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Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/10/2005 3:14:05 PM   
LadyTantalize


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Status: offline 		OK, I admit I know this place and others is full of trollers, spammers, bullshit artists and the like, but there are decent, sincere folk here, but sheeeeesh, why is this necessary.....

A private email to Me here......

from "xxxxxxx"

"Oh wow, your so hot! Give me a break you dumb loser. What you need is a man to tie you up and give your the flogging of your cheap life!


My response was one word.... "WHY"? I post here to merely done to warn others of this freak of nature, and yes, to vent....

so, f*#%k you idiot, and go get a life!!

Am I breaking rules here by relaying this? I do feel others need to know when these terrible type of threats are sent - it's malicious!

Why do some feel the need to attempt to ruin things for others???


Truly,

Lady T. - successful and beautiful !!!!!


Edited by ModOne - please don't post the names of other users when speaking about them in an inflammatory manner.


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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/10/2005 3:23:28 PM   
stef


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ORIGINAL: LadyTantalize

Am I breaking rules here by relaying this?

Yes. Just block him. If you truly felt threatened in some way, send a note to the Mods and let them deal with him.

~stef


< Message edited by sfgrrl -- 1/10/2005 3:24:10 PM >

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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/10/2005 3:24:36 PM   
liltxsubby


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Status: offline 		the best thing to do (at the risk of saying somethng that will probably be said a million more times and has been said a million times before to similiar posts) report to the mods.

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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/10/2005 3:43:48 PM   
perverseangelic


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Status: offline 		I'm a vindicitive bitch, so what I do is post the offensive stuff in my journal. Collarme is alright with that if you REMOVE THE HANDLE of the person.

I do that with horrid e-mail and horrid conversations, because it makes me feel better. Just make sure that you make it obvious that you've replaced the handle with a made-up one.

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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/10/2005 6:37:30 PM   
nella


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Status: offline 		There are many trolls in the forest. Lucky for me i am from Norway, so Trolls i am used to, our mytology is full of them.

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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/12/2005 11:26:17 AM   
Mytimetoserve


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Status: offline 		Dear Lady Tantalize,

Did it cross your mind that you may be dealing with a person who is quite jealous of who and what you have? Many men get quite frustrated at repeated rejection, and by setting rules in your profile, they know they will be eliminated immediately from consideration.

I'm sure you realize that you are a stunningly beautiful woman, and many men here resent the fact they have virtually no chance of acceptance by a domme who excites them physically. I wouldn't pay too much attention to them. You know who you are, and what you want, unfortunately, you cannot control those that would bring your photo up and fantasize of letting you dominate them.

Just do what others have suggested, and block them so they don't harrass you.

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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/12/2005 11:54:38 AM   
RealityFix


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Status: offline 		Trolls live to be fed.

It's best if you just block them, and don't reply. It hurts them when thier pathetic pleas for attention go unanswered.

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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/12/2005 2:36:46 PM   
Suleiman


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quote:

ORIGINAL: nella

There are many trolls in the forest. Lucky for me i am from Norway, so Trolls i am used to, our mytology is full of them.


Alas, these trolls have found ways to hide from the light of day, so the only way to get rid of them for good is to find their lairs and trick them into revealing the location of that one sword you can use to cut their heads off with...

...although in some cases, at least in chatroom situations (or so I have been told), exposing them as frauds has much the same effect as touching them with rays of sunlight. Personally, however, I don't think it works as well, because like grendel's dam, the attacks begin again a few days later under a different name

Of course, maybe I'm just reading too much into the analogy

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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/12/2005 3:49:00 PM   
nella


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Status: offline 		Werry true Suleiman

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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/13/2005 6:20:04 PM   
NATI


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Status: offline 		Lady T -

I think some have a rejection fetish. They just say those things that are going to guarantee an absolute no - ignoring them counts as a "no", and they bounce from one domme to the next slurping up the "nos".

I think the best advice though, is to ignore them. It's not worth the time it takes to fire off a reply - and why encourage it?

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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/14/2005 7:37:37 AM   
masterofsolace


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Status: offline 		Ignore those you need to ignore.

