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how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/15/2006 8:49:52 AM   
bethane


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suddenly this one has Masters coming out the woodwork and does  not know how to deal with all this attention ..
girl trys to be polite to A/all  but some dont derserve to be treated even with a curt reply  girl does  not desire to appear rude but  some times  its so hard

nihad
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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/15/2006 8:55:47 AM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		You figure out your own system of needs and wants.  What you would like in a mate.  Once you get that done you then start eliminating them...one by one.
Before I found Doug I literally went through thousands.  At the time I chose him those thousands were narrowed to a top 3.
Bask in it..its great for self esteem.
When they are not right for you be honest.  The children in the bunch will get nasty with you but children are not dominant anyway.  A dominant will take it the right way.

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/15/2006 9:24:24 AM   
SweetSarijane


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Status: offline 		Ignoring, blocking, saying sorry not interested to those who don't fit. Just because they claim to be a Dom/Master doesn't mean you have to submit or defer to them. It's your choice whether or not to talk to them. All they are online is typed words on a screen. Figure out what you want and need in a Master and focus on the ones who may fit that and let the others, rude pushy overbearing, fade away.

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/15/2006 9:26:02 AM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear bethane, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Sounds like you are quite attractive as to get these pests coming out of the wood work.  Sounds like a can of RAID (bug spray) could help.
[Chuckles]
 
Sometimes RAID can really help weed through the pesky buggers.
R - Respond with hard to answer questions to as the Dominants, something that takes great thought, experience and depth of character.
 
A - Ask the questions that burn in your gut, as to satisfy your gut instincts or not.
 
I - Insist on being consistant with your gut instincts, to include being as demanding in your mind as to find the excellent canidates for a match.
 
D - Determine what is best for you first.  Be determined to stay solid on what is your deal breakers, what you'll compromise in and what you have in your dreams and destiny as being your journey to find your happiness or bliss.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/15/2006 9:49:16 AM   
Phoenixandnika


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Status: offline 		bethane, 
 
When I first came to CM I felt obligated to answer every email message someone sent to me. That so tiresome and teadious and as you said some did not warrant a reply.

After a month or so I realized that I am not obligated to answer anyone’s emails. I started deleting 1-liners, out of staters, or those Doms who said stupid things like " you can offer me your IM or phone number". Although some of the more off the wall once I still may reply to in a sarcastic manner, simply to "toy" with them as my Master says.

In the end you have to decide how YOU can get the most from a site such as CM.



< Message edited by Phoenixandnika -- 9/15/2006 9:50:55 AM >

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/15/2006 10:37:00 AM   
ayasha


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Status: offline 		Usually the number of Dominants that contact you is related to how your profile is worded.  If your profile states clearly that you are seeking a Master, then many Masters seeking a slave are going to respond.  It might help to be more specific in what you are seeking - do they need to live in the same country; do you want them to be within a certain age bracket; does it matter if they have children or want children; do you care if they are poly; etc.  You could also ask a couple of trusted friends, both Dominant and submissive, to give you constructive feedback on your profile. 

Are you new to the lifestyle, or experienced?  Are you ready to seek a Master at this time? 

one wishes you well on your journey..................................

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/15/2006 10:39:21 AM   
Phoenixandnika


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Status: offline 		The pictures you have up also play a HUGE part in the number and type of emails you receive, in my opinion.

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/15/2006 10:44:25 AM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		Since you desire to become a Gorean slave I would pose the question to other Goreans. I have no idea what protocol is for dealing with people in your chosen lifepath. The  rules I live under tell me I do not owe a damn thing to strangers, and a nonresponse is an answer (just not the one they wanted..smiles).

Goreans may have a different way of viewing the matter....I would investigate that and decide if the Gorean pathway was one you really wanted to travel.

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/15/2006 10:48:14 AM   
NastyDaddy


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Status: offline 		Eureka!

I think the biggest problem with Masters contacting you MIGHT BE related to the wording of your profile, specifically the part that says:

"Girl is known as bethane and is slave girl seeks a Master..." 

Perhaps they merely drew the wrong impression from what it is that you really want?

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/15/2006 11:21:42 AM   
RedSavageSlave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHugs

Dear bethane, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Sounds like you are quite attractive as to get these pests coming out of the wood work.  Sounds like a can of RAID (bug spray) could help.
[Chuckles]
 
Sometimes RAID can really help weed through the pesky buggers.
R - Respond with hard to answer questions to as the Dominants, something that takes great thought, experience and depth of character.
 
A - Ask the questions that burn in your gut, as to satisfy your gut instincts or not.
 
I - Insist on being consistant with your gut instincts, to include being as demanding in your mind as to find the excellent canidates for a match.
 
