preparing to submit

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

preparing to submit

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> preparing to submit

Page: [1]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

preparing to submit - 9/23/2006 6:35:41 AM

gardenbluebird

Posts: 131
Joined: 5/9/2006
Status: offline

i am a part-time slave. When i am with Master (once a week or so) i need to set aside the control that i am acostomed to in the vanilla world and accept his ownership of me. i am quite happy to do this, but i think that the occasional nature of the role limits the depth of my submission. i trust and want to submit, but very often i reach a level then i struggle and assert my personality. He controls me quite well, even when i become stubborn and difficult, but he is encouraging me to figure out a way to let down my barriers.

i am thinking that a few minutes of meditation when i arrive at his house might help. Some time to quiet my mind and prepare to submit. Any other ideas to help get into the sub/slave role? How do others deal with going from in control to slave and back again?

Profile

Post #: 1

RE: preparing to submit - 9/23/2006 6:40:11 AM

justheather

Posts: 1532
Joined: 10/4/2005
Status: offline

This would be a good place in your life to establish a small ritual. It could incorporate (or be totally comprised of) a few moments of meditation, or anything else that you find helps you to connect strongly to that submissive part of yourself.
While I always feel a certain degree of submission toward my partner, when we first encounter one another after Ive been wearing a million hats at work and with my family, I find that orienting myself physically to my dom in particular ways as well as certain smells act as sort of catalysts to my feeling deeply submissive.

_____________________________

I want the scissors to be sharp
And the table perfectly level
When you cut me out of my life
And paste me in that book you always carry.
-Billy Collins

(in reply to gardenbluebird)

Profile

Post #: 2

RE: preparing to submit - 9/23/2006 7:07:07 AM

MasterFireMaam

Posts: 5587
Joined: 3/1/2006
From: Charleston, WV
Status: offline

When we begin the day, when we go to bed at night, before we go out, after we come home, I have my slaves present. Here's how I have them do it:

Lower your head.

Put your hands behind your back. Grasp your hands so that they are in the small of your back, at least. If you can move them higher, or can grasp further up your arms, do so.

If you can, drop to both knees simultaneously. If you can’t, or the floor is hard, go down on one knee at a time.

Flatten out your feet so that you are not sitting on your toes.

Close your eyes.

Take a deep breath and center (calm and focus) yourself. If you need to take several deep breaths in order to feel centered, do so.

When you are centered, raise your head, look me in the eye and say, “Ma’am, yes Ma’am.”

When we are finished, I will tell you to “Continue”, at which point you can get up and go about what you need to do.Master Fire

_____________________________

The power of who we are can be intoxicating. The power of who we could be is humbling.
-----
Ms Relationship Books
-----
BDSM How-To Books

(in reply to gardenbluebird)

Profile

Post #: 3

RE: preparing to submit - 9/23/2006 4:29:31 PM

diamonddreamlove

Posts: 770
Joined: 5/19/2006
Status: offline

He kisses me and i feel instant submission. His kiss is melting and i know i am in the right place immediately.

diamond

_____________________________

"Many attempts to communicate are nullified by saying too much." Robert Greenleaf

(in reply to MasterFireMaam)

Profile

Post #: 4

RE: preparing to submit - 9/23/2006 5:32:26 PM

BD123

Posts: 201
Joined: 8/12/2006
Status: offline

Have you tried restraints. The restraints when applied to various degrees will limit your freedom and perhaps put you into the [roper frame of mind, under complete control of the master. Further transgressions may involve punishment at various levels, may also help you to focus correctely.

(in reply to diamonddreamlove)

Profile

Post #: 5

RE: preparing to submit - 9/23/2006 7:45:15 PM

gardenbluebird

Posts: 131
Joined: 5/9/2006
Status: offline

Thanks for the input. i think the approach that is needed here is for me to put myself into a submissive state of mind, rather than from outside stimuli from Master. i do feel deeply submissive toward him, but i think that to take down the walls that i have created to protect myself from the world i need to do it myself rather than depend on anything he does. He wants my complete submission to be something that i give rather than something that He reaches in and takes.

i like the idea of some kind of ritual to get myself in the right frame of mind. It will probably take some time and experimentation to get it right. As always, it's about the journey. i have to take the steps myself, but i like to hear from other travelers and try to understand the map.

(in reply to BD123)

Profile

Post #: 6

RE: preparing to submit - 9/23/2006 7:57:31 PM

cinderella221972

Posts: 17
Joined: 4/8/2005
Status: offline

Even in a 24/7 M/s relationship, it can be a challenge to shift from work mode where the more "in charge" part of the personality may be in use to the submissive upon returning home. When i first entered my 24/7 relationship as a submissive, i was teaching junior high and high school classes. i had to be "in charge, in control" in the classroom and it took some experimenting to figure out the best way to make the transition upon returning home each evening. What seemed to work best for me was to go to the bedroom alone, disrobe, get on my knees, and write in the journal i was required to keep for Master. Five or ten minutes and my mindset had returned to it's proper place.

Best wishes finding what works for you. cinderella

(in reply to gardenbluebird)

Profile

Post #: 7