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RE: I need some Advice Please - 9/21/2006 6:52:18 PM

cherishableslave

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Thank you all for the advice, Master said we are not playing with this couple so it is done deal. It isn't happening and i think the lucky stars.

Sincerely Ryboom's lil slave

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RE: I need some Advice Please - 9/21/2006 7:21:27 PM

MagiksSlave

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if he was suprised you talked to your Master I would question his own "trueness" as a Master and honestly if he said that and acted as he did not only the fact that he mentioned something so risky on a first play date well honestly I dont think he is safe to play with and if I was you I wouldnt be playing with him. Your Master should know everything and honestly I know my Master would never let me play with that man after all that but thats just us. You may have crossed a line by not letting your Master talk to the man however I know i would have done the same thing beeing as I would want this man to know ASAP that this wasnt guna happne because of my own nervouseness I know my Master would understand my actions though Id probubly get spanked for not letting him take care of it as He said He would.

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RE: I need some Advice Please - 9/27/2006 8:50:08 PM

BD123

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"Choke me until I am unconscious" is extremely dangerous to your life. I recommend you say no and look for some other couple.

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RE: I need some Advice Please - 9/27/2006 9:03:11 PM

gypsylee

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Breath play is a very risky and edgy play, and not something you just agree to do on the first date with a guy who wants to take you all the way to being unconscious. A first time foursome is intense enough on its own, there’s plenty of time to get into the high risk stuff later.

i'm relatively inexperienced in all forms of kink however this was my instinct.

scary.

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RE: I need some Advice Please - 9/28/2006 3:30:31 AM

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In poly, it is frequently considered best if all the parties involved sit down together and set limits. My dom and I do breath play but not to the point of unconsciousness. If someone else said he was going to do it to me, I might assume it was the way we do it and agree, feeling safe. Having both of you there to ask questions of this other dom means you get twice the info.

As far as him not wanting you to talk to your dom? Bad sign. He should be expecting that you would only play as long as your dom was watching out for you, which doesn't mean upstairs in another room playing with the other sub. You don't know this person very well, you've never played with him before nor seen him in action, you need someone watching over the scene ready to stop it when/if it turns bad.

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RE: I need some Advice Please - 9/28/2006 5:04:10 AM

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Breath play is a very risky and edgy play, and not something you just agree to do on the first date with a guy who wants to take you all the way to being unconscious.

oops!

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RE: I need some Advice Please - 9/28/2006 5:19:18 AM

RazorJAK

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ORIGINAL: cherishableslave
... the Dom was kind of surprised that i told my Master.

That statement, in and of itself, screams "RED FLAG"!

Any so-called *cough* dom who is surprised that you discuss things with who you owe fealty towards is DEFINATELY someone you do not want to associate with ... at all.

Nothing else needs to be said. I don't even have to go into his obvious lack of knowledge regarding breathplay.

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RE: I need some Advice Please - 9/28/2006 9:45:09 AM

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Will not venture into the M/s, foursome and power question. Instead Iam going to bring a little 'old world' perspective to this. This is your principal remember...the one carrying his handy crop with him...to maintain order. Now young dears, to a man that goes back, you know, to when realtime was a computer term...breathplay was yes, stick with me here...breathing on my sub. I won't go into all of the variables, and before you all laugh, I draw their attention always...back to the skin.

Breathplay as described in the kinkosphere and these modern kinky times is really fearplay...otherwise generally known as...edgeplay. Very clever yet easy to suggest we discover 'that' edge only by going over it. So we have created a new way to achieve some excitement via fear or anxiety. I prefer to create fear in the spontaneous as opposed to injury or unconsciousness. One has to leave himself some leeway to create that fear without testing edges. Would the act of taking an 8 footer to a slave be considered edgeplay ? If so...why ? There is no edge except her supply of blood.

Pardon me but with such activies and even knife play, don't we create easy shortcuts, trying to create a feeling that we should be able to create by other means...far less risky means ? How about fainting from pain...is that 'breathplay ?' You essentially achieve the same results and without nearly the risk...a little salts if necessary...and we begin again.

The difference in the modern digital world of kink, D/s and M/s...is at its greatest contrast when we write of such fetishes within S & M. There was no way to share what we knew, did and experimented with before these boards. Have we entered into a contest within the digiteri to see how far we can go ? Fear, anxiety was created with pain and some unkowns, particularly on its delivery and whereabouts and for that, I want your skin...not your air.

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RE: I need some Advice Please - 9/29/2006 7:01:17 AM

MasterCherokeeOh

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You are the one ultimatley in charge of your safety.The Dom suggesting breath play was out of line in the beginning that is something that should have been discussed with your Dom.The only thing I see wrong here is you agreeing to it without first having your Dom's permission.

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RE: I need some Advice Please - 9/29/2006 9:14:55 AM

Fawne

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ORIGINAL: cherishableslave

Thank you all for the advice, Master said we are not playing with this couple so it is done deal. It isn't happening and i think the lucky stars.

Dear cherishishableslave:

I must agree you did the right thing by declining activity with a man who disrespects your Master.

With all sincerity - it was very underhanded that Dom tried to push you into participating in anything without your Master's express permission.

I am just shaking my head in my own surprise.

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For a Dom to attempt to manipulate another's slave - especially after master said "hell no".. is just so out of bounds.

Glad you have resolved the issue.

Luck and Love to All,
fawne

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RE: I need some Advice Please - 9/30/2006 11:59:17 PM

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I think as a couple you need to establish your own rules as to who you play with and what is and isn't happening.
Its best if you and your partner decide as a group. But i think you made a good call and your Master Ryboom will definately agree with your decision cherishable. So better luck next time..

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