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Dnomyar -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 9:30:45 AM)

Cuddleheart quit fishing. The way to a mans heart is thru his stomac. If you can't cook then keep fishing.




BlkTallFullfig -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 10:26:57 AM)

These boys don't know what they're missing in being too flaky to show up and get to know you/your family.
All I can offer are understanding hugs, and say that "I feel your pain" my friends.  [sm=flowers.gif] M




littlesarbonn -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 10:48:14 AM)

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ORIGINAL: twicehappy

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ORIGINAL: NastyDaddy

She used every ploy imagineable and often conducted her search here on the message board too.  It seemed like she actually ran more malesubs away than she attracted, and her search became a running worn out joke/leather poly benefits debate.


ND, if you read the post you should have realized it was written very tongue in cheek; it was sparked by a past suggestion of LA's. I have asked a lot of questions about male subs on the boards because they are an unfamiliar animal to me. I really do not grasp a lot of their requirements so i hope for info from those who do. There are very few male subs who read the boards; i search for them on the other side here as well as numerous other locations.
 
If there was a recruitment board i probably would not be on it. I started searching for Jewel's male on my own simply because i have no personal involvement in it so would not get my feelings hurt. As long as the one she ends up with is loving and treats her well it does not matter to me who she picks as there will never be more than a family connection between us. Much like I pick the best pieces of meat off a roast to give them to her I am picking through the male subs available so she only has to deal with those that are appealing to her and are  possible future household members.
 
 


Being a sincere male submissive is somewhat of a mixed bag. There are a lot of those who claim to be sincere, but a lot are game players or are mainly seeking something immediate rather than long term that requires a lot of effort on their part over time. I've been seeking a dominant for some time now, but somewhat half-heartedly mainly because it's never really been all that successful of a search. Every time I think I've found someone who is sincere on her end, I end up in the usual quandaries which are:

1. I'm too far away.
2. She's overwhelmed by the numbers of submissives applying, so I get turned down because her inbox is so overflowed that it may take her years to get through them all.
3. She has a list of 94 things that need to be perfect, but I failed number 18 and 72. Then she posts that finding someone is so difficult these days.

The funny thing is: If I hadn't actually had a submissive lifestyle before signing onto collarme that lasted many years of my previous life, collarme would probably have completely ended my involvement in this lifestyle completely. It ends up being a very negative environment, no matter how positive you try to remain. For a male submissive, from a rational choice perspective, the most obvious avenue would be to leave bdsm completely and buy a puppy. Come to think of it, that sounds like a pretty good idea. Puppies are cool.




LaTigresse -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 11:22:23 AM)

And if you get a girl puppy they usually won't hump your leg![:D]........or lift theirs..........

I think that is benji's cue.




joyinslavery -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 11:37:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy

quote:

ORIGINAL: NastyDaddy

She used every ploy imagineable and often conducted her search here on the message board too.  It seemed like she actually ran more malesubs away than she attracted, and her search became a running worn out joke/leather poly benefits debate.


ND, if you read the post you should have realized it was written very tongue in cheek; it was sparked by a past suggestion of LA's. I have asked a lot of questions about male subs on the boards because they are an unfamiliar animal to me. I really do not grasp a lot of their requirements so i hope for info from those who do. There are very few male subs who read the boards; i search for them on the other side here as well as numerous other locations.
 
If there was a recruitment board i probably would not be on it. I started searching for Jewel's male on my own simply because i have no personal involvement in it so would not get my feelings hurt. As long as the one she ends up with is loving and treats her well it does not matter to me who she picks as there will never be more than a family connection between us. Much like I pick the best pieces of meat off a roast to give them to her I am picking through the male subs available so she only has to deal with those that are appealing to her and are  possible future household members.
 
 


Being a sincere male submissive is somewhat of a mixed bag. There are a lot of those who claim to be sincere, but a lot are game players or are mainly seeking something immediate rather than long term that requires a lot of effort on their part over time. I've been seeking a dominant for some time now, but somewhat half-heartedly mainly because it's never really been all that successful of a search. Every time I think I've found someone who is sincere on her end, I end up in the usual quandaries which are:

1. I'm too far away.
2. She's overwhelmed by the numbers of submissives applying, so I get turned down because her inbox is so overflowed that it may take her years to get through them all.
3. She has a list of 94 things that need to be perfect, but I failed number 18 and 72. Then she posts that finding someone is so difficult these days.

