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RE: "No-sex bdsm" (subtitled "Get Off My... - 9/20/2006 7:44:15 AM

CreativeDominant

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ORIGINAL: DivaDuchess

I think the word ... tease ... fits *lol*. Of course, if you actually got your way ... I'd charge you up like a plugged 220 line, then pull the cord with you tied to a chair, wishing you were the one, while I played my 'urges' out on someone else. You can watch. That seems to be fun for you so I won't end the scene ... just modify it a bit, so you can enjoy the ... show *lol*.

No offense intended ... just my 2 cents and how I've dealt in the past with 'no sex' players.

Have to ask...was this directed at me or the OP? If directed at me, I am puzzled as I stated quite clearly that I disagree with the idea of BDSM not being about sex. I also stated clearly that those occasions where I have aroused sexual urges within someone without following through were in fact, few in number. I would think that this places me definitely out of the "no-sex player" category but just in case...I am not a "no-sex" player.

Trust me...~g~...I know.

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RE: "No-sex bdsm" (subtitled "Get Off My... - 9/20/2006 8:27:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: DivaDuchess
I think the word ... tease ... fits *lol*.

I'm sure it was directed at me. Sometimes the message board interface is a bit confusing as to whom one is replying.

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RE: "No-sex bdsm" (subtitled "Get Off My... - 9/20/2006 8:36:24 AM

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The more I see these internet debates about various bdsm issues, the more I realize that most of the problems are due to varying definitions of words. We should have learned a lesson from Bill Clinton; sex means different things to different people.

To me, it's mostly about sex, but not necessarily about intercourse in all its many forms. I have known several people who have "no intercourse" hard limits. LOL- pardon the pun- didn't know how else to state that. Two good friends of mine are subs and also virgins. Actually, that might be wise in light of the sexually transmitted disease situation nowadays.

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RE: "No-sex bdsm" (subtitled "Get Off My... - 9/20/2006 8:54:36 AM

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Personally, I'm more sensitive to the opposite - i.e., rants about people here "just looking to get laid", etc, without understanding the underlying dynamic, blah, blah, but for alot of people, that is part of it, they do want to get laid, I'm one of them, and along the way I've lerned a lot about the D/s dynamic that I hadn't considered deeply enough - I do have a very strong libido, and I don't think it's all that healthy to go to any great extremes to rein it in, I just look for partners who have a libido that matches mine.

I also enjoy watching it, and talking about it, and otherwise enjoying it in all sorts of indirectly sexual ways, and I have no problem whatsoever with anybody that doesn't want to have sex, cause it's all sex (as they say in airframes).

Sex, you see, is a form of social intercourse, stating the obvious perhaps, but worth repeating with all the obsession and marketing involved in it, orgasms, ED, youth, beauty, blah, blah - you can be social without the intercourse, but it's nearly impossible to have the intercourse without the social - so really the social does supercede the intercourse, and that's why it's not "all about" sex, the sex just happens to be really, really good too...

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RE: "No-sex bdsm" (subtitled "Get Off My... - 9/20/2006 8:59:50 AM

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I've gotten a few 'nastygrams' myself because my profile states that I'm not looking for sex. It happens sometimes. Simply delete and go on with life. It takes time to find quality, I've noticed. Patience is indeed a virtue.

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RE: "No-sex bdsm" (subtitled "Get Off My... - 9/20/2006 9:13:18 AM

DelightfulSpirit

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Thank you zuma

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