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mattfrosty -> All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 4:04:05 AM)

Is it impossible to find a mistress who doesnt demand tribute?
Even if they dont mention it on their profile, on messengers I still get 'I will require tribute' within about 2mins of talking to them.Send money to some1 I dont know? Im not stupid. Why cant I find a mistress who just wants to own me and thats it?
Matt



MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 4:17:54 AM)

Yes, there are plenty of Dommes who don't require tribute.

However, finding and attracting one is going to require more effort on your part than spending 2 days online.

If you were a little more observant, you'd see how many whiney threads there are by male subs who want "insta-ownership with hot domme for kinky sex", and how often the mantra of "be patient, get invovled in your local scene, finding an ownership-level relationship takes time as it's parallel to finding a wife."  is repeated as the solution.

But again.  That would take effort and focus on your part.



MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 4:20:44 AM)

Read the post here by littlesarbonn regarding meeting a lifestyle, not a pro, domme.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_570341/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#570497



twicehappy -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 4:30:14 AM)

Not if all you are looking for is instakink.
 
I went and read your profile, nothing but your sexual/scene likes and dislikes, if all you are looking for is kink a prodomme who requires a tribute is your most likely outlet. Or try searching for a play partner only but then state that is what you are looking for. And if bottoming what you are looking for that is fine.
 
But if you are looking to be owned you need to list your vanilla interests, write about who you are, what you are going to be bringing to a relationship, what you are looking for out of same. What are your talents, how will you be pleasing, why should a Domme pick you?
 
I am sure LA will be here soon and post a list of threads for you to read on the subject but being owned generally entails much more than the fantasies you read of living in a cage like a pampered poodle only coming out for  sex/scene use.
 
 



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 6:51:15 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy
I am sure LA will be here soon and post a list of threads for you to read on the subject but being owned generally entails much more than the fantasies you read of living in a cage like a pampered poodle only coming out for  sex/scene use.
 

Despite appearances to the contrary, there are levels of masochism to which I do not endeavor.  Dragging up threads from whiny subs who just "want to be wuved now dammit!" goes way beyond my threshhold.



Caitriona -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 7:04:55 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
Despite appearances to the contrary, there are levels of masochism to which I do not endeavor.  Dragging up threads from whiny subs who just "want to be wuved now dammit!" goes way beyond my threshhold.


Good for you, LA!



twicehappy -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 7:07:54 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy
I am sure LA will be here soon and post a list of threads for you to read on the subject but being owned generally entails much more than the fantasies you read of living in a cage like a pampered poodle only coming out for  sex/scene use.
 

Despite appearances to the contrary, there are levels of masochism to which I do not endeavor.  Dragging up threads from whiny subs who just "want to be wuved now dammit!" goes way beyond my threshhold.


Runs to window to see if a blizzard has started or the sky is falling!
 
Lol, i actually think you giving folks links is helpful.



MzMinx -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 7:12:21 AM)

not all of us  desire or require tribute .... *smiles* ....   but most who are  not Pro Dommes ..... do desire more than kink ... so an online  profile has to reflect that .. or if they do seek just  bottom/more casual style of relationship .... they often find their play partners at real events .. where they can  chat and get to know each other etc ... in an  easier way



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 7:13:24 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy
Lol, i actually think you giving folks links is helpful.


Thanks, that's good to hear.  But, in this case I don't think it would be of any help or usefulness. 



littlesarbonn -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 7:50:01 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood

Read the post here by littlesarbonn regarding meeting a lifestyle, not a pro, domme.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_570341/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#570497


Thanks for the mention. I kind of got the impression I've been posting to the ether here sometimes because I'll respond to someone's original post with detailed information intended to help, and then the guy will respond to a one liner from a dominant woman who posts a "yeah, what he said", thanking her for the information.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 7:50:50 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mattfrosty

Is it impossible to find a mistress who doesnt demand tribute?

No, it is not impossible.

quote:

Even if they dont mention it on their profile, on messengers I still get 'I will require tribute' within about 2mins of talking to them.Send money to some1 I dont know? Im not stupid. Why cant I find a mistress who just wants to own me and thats it?


If you don't want to send tribute, then you know that these women are not the one you want. We have to weed through many subs/slave...so, too, will you have to weed. Keep at it. There's roses out there, I promise.

Master Fire



thetammyjo -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 8:12:23 AM)

I'll repeat this yet again.

If you constantly get responses that don't match what you are looking for you should take a serious look at what is attracting you to certain profiles.

If you are constantly only replying to profiles that are glossy and have sexy pictures with lots of hot or demanding language in them, perhaps you are finding prodoms or folks more interested in money.

Spend more time looking at the content of the profile and reading what they post in the forums before you approach someone. I'm betting that will improve your odds of finding someone more compatible.



twicehappy -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 8:50:18 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Thanks for the mention. I kind of got the impression I've been posting to the ether here sometimes because I'll respond to someone's original post with detailed information intended to help, and then the guy will respond to a one liner from a dominant woman who posts a "yeah, what he said", thanking her for the information.


