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SubCoyate -> What can I execpt from on a munch?Eny etiquette thats not common sence? (9/22/2006 3:40:27 PM)

I plan on going to my first munch on the second Saturday Of October. Is there eny peices of etiquette that is that the same for every day situwation that a first timer may not be aware of?????
Sorry of all the questions I will be posting!
Sincerly
SubCoyote



DelRey -> RE: What can I execpt from on a munch?Eny etiquette thats not common sence? (9/22/2006 3:44:09 PM)

Naaaaaaaaaa,

just pick out which "click" you hate the least & hang with them.
And don't go to troll. If you take a date you won't feel as awkword.

look out for the "Pro-munchers" they seem to have the most issues.

Then if it don't go well you can do what one guy did........ MOON em...... [8D]



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What can I execpt from on a munch?Eny etiquette thats not common sence? (9/22/2006 3:45:39 PM)

http://www.collarchat.com/m_438399/mpage_1/key_first%252Cmunch/tm.htm#438658
Advice on a 1st munch

http://www.collarchat.com/m_133075/mpage_1/key_munch/tm.htm#133214
munches

http://www.collarchat.com/m_123477/mpage_1/key_munch/tm.htm#123520
munches and sloshes

http://www.collarchat.com/m_120380/mpage_1/key_munch/tm.htm#120646
first munch...

http://www.collarchat.com/m_264730/mpage_1/key_munches/tm.htm#264747
normal reaction?



thetammyjo -> RE: What can I execpt from on a munch?Eny etiquette thats not common sence? (9/22/2006 3:46:42 PM)

Make sure you bring enough money for your food and a good tip.

Ask the host of the munch what type of restaurant it is and dress accordingly -- fetish wear is almost always not acceptable but bars or private rooms might be different depending on the munche's rules.

Remember this is just for conversation and food -- be yourself, be polite, and be friendly.



diamonddreamlove -> RE: What can I execpt from on a munch?Eny etiquette thats not common sence? (9/22/2006 3:54:08 PM)

What TammyJo said!!!!

diamond



Samwhiplash -> RE: What can I execpt from on a munch?Eny etiquette thats not common sence? (9/22/2006 4:00:19 PM)

My best advice is to try to leave your preconceptions at the door. When I went along to my first munch, I had been told by friends who went to one ahead of me not to expect it to be a place to meet a possible playmate... but I actually did just that at my very first munch.

I attend the Dublin munch most months and for me now its like a good saturday night out wth a good group of friends for drinks :) Oh.... and the possiblility of meeting a sub just makes it even more fun.

Be respectful to everyone, be yourself, present yourself well and most importantly... enjoy :)

Good luck with it.

Mistress Sam



SirLordTrainer -> RE: What can I execpt from on a munch?Eny etiquette thats not common sence? (9/22/2006 4:08:53 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DelRey

Naaaaaaaaaa,

just pick out which "click" you hate the least & hang with them.
And don't go to troll. If you take a date you won't feel as awkword.

look out for the "Pro-munchers" they seem to have the most issues.

Then if it don't go well you can do what one guy did........ MOON em...... [8D]



Raises hand, Im guilty.. I didnt know you were there!?   lol



ayasha -> RE: What can I execpt from on a munch?Eny etiquette thats not common sence? (9/22/2006 5:03:22 PM)

Dress appropriate for the restaurant/bar (as this is usually where it is held); do not wear leathers; do not wear anything that would make you stand out in a public made up of non-lifestyle people.  Have enough money for a cover charge (usually none or minimal), drinks, and something to eat if you wish.  Do not get drunk and make a fool of yourself.  When you arrive, ask someone who the host/hostess is - then introduce yourself.  They can help introduce you to the others.  Do not expect everyone to immediately talk to you - sometimes these people have known each other for years and are very comfortable with each other; and see many new people come and go quickly.  So make an effort to talk to those that seem open to a conversation; otherwise sit back and observe - as they get used to seeing you at the munches you will become one of the regulars and find you make many friends.  Be polite and respectful - and be yourself.  Have fun! 



mp072004 -> RE: What can I execpt from on a munch?Eny etiquette thats not common sence? (9/22/2006 5:17:17 PM)

I'm not sure what your basic manners are. Have you ever been to a book club or other interest-oriented group? If so, the social rules are about the same. Act *exactly* as you would, actually, at a 'vanilla' interest-oriented social group at which you're new. This means don't defer to people unusually (so, don't call dominants Sir or Madam), don't be the first one to make a lewd or controversial quip, do develop some conversation starters and topics ahead of time. On dress; if you are a white-collar worker, and the munch is on a weeknight, you might safely dress as you did for work that day. You will feel comfortable and confident, presumably, and you will not look peculiar because even if you are dressed more formally than others, you will easily be excused because you appear to have come straight from work.

Monica



Dollbecky -> RE: What can I execpt from on a munch?Eny etiquette thats not common sence? (9/22/2006 5:44:13 PM)

What ever you do dont start trying to haggle a paid session with every female you see there ...describing your fantasy scene and being visably excited...<cringe>
As I explained to the foolish man*  who did this as he was being asked to leave and not return, its a social night not play party. Treat the people you meet there as you would treat any random group in a social sitiuation, friendly and polite and *if* you did  find someone who set your hearts and pants aflame play it cool.



*Yes his greeter had explained what a munch was etc



KatyLied -> RE: What can I execpt from on a munch?Eny etiquette thats not common sence? (9/22/2006 7:10:48 PM)

Just be prepared for some weird behavior.  I went to a munch where everyone was expected to pay $1 so a sub could sit topless for the entire evening (it was at a private dining room in a restaurant).  I found it rude and tacky.  



CreoleCook -> RE: What can I execpt from on a munch?Eny etiquette thats not common sence? (9/22/2006 9:21:27 PM)

simplest terms.... you should expect to meet other people with similiar interests, as well as varied interests from your own. You should expect to meet people, not online chat names, or gorean slaves kneeling at the doorway, asking permission to enter.  (I witnessed a girl do this once at a munch, and let's just say she had a difficult time accepting reality was not the fantasy she learned about online.)  this is not to say it doesn't happen... just not at munches.  munches are public meetings of like minded individuals, to discuss upcoming events, socialize, and share stories, usually over food, perhaps a drink, and VERY casual.   Last munch I attended, I wore khaki shorts, a green/khaki shirt, and sandals.  I looked like I just got off the beach, or was headed for one... course I live in florida, where you can't throw a stick without hitting sand (even if it bounces off the subbies skull, and hits a tree, there's still sand the tree is planted in...)



CC




MaamJay -> RE: What can I execpt from on a munch?Eny etiquette thats not common sence? (9/22/2006 10:21:10 PM)

Not a lot I can add, other than around here (Australia), basic black is a good fall-back attire to wear to a munch. Presumably you must have had some contact with someone to know the munch is on and when and where, you should ask them about any particular protocols and also roughly how much you might expect a meal, drinks to cost there. And Katy, I too would find a topless sub rude and very very tacky, I wouldn't be associating in public with that group again. Good luck subcoyote and enjoy!
Mistress Jay



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