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Becoming experienced - 1/9/2005 9:45:07 PM

naillah

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Would a good way for a Master to become experienced, be by being trained by another master, or finding a patient slave?

I just don't know where to begin!

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RE: Becoming experienced - 1/10/2005 2:15:17 AM

sub4hire

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Start reading every bit of lifestyle information you can find. Go to munches to meet real people. Don't assume everything you hear or learn in a chat room is gospel. More often than not the lifestyle doesn't work that way at all.
Just get out and meet people. Tell the host at the munch you are new. They will introduce you around.

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RE: Becoming experienced - 1/10/2005 3:42:09 AM

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Gloria is so right on!!! reading and asking questions can only do so much. Going to munches and play parties give You so much more. for one trhing You can find what You are interested in and then You can find someone to teach You how to do it and still be safe

i saw the cutest thing the other night after a munch. A new couple had attended. After the munch a bunch of us went to a private home. It was pretty clear that He was very interested and she just didn't know what to think. To her credit she was an open minded person. It was so cute and refreshing to see thier reaction to some of the things discussed but even more so to see thier reaction to some of the impromptu demos.
she even got an ity bity taste of bondage. i think she is hooked and i know He is lol

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RE: Becoming experienced - 1/11/2005 9:34:01 PM

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I agree with liljoy and sub4hire. But I also think that there's a lot to be said for finding an experienced dom to mentor you... yes, you may find yourself disagreeing with some of his practices and/or beliefs, but that in and of itself will be a learning experience. I know a couple of doms in ltr M/s relationships who happily guide new doms. By getting out and meeting people, you can find out who's earned respect in a group over time, which tends to mean quite a lot, from what i've seen.
There are a couple of books which come to mind, too... "Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns," (don't recall the authors) and "The Loving Dominant" by John Warren are good picks. And castlerealm.com has (or at least had.. i haven't been to the site in quite a while) a lot of good information.
But, like the other girls said, spending time in the local scene is a great way to go.
And.. it's kinda like learning to swim: you don't just jump off a boat in the middle of the ocean; you take your time to learn the basics and advance from there.
Good luck, and enjoy the journey! :) ~daisy~

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RE: Becoming experienced - 1/13/2005 1:52:04 PM

masterofsolace

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Finding an experienced Master or for a Dom a submissive is all inportant. Second is honesty to the level of experence a person has, in real time.

It is find and good to read everything possible about the lifestyle but in the end experince can only come from hands on actual experince.

Those with experince need to realize that perhaps we might wish to share our "knowledge" as best we can, reallizing that sometimes we might need to help a newbie in gaining needed experince and not go on our high horse on how it is beneath us to help someone new.

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RE: Becoming experienced - 1/13/2005 2:43:28 PM

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But I also think that there's a lot to be said for finding an experienced dom to mentor you... yes, you may find yourself disagreeing with some of his practices and/or beliefs, but that in and of itself will be a learning experience.

A mentor is usually someone you respect for whatever reason. Why, would you disagree with anything a mentor told you? Even if say you find it morally objectionable. Would you disagree? Most people, and yes while there are some good mentor's out there. Some are downright not mentor's. Like the ones who advertise, hey contact me I'll be your mentor. These type's will tell you that you are not submissive or Dominant if you do not agree with their spoken word.

I've seen it happen so many times. Finding a good mentor is probably as hard as finding a good Dom.

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