Never, even though i rarely comment i do read all your posts, you are a good example of a male subbie, lol.



Misstoyou -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 8:27:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

... I'll respond to someone's original post with detailed information intended to help, and then the guy will respond to a one liner from a dominant woman who posts a "yeah, what he said", thanking her for the information.



That's because they're not trolling for you. [:D]



MagiksSlave -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 9:00:51 PM)

This kinda begs the question that if you are giveing a tribute then who really is in charge I mean if the Domme wants to keep getting the money she has to do what it is the sub is looking for and then in that case is that person relly the sub considering they hold all the cards and can just basicaly dicatate a scene???



MySweetSubmssive -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 9:13:12 PM)

What is it that you are offering a potential Dominant?



zero69u2 -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 9:39:41 PM)

Comments : your 20 years old.  you've been on site 2 days.. and your expecting results.
it ain't happening. nobody is writing..

your profile needs to be rewrote with a bit more who you are. what would set you head and shoulders above other subs. your positive qualitys.
perhaps some pictures of you gardening, doing house chores, washing dishes..
whatever it is that domme's would find attractive in a young submissive.
i have no idea ask mistress in ask mistress message board. what qualitys they find appealing in a young 20 inexperienced submissive male. some of them might like virgins.. who knows. anyways take some of their advice and incorperate it into your profile if it fits you.

Good for you.. not falling into the clutches of the online tribute snatcher.
your showing your wisdom and intellect spirit. :)







MistressSassy66 -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 9:58:07 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

This kinda begs the question that if you are giveing a tribute then who really is in charge I mean if the Domme wants to keep getting the money she has to do what it is the sub is looking for and then in that case is that person relly the sub considering they hold all the cards and can just basicaly dicatate a scene???



As a Pro-Domme I have to reply to this statement here....I do ask what their likes are and I have them fill out a form(2 actually) on what they like,dont like or are willing to try on their 1st visit.I do that for the ones I have seen that didnt pay.
BUT Make no mistake I AM IN CHARGE Just because they like it doesnt mean they will get it.Its part of being Safe,Sane and CONSENTUAL.
Infact I would say a good 90% of the time when I ask what shall I do with you today they say and I quote"whatever YOU want,YOUR the Mistress" unquote.

Do not for one minute think the submissive/slave is in charge just because they get "something" like. A few of My boys get what they dont like when they have that attitude,I can tell you it doesnt take long to cure that affliction.
I love My TENs unit.... [sm=lol.gif]



Owned1 -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/11/2006 10:09:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mattfrosty

Is it impossible to find a mistress who doesnt demand tribute?
Even if they dont mention it on their profile, on messengers I still get 'I will require tribute' within about 2mins of talking to them.Send money to some1 I dont know? Im not stupid. Why cant I find a mistress who just wants to own me and thats it?
Matt



matt, its like when you go to the pet store, you have to pay to purchase a dog/cat/rabbit etc.  If you want to be owned you have to pay cause you eat more than a pet does, never mind the clothes you wear, shaving cream, razors, well you get the idea.

Keep trying and dont forget to barter, yanno there is always the list price and the lowest price.  As well I think the 15th of the month is half price day.

Owned



Contesaluv -> RE: All I want is to be owned, not tribute (9/12/2006 2:53:09 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy

Not if all you are looking for is instakink.
 
I went and read your profile, nothing but your sexual/scene likes and dislikes, if all you are looking for is kink a prodomme who requires a tribute is your most likely outlet. Or try searching for a play partner only but then state that is what you are looking for. And if bottoming what you are looking for that is fine.
 
But if you are looking to be owned you need to list your vanilla interests, write about who you are, what you are going to be bringing to a relationship, what you are looking for out of same. What are your talents, how will you be pleasing, why should a Domme pick you?
 
I am sure LA will be here soon and post a list of threads for you to read on the subject but being owned generally entails much more than the fantasies you read of living in a cage like a pampered poodle only coming out for  sex/scene use.
 
 


I love reading your posts.  Sometimes I get ready to reply to the OP and decide to read a little further before I do.  Once I read yours I see that you what you have written pretty much sums it up.  I will add that as a real Mistress who is not a Pro, I DO NOT require tribute.  What I require is that a sub that's looking for me to collar them have patience and continue to stay in touch with me, allow me to get to know them by sending me emails and chatting when I'm online and, just show a continued interest if I've provided all those personal methods for them to communicate with me.  I will test them out over time to see if they're going to be obedient and do as I request but the tribute part, I've got my own money and there are lots of times that I struggle financially but I figured so does t he majority of the rest of the world.  I do expect that they are self-sufficient in that way, having their own means of funds and that if they want 24/7 they are going to continue to work and contribute to the household.  However, I haven't even gotten there yet and would not enter into a 24/7 very lightly.  For me, that's a huge responsibility for me and a big commitment on both parts that shouldn't be handled lightly.



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