D - Determine what is best for you first.  Be determined to stay solid on what is your deal breakers, what you'll compromise in and what you have in your dreams and destiny as being your journey to find your happiness or bliss.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs


Lady Hugs.. may I please have your permission to use this on another forum ?  I will happily give you credit for being author if you wish..

Thank you!

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/15/2006 11:48:54 AM   
sub4hire


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ayasha

Usually the number of Dominants that contact you is related to how your profile is worded.  If your profile states clearly that you are seeking a Master, then many Masters seeking a slave are going to respond. 


Anyone who has been on these board's long enough and read enough of the threads know that it doesn't matter if your profile is empty.  Or what your profile says.  People are still going to contact you.
The thread about...why can't people read has to be one of the number one thread's here.
I do agree with photo's.  People don't have to read to see eye candy they happen to like.

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/16/2006 6:27:27 PM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		*laughs!*  When i was 20 and weighed 98 lbs i used to cry and moan that i couldn't find any clothes for my tiny frame.  30 years and 30 lbs later i can see how it was really not the kind of problem i should have complained about. 

Dear, some of us would like to find any decent, serious Master's email.


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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/16/2006 9:30:19 PM   
OhReallyNow


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quote:

ORIGINAL: bethane

A/all

suddenly this one has Masters coming out the woodwork and does  not know how to deal with all this attention ..
girl trys to be polite to A/all  but some dont derserve to be treated even with a curt reply  girl does  not desire to appear rude but  some times  its so hard

nihad

before this slave met Master, she dealt with them in much the same way she would have in real life. Those who showed kindness and respect towards her, received the same in return. Those who showed rudeness, were shown rude behavior in return
 
this slave is pretty easy-going when it comes to dealing with rudeness, but even she has limits in regards to that

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/16/2006 9:33:50 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		It's a nasty situation, and most exterminators don't know how to handle it.  Some people recommend those ultrasonic things that emit high-pitched squeaks that only vermin can hear.  But if you find a solution, by all means let the public know.  Masters coming out of the woodwork is a serious health hazard in American homes.

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ORIGINAL: bethane

suddenly this one has Masters coming out the woodwork and does  not know how to deal with all this attention ..

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/16/2006 9:36:39 PM   
OhReallyNow


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quote:

It's a nasty situation, and most exterminators don't know how to handle it.  Some people recommend those ultrasonic things that emit high-pitched squeaks that only vermin can hear.  But if you find a solution, by all means let the public know.  Masters coming out of the woodwork is a serious health hazard in American homes.

LOL
this slave got a chuckle over that

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/16/2006 11:21:32 PM   
cacodylic


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

It's a nasty situation, and most exterminators don't know how to handle it.  Some people recommend those ultrasonic things that emit high-pitched squeaks that only vermin can hear.  But if you find a solution, by all means let the public know.  Masters coming out of the woodwork is a serious health hazard in American homes.

quote:

ORIGINAL: bethane

suddenly this one has Masters coming out the woodwork and does  not know how to deal with all this attention ..


I've heard that plugging the entry holes with a mixture of patching plaster and lots of steel wool tends to keep pests out.
hmmmmmmmmm

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/17/2006 9:23:07 AM   
Sunshine119


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHugs

Dear bethane, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Sounds like you are quite attractive as to get these pests coming out of the wood work.  Sounds like a can of RAID (bug spray) could help.
[Chuckles]
 
Sometimes RAID can really help weed through the pesky buggers.
R - Respond with hard to answer questions to as the Dominants, something that takes great thought, experience and depth of character.
 
A - Ask the questions that burn in your gut, as to satisfy your gut instincts or not.
 
I - Insist on being consistant with your gut instincts, to include being as demanding in your mind as to find the excellent canidates for a match.
 
D - Determine what is best for you first.  Be determined to stay solid on what is your deal breakers, what you'll compromise in and what you have in your dreams and destiny as being your journey to find your happiness or bliss.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs


Lady Hugs, this is the wisest advice I think I've seen for newbies getting the mailboxes full of replies.  I'll have to remember this for the future!  Absolutely priceless!


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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/17/2006 9:27:07 AM   
PrimitiveLogic


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Status: offline 		Fishing is called fishing, because otherwise; it would be called catching.
Psst you are the fish..choose the hook wisely.

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/17/2006 10:40:00 AM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear RedSavageSlave, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Certainly can pass along the can of RAID along to other venues with my permission. 
 
Lady Hugs

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RE: how do yiu deal with Masters coming out the woodwork - 9/17/2006 12:04:08 PM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		Doggone it!!!  I haven't had one Dom come out of my woodwork....

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