was "looking into it" but I never expected anyone to accomplish this. Heck my "attorney" set up a non profit business saying that was the only way to "fix" it. "Fix" costing me almost 10,000 and a bigger headache then I ever imagined.

So My thoughts were that it might be nice to hear about others experiences that they feel were above and beyond the call of service. We seek that special one but do we truly know how special they are? Do we recognize the deeds they take upon themselves or do we just see it as "expected" services? I for one don't. I think some deeds deserve more then a pat on the head. I'd like to hear more about others that have gone above and beyond ...lets put some positve on the boards.

OS/pj

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RE: going above and beyond - 9/10/2006 9:07:42 PM

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My little one has an uncanny knack for cheering me up when I am having amazingly bad days at work. The store I work in is a pressure cooker when it comes to stress. I am one of 3 experienced staff members in a store full of new hires. I come home stressed more days than not, and since my boy lives in Nashville and I am in Vegas, I dont get to come home to him. However, whenever I am telling him about a bad day, I wil usualy get a phone call. It might be short, but its almost aways caling to remind me how much he misses me and to tel me how lucky he is to have me in his life. Sometimes, when he is more inspired, he'll sing to me. He writes his own songs, or he learns ones he knows I like from the radio. Its just a little unexpected perk. I dont expect to hear from him every day since he is in classes. But if he thinks I am having a rough day, even around daunting homework, he makes sure I get my 15 min phone call so he knows I have a smile on my face when I go to bed.
There is always something positive to say about Angel, one of the best things about him so far is that he has managed to surprise me in just about every way. I never know what to expect, and even when I think I do he finds a way to surprise me and make me happy.
I am happy to say he is getting his collar this week, while I am down visiting him for vacation. It has beena while in the coming, adn we both think we are ready for the commitment. I, for one, am thrilled. It took so long to finaly find my perfect little pet and for a bit I was afraid I'd lose him to fear. But, he came back and this week, we make it official.

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RE: going above and beyond - 9/10/2006 9:59:50 PM

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DV, i'm in Nashville.. if Your visit will include time for meeting with others, wanna get together with some of us wednesday night? we have a girls night out thing at 8, but a lite dinner before hand is always fun when there are out of towners. (nilla public setting )

Same for Sat night before club time, so just depends on which is convenient time for You and Yours. tag me on CM mail if so.

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RE: going above and beyond - 9/10/2006 10:40:45 PM

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Want to put my 2 cents in about a wonderful Dom. My vanilla husband unexpectedly died July 30, 2006. My Dom has been there for me to cry on, to hold me and to be a sounding board when I have to make decisions. He gives me His opinion and advises me who or what i should seek to help me make some of the decisions i have to make. When things are not going well He just seems to know it and calls. When He asks how i am doing and i say fine (instead of whining about how i really am feeling) He seems to know and helps me talk about whatever is going on at that time with me. Some might say He is just doing His job as a Dom but i suspect that another less loving and caring Dom would have run away rather than sticking by me during the many intense mood swings that have happened since hubbys death. I also know that my own level of service to Him has suffered some during the last weeks and He does not complain or expect more than i can do right now. My Dom has kept me going for the last few weeks and for that i thank Him.

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RE: going above and beyond - 9/11/2006 6:47:27 AM

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Each of us, Dominant or sub/slave search for that special person(s) that we hope will complete us.

No we don't. And the ones who do find themselves ultimately unfulfilled.

We can be with people who make us feel "more complete" in who we are, but no other person can "complete us" no matter how nicely romantic the idea may be.

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So My thoughts were that it might be nice to hear about others experiences that they feel were above and beyond the call of service. We seek that special one but do we truly know how special they are? Do we recognize the deeds they take upon themselves or do we just see it as "expected" services? I for one don't. I think some deeds deserve more then a pat on the head. I'd like to hear more about others that have gone above and beyond ...lets put some positve on the boards.

OS/pj

I think my partners go above and beyond everyday they are with me for putting up with my shit. My older partner helps me with empathy and seeing the world in a broad new perspective.

I think we should celebrate who we are and our relationships everyday. Recognition of that isn't weakness. The problem is when people become dependent upon the recognition rather than the recognition being part of the celebration.

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RE: going above and beyond - 9/11/2006 7:30:54 AM

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How wonderful! Thank you for sharing. I hope that she knows you publically praised her.

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RE: going above and beyond - 9/11/2006 7:56:36 AM

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Well then Congradulations are in order to You both.(smiles) its so refreshing to hear the positive. May You both have a rich, and fullfilling relationship.
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RE: going above and beyond - 9/11/2006 8:33:43 AM

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Thank You Master Fire,
And yes she knows her One praises her publicly, I am so proud of her accomplishments. I cannot tell You of the wieght that blew off MY shoulders when I read that letter. LOL I had to reread it three times because of MY disbelief. Wow. I called pj instantly, and gave her the good news, I listened to that girl's pride inflate, LOL. she has earned the right to gloat, she was on her way to dinner with her family when My call came in, and I am sure it was celebrated at thier dinner, (not to mention the 4.0 her son had earned on His grades, which was the reason for the dinner in the first place). Our familys are much richer for the Union between pj and I. No Lucky, I dont need a girl or a slave to complete Me as a person, but to complete the 24/7 BDSM Lifestyle I live. And that she has done ABOVE and BEYOND,she has trully amazed her Mistress. Lucky all I can say to You on Yours, good luck on Your attitude and empathy issues, may You find peace within Yourself.
OS/pj

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RE: going above and beyond - 9/11/2006 11:03:55 AM

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me? speachless? hmm. don't worry Mistress..we both know it won't last. lol.

My personal view on service and going "above and beyond" is that i do what i feel will make my Mistress's life more pleasant/complete/ enjoyable. If that means spending a day finding Her desk (argh!) a day cleaning house or a day in sexual service....What I do is unimportant...the smile it brings to Her face is all that matters to me. And yes, that letter brought a huge smile to Her face. The smile is my goal, not the praise....but cookies are always accepted...and maybe an advil or two as I dig through piles of legal nonsense/tax codes that make my head spin.

And yes LA I agree. I feel She goes way above and beyond every day for putting up with my shit too. ~winks~

diamond, my condolences on your loss. We are both blessed by Dominants that understand and care. Mistress has been there 100% for me when I've lost those I love. In the past year I've lost my brother, mom, a woman that was like a mother to me and a friend. My service to Her absolutely suffered and never a word about it. How truly fortunate we both are.

DV congratulations to You and Your pet. I don't know him but i'll bet knowing he puts the smile back on Your face gives him a smile of his own.

And yes, I'm still smiling as I head out in search of IRS forms and yet more mountains of paperwork to bring this issue to a complete stop.

pj

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RE: going above and beyond - 9/11/2006 11:18:02 AM

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I LOVED reading this :)

My slave is a bit more subtle. He is the one who keeps my spontaneousness in check. Like when we were at a pet shop and I was thinking about buying a guinea pig. It was just so cute, I had one as a child.. yadda yadda. All he said after I stopped blabbering was.. "Are you sure, Mistresse?"

I don't know why.. but that always stops me in my tracks when he says that...

I then feel like "Aunt Gladys" on Bewitched.. "Ahhh.. ahahaha..but..but.. er... baaa.. hmmmmm" Then the "what the hell am I thinking'" mode hits. I appreciate that he knows me better than I know myself.

It's not as wonderful as what you girl did for you. But it's a "thing" to share on this thread :) (and I'm SOOO close to getting my third paddle icon!)

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