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BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, aka "love at first sight?" (9/18/2006 9:47:41 AM)

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ORIGINAL: tade
I literally could not breathe the first time I saw my wife.We don't have much in common, no real reason that we should love each other but we do more so than most people ever do.
I loved reading this.  It brought me a smile, thanks.   M



blackwinterbyrd -> RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, aka "love at first sight?" (9/18/2006 4:14:33 PM)

absolutely.  but was it infatuation?  I'm not sure, I fell hard and fast and I'd do it again in a minute.  Still here, still madly in love.  And apparently, so is my Girl ;)    It's *pertaining*, dear.  Though I appreciate your eloquence.  



closertonova -> RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, aka "love at first sight?" (9/18/2006 5:35:10 PM)

my Master and i did this, we went from talking online a little, to this whorlwind explosion. Because of our amazing comfort level and complete honesty we took this familiarity and exploited it in our favor, one day we were talking online, the next day niether of us sleeping, and talking all night on the phone. He had planned to move up near me and His family in the nebulous future, He made this move three weeks after we started talking. we over-planned escape routes and things to make us have that safety net we had both needed with others. He came and we have not been far apart since, i have worried about every detail and every  misstep but He looks me in the eyes and says we have forever to get things right, and i know hes right. We have that amazing energy and comfort with each other and we simply talk honestly all the time and work through any issues we hit, together. It hasn't been butterflies and lollypops the whole time but this is forever for us.
I never saw this coming, I dated like most order dinner, funniest thing is He is so unlike anything i have ever been with, its been crazy.



Sinergy -> RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, aka "love at first sight?" (9/18/2006 7:05:56 PM)

Hello A/all,

I have felt love at first sight, when it was not really lust at first sight.

What puzzled me after the second year of our relationship was how diligently she was willing to work to snatch defeat (end of the relationship) from the jaws of victory (making a life with the person she referred to as her soul-mate)

I am not one of those people who think there is only one soul mate for each person.

Just me, could be wrong, etc.

Sinergy



gandalf0297 -> RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, aka "love at first sight?" (9/19/2006 7:16:17 AM)

yup. no doubt about it. and it has happened to me most recently.and yes I know all about the newness syndrome.Fact of the matter is its a wonderful feeling and one I wish everyone could experiance.
Gandalf



MstrssPassion -> RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, aka "love at first sight?" (9/19/2006 8:44:11 AM)

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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

I'm just curious how many of you felt an instant connection or a "love at first sight" type feeling when you met your partner.

Obviously "love" , true love, is something that takes time and trust to build. But what I'm referring to is that feeling of "I've known you all my life" or feeling instantly "at home" with someone as if you'd been involved with them for years.


I can't say that this happened "at first site" since I am not a shallow person. What I experienced was that other saying... "when you met the right one, you'll just know". I had always thought this expression was kind of silly or just some sort of thing that is said to soften the edge off the reality that you're currently alone in the world.

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If you did have that instant feeling of connection, did it last or did it just burn passionately for a short time and then dissipate?


We've been a couple for over 3 yrs (2 yrs 24/7) & going strong... every day together has the same spark it did as the first day.

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I ask because I met a wonderful dominant this weekend whom I had been corresponding with via phone and email for a couple of weeks and as soon as I met him, I felt as if he were my best friend. I was just immediately comfortable with him. We spent the night hanging out and cuddling on  his bed watching movies like an old married couple.


How did you feel before you met? I ask this because I spent several months getting to know my partner & I sensed something very special before our first face to face meeting. Another reason why I rephrased your original question... sight had nothing to do with the feelings. I knew there was something special before we actually met.

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After hanging out for several hours,we eventually proceeded to become physically intimate and there was none of the awkwardess that usually accompanie a first encounter with a new partner. It was like we just "read" each other perfectly. It was the oddest experience of my life, but also one of the most pleasant.

I spent the majority of the weekend with him and I just feel this amazing connection such as I've never felt before (not even with my ex husband.) It was just WEIRD.

So I guess I'm just wandering how many others have gone through that and how it worked out for them. I don't want to fall head over heels for this guy too quickly but I'm having a very hard time keeping my feelings in check. I don't want to become too infatuated too quickly and then get hurt...but things just feel so RIGHT with him! I've had plenty of lovers/sex partners in my past but never felt anything like this before.

Has anyone else had a similiar experience?


The real answer to everything you are asking now is how do the phone calls & emails "feel" now? How will the next time together turn out.

Those warm fuzzy feelings are something that each & every one of us have felt & can feel again with new partners... the validation as to the reality of those feelings being more than just warm fuzzies will only been revealed over time.  Good luck to you & your new friend.

<edited to add> I went back & read a little more of the thread & saw that you did go back for another visit. How did it go???

I also saw that you live 3 hours apart... that really isn't too bad. My partner & I were a little over 4 hours away from each other. We managed to get together every weekend. I was extremely fortunate to get a promotion at work that offered me a set schedule with weekends off right about the same time we started dating. Don't let such a minor thing as 3 hours be a frustration... for goodness sake... you both only need to drive 1.5 hours in order to see each other. Plan having dinner/or a meal of some type together during the week. Go to a park & hang out... see a movie, whatever. This will also strengthen the relationship since it will prevent you both from falling into the "intimate" exchanges so easily. As you mature & as your relationships take on a much more solid grounding... you'll find out that there is a whole lot more to finding a perfect partner & the sparks that are created by this than the sparks that are created by two sweaty naked bodies. (not that this is a bad thing... it just isn't a priority. Compatibility & mutual creativity is far more erotic than raw-hot-funky-sex.)



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