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RE: Romance - 1/14/2005 1:35:53 PM

Suleiman

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As an aside, Merc, I've been meaning to warn you about that new title. I decided to become "Suleiman the Spiffy" a few years ago, in answer to constant comparisons to my more fameous namesakes. Now, half the people I know call me Spiff, Spiffy, Spifficus, or even Count Spiffula.

I have learned, much to my chagrin, that even my wife, a woman with a solid poker face and an overwhelming ability to pretend, can not address me as Count Spiffula with a straight face.

You might want to nip this in the bud and go back to just being Merc, before beth earns herself a spanking by inocently giggling at some absurd permeutation to your newly adopted title.

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RE: Romance - 1/17/2005 10:58:09 AM

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my Master is not the romantic type. i would feel much more appreciated and wanted if i were allowed those things. i am finding that not having my emotional needs met is not working very well for me. i am expected to do as i am told without thought of reward. It feels a bit dry for me. i am trying to find peace with this because i am not sure if i am just dragging my vanilla expectations behind me.

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RE: Romance - 1/17/2005 2:32:27 PM

SwitchNCgal

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jayde25

I don't mean to make the situation worse but if i was in your shoes i would either tell hm what I need to feel fulfilled in the realtionship if that didn't work he WOULD come home to an empty house because I would have a moving company come while he was at work or a group of freinds and just leave.

Because if he won't make an effort to met your needs he obvously doesn't care and i would not subject a dog to that kinda of treatment.

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RE: Romance - 1/17/2005 3:07:47 PM

jayde25

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Thanks SwitchNCgal,
i have been thinking about this all day. In fact, He happened to see part of what i had typed and he said "I'm sorry to hear that you feel that way." i think if the person is naturally romantic that is a plus. Alot of women really like that, including myself. If i give my submission to him as a gift than i should not expect anything back. i have tried to explain that i would like romance in our relationship but then Master says i am topping from the bottom. Master has not noticed that i am actually sad and depressed because i am not being fed emotionally. Master does tell me many times a day that he loves me and is proud that i am his girl. i personally don't respond to just words, especially ones that i have heard hundreds of times over and over. i actually need the words to be backed up by actions. Don't get me wrong. i love him. i don't think that his nature is romantic or that he knows how to give to a woman even tho he craves intimacy. i have begged for intimacy but again He doesn't see it that way. He will not cuddle with me and talk in bed or give aftercare. i am expected to be a complete, screaming, passionate whore in bed but without intimacy it is hard for me to keep that up day after day. As a slave i have no right to expect anything. i must do what Master says regardless of what i think about it. It doesn't help if i get resentful. i think i would have more of a right to ask for it, if i was a submissive not a slave. As a slave i did expect things to be a bit harder. i think my happiness is important but that doesn't mean that my Master has to.
That's why i joined this site, to find out if my expectations are off base or not.
Before anyone says that this relationship is based on being equal-The Dominant needs the submissive and the submissive needs the Dominant. i've tried that already. Master says that i am under a mis-impression. That this is not an equal relationship. i can see his point but how do i get my needs met as just a human being. We work and live togeather 24/7. It would be different if we had the kind of relationship where i was locked up in a cage everyday. We don't. Yet, sometimes i feel like i am that kind of slave just without the perks. Jayde

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RE: Romance - 1/17/2005 3:51:51 PM

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There is nothing at all wrong with a man being passionate, thoughtful, romantic, and a bit doting at times AND dominant as well. In fact, i'm certain it would be appreciated by MOST submissives/slaves. Most importantly, as many here have already expressed, you don't have to feel obligated to fit anyone else's mold of what a Dom should or should not do, or be. Be confident in what comes natural to you, feels right for you etc. and i'm sure your efforts will be well received.

my Master has brought/sent flowers for me, & massaged me before. i am normally up and awake before Him so for that reason alone i've not been served breakfast in bed, yet, He does cook quite often. In fact, i just woke from a nap (during which time He was thoughtful enough to tend to the kids' needs and kept them quiet so i could rest) and was able to enjoy a hot bowl of delicious chicken soup that He left warming on the stove for me. This morning while i was finishing up in getting ready to leave for work, He even cleared the snow off of the car and left the engine running so i wouldn't have to freeze my submissive ass off!

In my eyes none of this makes Him less dominant over me, more likely it demonstrates His love for me, and His concern in taking good care of His property which only adds to my desire to serve in pleasing Him to even greater heights.

i love pleasing my Master, and when He offers sweet gestures, it doesn't confuse me in the least. i do know that the same hands that massaged my body lovingly and stroked my hair as i slept peacefully, will be securing my limbs in bondage and spanking my ass hard tonight ... just the way HE likes it.

¸,ø¤º°cynnacent°º¤ø,¸ (proudly owned by, and devoted to INSIDEYOURMIND)

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RE: Romance? - 1/17/2005 9:59:39 PM

garylee

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okay,......maybe i am still going to be the oddball around here...
and i am not....repeat not....trying to be a pest....or trouble maker......

but this romance thingy????/ naw! no way dudes and dudettes. not for this lil gray duck.
i am a domestics service slave....only. and as such....(dont yell at me )....i dont do romance with any Ma'am nor do i get involved in the s-e-x thingy.
i know most of you think i'm some kinda nut.......but i am duly serious......k?

thanks for the posting time.
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RE: Romance - 1/18/2005 4:31:39 PM

emeraldgreeneyez

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Wow...interesting postings. I think it's great. There is absolutely nothing wrong with combining kindness with "ownership". Just think, if you serve him well, he will treat you will so much kindness you'd never question your place with him. As a woman, whether sub or not, it is always very much appreciated when kindness is sent my way for no apparent reason. Enjoy it and be very thankful afterwards. Sounds to me like you are getting the best of all worlds. emeraldgreeneyez

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RE: Romance - 1/18/2005 4:38:08 PM

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quote:

but I'm sure I've brought food or a snake

Timo,

I thought you were uncomfortable around snakes?????????

I had to do it!

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RE: Romance - 1/18/2005 4:46:26 PM

Mercnbeth

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I thought you were uncomfortable around snakes?????????

Not my own, my "Sicilian-Spitting-Snake".

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RE: Romance - 1/18/2005 4:48:13 PM

INSIDEYOURMIND

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Hey pal,

I think sometimes we are our best fans!

Jeffrey

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RE: Romance - 1/18/2005 4:49:49 PM

Mercnbeth

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I think sometimes we are our best fans!

Always ready for you-110%!

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RE: Romance - 1/18/2005 5:15:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: BennyR

Hence the reason I took my real name on here. I am what I am. A Dom with mental challenges (Aspergers Syndrome and ADHD) looking for his place in a cold bitter and lonely world.

Excellent outlook, if I do say so myself, to be exactly who you are.