The funny thing is: If I hadn't actually had a submissive lifestyle before signing onto collarme that lasted many years of my previous life, collarme would probably have completely ended my involvement in this lifestyle completely. It ends up being a very negative environment, no matter how positive you try to remain. For a male submissive, from a rational choice perspective, the most obvious avenue would be to leave bdsm completely and buy a puppy. Come to think of it, that sounds like a pretty good idea. Puppies are cool.



Well said littlesarbonn and your words ring so true for me as well.  Of course, I don't think it's a CollarMe thing but simply an online / dominant thing.  As it happens, CollarMe just ends up being a bit more of a disappointment given the sites 'legit' reputation that seems a little overblown. 

It's strange to me and a bit amusing to see this original post.  Personally, for any number of reasons, I don't have too much sympathy for the majority of dominants that say they can't find someone.  You though my submissive brother are different and I empathize with you and your plight. 

And you know what, I think you're right - puppies really ARE cool.   




NastyDaddy -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 12:01:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy

quote:

ORIGINAL: NastyDaddy

She used every ploy imagineable and often conducted her search here on the message board too.  It seemed like she actually ran more malesubs away than she attracted, and her search became a running worn out joke/leather poly benefits debate.


ND, if you read the post you should have realized it was written very tongue in cheek; it was sparked by a past suggestion of LA's. I have asked a lot of questions about male subs on the boards because they are an unfamiliar animal to me. I really do not grasp a lot of their requirements so i hope for info from those who do. There are very few male subs who read the boards; i search for them on the other side here as well as numerous other locations.
 
If there was a recruitment board i probably would not be on it. I started searching for Jewel's male on my own simply because i have no personal involvement in it so would not get my feelings hurt. As long as the one she ends up with is loving and treats her well it does not matter to me who she picks as there will never be more than a family connection between us. Much like I pick the best pieces of meat off a roast to give them to her I am picking through the male subs available so she only has to deal with those that are appealing to her and are  possible future household members.


th, if you read my post you should have realized it referred to a former message board sub named strormy, not you... unless you are actually stormy resurrected again as twicehappy?. 

I have nothing against a "little" tongue-in-cheek... such can actually be amusing and even refreshing. But after awhile the tongue-in-cheek "search" just becomes yet another trolling post.  If I allowed a female sub/slave I owned to post regular tongue-in-cheek posts as she searched for a new sub/slave for me... to perform a "weeding" process on my behalf, then sooner rather than later I would have to deal with other's "mean and vicious" observations of her apparent lack of understanding that the message board TOS also applies to her, as others would be pointing out to her.

Tongue-in-cheek is tongue-in-cheek, but same ol' same ol' repeated tongue-in-cheek... including dedicated threads for the "search" tend to wear the tongue-in-cheek adorned search thinner and thinner.  Should you desire to continue your self-appointed mission, that's strictly up to you of course... provided the search doesn't constitute a TOS double-standard in fellow board member's purviews. 

Perhaps LA was dropping a big hint... in a subtle tongue-in-cheek way?  In the same tongue-in-cheek vein of thought, perhaps all unowned female subs/slaves can start taking care of NastyDaddy's "meat"?  [;)]

The simple criterion are as follows:

Now I am not searching for a stable of subbies, nor a swarm of SAMs , nor a school of switches, nor a covey of masculinated females, nor a flock of forced lesbians , nor a colony of cyber cunts, nor a herd of humiliate me's , nor a den of do me's, nor a mass of marrieds , nor a squad of sociopaths.

(Not that Daddy has anything against any of these, Daddy has many friends who fit in these categories)

Daddy is simply searching for one stable female subbie addition.

She can be slightly twisted; Daddy would prefer that she is.

She can be semi sarcastic, Daddy enjoys sarcasm as humor.

She needs to be piquantly perverted as is Daddy.

I would say the first and most important thing she needs to be capable of is to simply show up.

She needs to be from the USA, not Turkey or Greece or Timbuktu.

