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RE: Released - 9/21/2006 12:45:02 AM

mons

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greetings

i understand you love for him and all of the things you both enjoy so much but a temper is the worst you say npo abuse but in time if you had not left yes there would had been abuse much worse then you could think of, that is what happen to me befor i became a domme i was beaten raped so manytimes i do not want anyone to touch me and that is not right i should be able to enjoy many. you left is what i understand and i am glad love is all but when a temper comes in to play it is no good you will be okay i promise you this i had to leave another state to get away from the man who rape beat and tried to kill me i am ok but have thing i need to do to overcome some things i am working on it please take care ir is hard but strong i am open if you ever wishe to write me

mons take care

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RE: Released - 9/21/2006 3:44:23 AM

DivaDuchess

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wanderlust63

After 3 1/2 years by mutual consent. I adored, loved and worshipped Him, my friend, my lover, my confidante, my beloved Master. 90% of the time we were deleriously happy but 10% was absolute hell for me because of his temper (no physical abuse). It is for the best but the coming weeks will be unbearable. Friends and family are being kind but I need the anonimity of a perv friendly board to speak openly.

Thanks for listening.

Is it me or did I miss the part that said you TALKED to him first, before leaving ... Did he refuse therapy? And please tell me you are not looking for 100% "joy-joy", there is no such thing. Or ... did you just bottle it all up for 3 1/2 years then leave. I'm sorry, but congratulations for her leaving is good if the man is beating the hell out of her, I've had a husband like that, it was ugly. I left, but only after trying. However, she doesn't even mention whether she told him she wanted a 'perfect' man (there's a search that will take you forever).

I guess I'm more tired than I thought, I'm rambling *lol*.

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RE: Released - 9/21/2006 11:51:53 AM

Wanderlust63

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No, he wasn't perfect. Nor am I - far from it. And yes, we did talk about his explosions of anger which happened 3/4 times a year but it didn't change anything - they were uncontrollable and came from nowhere.

I'm not looking for advice or validation that I was right to accept being released, I'm just mourning the death of a relationship that I really thought - hoped - would only end with the physical death of one of us.

That's all.

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RE: Released - 9/21/2006 12:06:03 PM

Dnomyar

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Question. Did he have other outlets for venting his frustrations?

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RE: Released - 9/21/2006 12:18:01 PM

Wanderlust63

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No - he's in a very respected profession where huge frustrations have to be swallowed. He is also 100% responsible for the care of an elderly parent (which he takes very seriously).

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