As it is email is a very poor communication tool and even in good times things get lost in the traslation. I myself have been accused in this regard, and in backing up the conversation and attempting to explain what I was saying only seemed to dig in deeper into the hole of massive miscummunication that I was already in.

As for trolls and people who do not speak the truth, time weeds them out.

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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/14/2005 1:04:55 PM   
LadyTantalize


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Status: offline 		My sincere thanks to E/everyone who responded!!! Possibly, the mere venting of the situation has eased My anger at the troll involved. I've blocked him and he's blocked Me, so we're done! *smiles*

When making My post, I did use his profile name, to which the mods deleted. So, he's been reported and otherwise.

I can understand the comments of jealousy! (And thanks to those who gave Me some lovely compliments - Y/you are all too kind in that regard - thank Y/you!!!) And, I even see the point about the rejection fetish - to each his own, I guess!

Anyway, thank you again to all for the supportive comments. If folks with sincerity that makes these boards the great resource and enjoyment that they are meant to be!!!!

Lady T.

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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/15/2005 3:32:16 AM   
angelinafemdom


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Status: offline 		Hi Lady Tantalize,

The same thing happens to me and it is a pain in the neck. I have learned there is more going on with the person that has nothing at all to do with you or me.

I have found no reply at all is one of the best ways to handle that. Sometimes people are seeking something to fuel their fire and a response is just like adding gas to a fire that is already burning.

For the most part, I try to respond to all of my e-mail and might toss a curve ball and just agree on a very superficial level just for fun.

If you read my journals you will see where a vanilla person can be the worst person to do things like the guy did to you. I don’t keep a current photo of myself on my profile because of it. –Angelina Femdom (aka: Petteacher)


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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/15/2005 3:29:17 PM   
Rick49


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Status: offline 		I've heard this before, surely a true submnssive male is respectful at all times, actually even a vanilla male, what was the point in that awful email?

A true dominat yet feminine woman is a jewel to behold and omne with a passion for sadism to be treasured beyond belief :)

sorry any ladies viewing this reply, my apologies in advance

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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/15/2005 7:39:06 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


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From: Arizona
Status: offline 		Lady T,
I have also had the occasional email of this nature. I laugh and ignore it., If it persists, I then will block the offender. Often, when one feels he/she must write in a cruel and judgemental manner, that person is really referring to him/herself. So I would turn this around and say that he needs a break because he is a big loser and desires a Lady to give him the flogging of his cheap life!
Yes, it is unecessary, and I wonder at these people who browse profiles just so they can waste their time and Mine writing a meaningless email.
Your photo is lovely, and your profile is quite clear and to the point! Kudos!

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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/15/2005 8:16:29 PM   
DiamondDiva


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From: North Carolina
Status: offline 		I would just ignore them. Some are looking for attention and some just don't have real lives and nothing better to do. I wouldn't allow them to take up any of my energy. Dismiss them and keep going.



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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/17/2005 10:43:37 AM   
servantnj


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Joined: 3/3/2004
Status: offline 		personally i love trolls, and here is why.

On collarme.com there are 10 submissive males to every dominant female. Lets for second assume that Domme wants to have only one sub/slave, that makes my chances low. Now if we take out 4-5 of the trolls, 1-2 submissive but can be dom to right person, 1-2 who would do anything for their Mistress, and 1-2 of those who are submissive but only when behind their keyboard. Wow, my chances just increased dramatically. I love them, and thank them here publically for all what they have done for submisives around the world. oh did i forget those who think "fucking women in boots" is core of BDSM? ok, soon we submisives will become endengered species and the odds will be changed.....excellent.....


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RE: Why do some have to ruin things????? - 1/22/2005 8:11:26 AM   
MsHoney2you


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ORIGINAL: DiamondDiva

I would just ignore them. Some are looking for attention and some just don't have real lives and nothing better to do. I wouldn't allow them to take up any of my energy. Dismiss them and keep going.




Great advice Diva. No purpose to ask 'why?' someone does something. They did it, it's now your move to do something or not. I choose the delete key readily available on every keyboard and don't give it a second thought. That particular person's POV is not acceptable to me so moving on in MY LIFE is to MY best interest!

Ms Honey

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