It cannot be you stormy as (cute as you were) under any name, unless you show up on the doorstep prepared to suffer severely for your sins. (Doms do talk dear.)

I have shopped at Wal-Mart, Kmart, Supersubbiemart, biker bashes, a mass of munches, a plethora of play groups, yard sales and flea markets.

I have gone on unicorn hunts, subbie snipe hunts, hell I have even tried mass mailings for the perfect female subbie addition.

So, my question of the day is…..Where do I look now?

To the female subbies out there what are you looking for?

What is it that you need, where are you hiding?

Hmmmmm……anybody know where they hold regular female sub/slave auctions and if you do are they returnable for cash or a store credit?

Any of you who have been frustrated in your own search feel free to vent here or add advice as well.

So, how long should I be allowed to use the message board for my personal tongue-in-cheek "meat attender" search?  Perhaps we should all have a tongue-in-cheek search thread? Hell.... why not a tongue-in-cheek search forum as I tongue-in-cheekly suggested before? [8D]




twicehappy -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 12:14:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

1. I'm too far away.


We would take you if you would move........[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m11.gif[/image]




joyinslavery -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 12:20:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: twicehappy

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

1. I'm too far away.


We would take you if you would move........[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m11.gif[/image]


Well, I guess that blows the whole tongue-in-cheek thing. 

Then again, maybe the offer is tongue-in-cheek too (?). 




LaTigresse -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 12:25:20 PM)

Awwww, now your just being cheeky!![:D]




cuddleheart50 -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 2:50:42 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Cuddleheart quit fishing. The way to a mans heart is thru his stomac. If you can't cook then keep fishing.


I can cook!  [:D]




crouchingtigress -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 3:50:13 PM)

since this is your colum does that mean you give out advice too?
 
Dear Twicey
 
I cant seem to get motivated to do anything today, i am sitting home reading through my CL ad replies ( a windfall as always: make a note) masturbating to a site called her first anal, watching TV, washing may car, eating, doing just about everything but doing what i am sposed to do....any ideas?
 
Lost And Zoned-out Yetagain




twicehappy -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 4:18:52 PM)

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ORIGINAL: joyinslavery

quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

1. I'm too far away.


We would take you if you would move........[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m11.gif[/image]


Well, I guess that blows the whole tongue-in-cheek thing. 

Then again, maybe the offer is tongue-in-cheek too (?). 


No, we just keep trying to catch Littlesarboon because he is so awesome.......the offer to him always stands.




twicehappy -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 4:24:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

since this is your colum does that mean you give out advice too?
 
Dear Twicey
 
I cant seem to get motivated to do anything today, i am sitting home reading through my CL ad replies ( a windfall as always: make a note) masturbating to a site called her first anal, watching TV, washing may car, eating, doing just about everything but doing what i am sposed to do....any ideas?


Type well thought out nice replies to your ads, enjoy your orgasm, dry the car, eat some chocolate and chill for the day. Sometimes you need a day off to relax, maybe take a bubble bath this evening and have some wine. Then get up nice and early in the morning, you'll feel all refreshed,  have some fresh ground coffee and dig into your work. 





ShiftedJewel -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 4:26:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Being a sincere male submissive is somewhat of a mixed bag. There are a lot of those who claim to be sincere, but a lot are game players or are mainly seeking something immediate rather than long term that requires a lot of effort on their part over time. I've been seeking a dominant for some time now, but somewhat half-heartedly mainly because it's never really been all that successful of a search. Every time I think I've found someone who is sincere on her end, I end up in the usual quandaries which are:

1. I'm too far away.
2. She's overwhelmed by the numbers of submissives applying, so I get turned down because her inbox is so overflowed that it may take her years to get through them all.
3. She has a list of 94 things that need to be perfect, but I failed number 18 and 72. Then she posts that finding someone is so difficult these days.

The funny thing is: If I hadn't actually had a submissive lifestyle before signing onto collarme that lasted many years of my previous life, collarme would probably have completely ended my involvement in this lifestyle completely. It ends up being a very negative environment, no matter how positive you try to remain. For a male submissive, from a rational choice perspective, the most obvious avenue would be to leave bdsm completely and buy a puppy. Come to think of it, that sounds like a pretty good idea. Puppies are cool.


