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from a little pain to being a big masochist - 9/20/2006 10:52:22 PM

omahadom68

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i have a slave and she did enjoy pain but now she is a big masochist were she want,s to be hurt in or out of sex the things i like to know is how did this go from some pain and in 10 days in to a big masochist and wanting to feel pain all the time

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RE: from a little pain to being a big masochist - 9/20/2006 10:54:50 PM

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Endorphin rushes can be as addicting as anything. Likely this was either something she never dreamed of, or perhaps even highly resisted before now. The dam has broken and now the need is crying to be fed fed fed!

Just be careful of drop. As well there's a reason many masochists are considered just selfish do-me pain princesses and you'll likely want to discourage that sort of behavior and motivation.

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RE: from a little pain to being a big masochist - 9/21/2006 4:58:21 AM

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i have a slave and she did enjoy pain but now she is a big masochist were she want,s to be hurt in or out of sex the things i like to know is how did this go from some pain and in 10 days in to a big masochist and wanting to feel pain all the time

And then there is the question you're not seeing.

What if she desires pain with a regularity or degree that I am uncomfortable giving?

If you have 'created (or unwittingly unleashed) a monster', then you have to bear responsibility for the direction afterwards. Best advised that you don't find 'yourself' in over your head.

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RE: from a little pain to being a big masochist - 9/21/2006 5:03:48 AM

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I find that I go through phases where I have a higher pain tolerance and a higher degree of desire for more intense physical pain then I go through similar phases where I seem to have very little tolerance for pain and a very low desire for intense sensation. Im certain it has to do with hormonal as well as emotional factors. Your slave may be very excited by the fact that she is having positive experiences with pain right now, but she might very well level off to enjoying the degree of intensity she did before (or less) at any point and then cycle back again.
It's all good...just to different degrees and sometimes in different ways.

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RE: from a little pain to being a big masochist - 9/21/2006 7:39:30 AM

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She was a masochist all along and it was just awakened through play with you perhaps? I am a masochist and I knew I was from the first time I experienced nipple clamps and the instant turn on I felt in relation to the pain.

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RE: from a little pain to being a big masochist - 9/21/2006 8:56:43 AM

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Sometimes when an unknown stimulus hits a pleasure point, it can be like an addictive drug for some. They are overwhelmed with sensations and new feelings, the rush, etc. If you are the one to unleash that in another, you have to make sure you can direct the flow, the timing, and bring her cravings to a manageable structure, or else you will get run over for a while! LOL! For often times the other person is not thinking rationally and may not be aware of how their surges of cravings affects the other. Here is where a measured control must be put in place. i remember when i first felt pleasure from pain...i wanted it at every chance i was with my dominant partner. Over time, he managed to help me find a balance and helped me to understand what was happening inside me and how to have better self control. i had never thought of myself as a masochist before that point, in fact i had never even considered it until he introduced me to that first heated lash of his whip. His first words after he seen my instant pleasure overwhelm my being, was in fact, "holy shit i think i tapped that masochistic ass" LOL! That was a very long time ago, but i remember my first experience in this area as if it were yesterday.

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RE: from a little pain to being a big masochist - 9/21/2006 12:49:59 PM

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I used to describe myself as a Wussochist. Until you actually experience some kinds of pain, you're careful about how much you ask for.

For the record, there's little I now enjoy more than hot whip stripes on my body.

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RE: from a little pain to being a big masochist - 9/21/2006 1:07:30 PM

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It sound like she was one all along and you just unleashed it. For thr record i know i am not one. No kind of pain has ever bought me pleasure only the act of submission did, not the pain itself.

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RE: from a little pain to being a big masochist - 9/21/2006 4:21:22 PM

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i had a similar reaction to pain, when first introdeced to the lovely that is SubSpace.

i craved, but like mentioned above, my tolerence went back down after a month or two-ish.

And again now, is on the rise.

besides the pain rush play, there is also the other version of pain, feelings of humility and submission that i need [usually from a more forceful usually punishment/reminder geared event]

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