1. You moved that far away.
2. That is not an issue I have EVER suffered from so in order to keep my self esteem high I've convinced myself that it's an exageration.
3. I don't have a list of 94 things that have to be perfect, I only have a few and they are pretty simple.... not into cross dressing, toilet play, degradation, bleeding, maiming, killing, cutting (they all kinda go together, don't they?), and I expect absolute honesty, the desire to serve and the biggie here.... SHOW UP.
 
But I agree with both you and joyinslavery... this place has done more for causing me to rethink my desire to continue in this lifestyle then any other thing in my life ever could.

quote:


quote:

We would take you if you would move........[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m11.gif[/image]


Well, I guess that blows the whole tongue-in-cheek thing. 

Then again, maybe the offer is tongue-in-cheek too (?). 


Only if you want it to be.
 
Jewel




crouchingtigress -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 4:27:38 PM)

ok that rocked...have you trie CL....i mean seriously im like beating them off with a stick.....and i am on a tiny island in the middle of the ocean




twicehappy -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 4:28:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Awwww, now your just being cheeky!![:D]


He can't be, our friend Cheeky lives in England. It would take a lot of practice to be as cute as she is.




OhReallyNow -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 4:30:14 PM)

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True but sometimes to find the proverbial needle we must search the haystack

that may be, but perhaps you are looking too hard and too fast for the one needle that is needed [:)]
 
sometimes,  when we are so focused on the one thing we most desperatly want or need; we overlook other things that could point the way. This slave is only trying to say that perhaps, you are looking TOO hard, and TOO fast for the one who would complete your family. Maybe, if you slowed down, and stopped looking for specifics...and instead just took your time and let things come naturally, the one you seek will fall into your lap [:)]




ShiftedJewel -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 4:39:32 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: OhReallyNow

quote:

True but sometimes to find the proverbial needle we must search the haystack

that may be, but perhaps you are looking too hard and too fast for the one needle that is needed [:)]
 
sometimes,  when we are so focused on the one thing we most desperatly want or need; we overlook other things that could point the way. This slave is only trying to say that perhaps, you are looking TOO hard, and TOO fast for the one who would complete your family. Maybe, if you slowed down, and stopped looking for specifics...and instead just took your time and let things come naturally, the one you seek will fall into your lap [:)]


Perhaps that's true at times... but I have to say that honestly... I think almost three years of searching qualifies for taking my time and letting things flow naturally. lol
 
As far as specifics... I understand that you are working with little info here and I do appreciate the insight... but my "specifics" are pretty easy... relocatable, not married, honest and show's up... Hard limits for me... there are others that I find unacceptable... but they pale in comparison.. as I told someone I was talking to earlier... my demands are simple... honesty and the desire to serve... and I've yet to have them met. But when I do.... wooo hooo... I may make a few others. lmao
 
Jewel




OhReallyNow -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 4:46:46 PM)

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  Perhaps that's true at times... but I have to say that honestly... I think almost three years of searching qualifies for taking my time and letting things flow naturally. lol
 
As far as specifics... I understand that you are working with little info here and I do appreciate the insight... but my "specifics" are pretty easy... relocatable, not married, honest and show's up... Hard limits for me... there are others that I find unacceptable... but they pale in comparison.. as I told someone I was talking to earlier... my demands are simple... honesty and the desire to serve... and I've yet to have them met. But when I do.... wooo hooo... I may make a few others. lmao
 
Jewel


this slave does understand [:)] There was alot of years in between her late Master and her current owner; and not from lack of looking or trying.
This slave has often seen your posts on here, and she understands the frustration that comes from searching.
However, this slave being a slave, and female to boot; obviously can not understand the actual stance from the viewpoint of a Dominant looking for a submissive [:)], nor would she try to infer that she would.
This slave meant no offense by her post; she was only trying to point out the obvious as she saw it. She truly does wish you luck, and knows that when you least expect it, the one you seek will come to you.




ShiftedJewel -> RE: twicehappy's new column. (9/18/2006 4:52:02 PM)

Ah hon... you didn't offend me... hell, I'm not even sure that possible most of the time. I honestly do appreciate your input and enjoy reading your posts.
 
Jewel




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