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Adelphus -> What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/23/2006 9:34:25 PM)
Right, so this seems like a real easy question and maybe it is. Some people say if you have any kind of sex at all, you aren't a virgin (so does a spanking count?). Some say it's once your hymen's gone you aren't (what about tampons?), then others say that oral sex counts, then it's penetration by anything, while still OTHERS say it has to be an actual male penis. Now I'm a lesbian, always was, so there will be no penises, thank you. How the hell do I know if I'm still considered a virgin? ;-p

Jasmyn -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/23/2006 9:36:51 PM)
Christ I wish I had that luxury lol ... not being defined by whether or not I've had a penis in me ...

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/23/2006 9:39:07 PM)
For the most part, people still go by the idea that "actual virginity" is lost during penis/vagina intercourse. But as noted, this really is only a useful term if we're talking about heterosexuals. So generally, ones "virginity" is gone after one engages in sexual intercourse- anal, oral, or otherwise. While understanding the idea that the "first time is special" I think the sooner we rid ourselves of the idea that "asexual = pure" the better.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/23/2006 9:40:45 PM)
Personal definition. You lose your virginity when you have sexual contact with your selected partner. If your a lesbian, you'll never lose your virginity so to speak to a penis.. but you have undoubtably had sex with partners. There are a lot that define it as actual intercourse (natural or helped along by equipment), which is how my boy sees it. Hope that helps DV

Adelphus -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/23/2006 9:45:12 PM)
Hee heee...trying to figure out if I lost my viginity last night. She's my first partner ever, so I've done nothing this intense up until this point. God it was awesome....

Sirandlittle1 -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/23/2006 9:53:05 PM)
Technically speaking, id say its during penetrative hetero sex. Personally, i have a plethora of hypothesis, that i can select from depending on my mood/insight. I lost my virginity when: I first orgasmed from having sex with another I first had sex with someone i loved who loved me in return I didnt have to finish myself off I slept with them all night for the frist time after the sex I knew the persons name in the morning When they knew my name in the morning When i first had sex with a male When i first had sex with a female When i first had sex with both a male and a female When i first had sex outside When i first had sex in a bed When i first had sex with a BDSM theme, not just sprinkles When i first had sex on drugs When i first had sex .........................etc etc ps. Having sexual relations that leave you dissatisfied for whatever reason, they dont count! littleone

siouxie -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/23/2006 9:54:26 PM)
[:)] I'm really happy for you! Best of luck with everything from hereon in.

Owned1 -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/23/2006 10:02:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sirandlittle1 Technically speaking, id say its during penetrative hetero sex. Personally, i have a plethora of hypothesis, that i can select from depending on my mood/insight. I lost my virginity when: I first orgasmed from having sex with another I first had sex with someone i loved who loved me in return I didnt have to finish myself off I slept with them all night for the frist time after the sex I knew the persons name in the morning When they knew my name in the morning When i first had sex with a male When i first had sex with a female When i first had sex with both a male and a female When i first had sex outside When i first had sex in a bed When i first had sex with a BDSM theme, not just sprinkles When i first had sex on drugs When i first had sex .........................etc etc ps. Having sexual relations that leave you dissatisfied for whatever reason, they dont count! littleone LOL if having sexual relations that leave you dissafisfied means you are still a virgin there are thousands of them on this earth, mostly female I would suspect.....[:D] Owned

FelinePersuasion -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/23/2006 10:59:24 PM)
Tampons do not break the hymen. I used tampons asa young menstrator an still had my hymen when I had sex. quote: ORIGINAL: Adelphus Some say it's once your hymen's gone you aren't (what about tampons?),

Owned1 -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/23/2006 11:04:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion Tampons do not break the hymen. I used tampons asa young menstrator an still had my hymen when I had sex. quote: ORIGINAL: Adelphus Some say it's once your hymen's gone you aren't (what about tampons?), Sorry to burst your "bubble" however riding a bike doing gymnastics and wearing a tampon will break your hymen. However just because you have an torn hymen does not mean you are not a virgin. Technically virginity is lost when there is insertion during sex, if you truly want to look at a text book definition. However over time there have been many versions of what constitues sex, after even the President of the USA had his version (which will go down in history more than anything else he did). Owned

Sirandlittle1 -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/24/2006 12:34:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Owned1 LOL if having sexual relations that leave you dissafisfied means you are still a virgin there are thousands of them on this earth, mostly female I would suspect.....[:D] Owned Then they've only themselves to blame.[&:]

yaqeta -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/24/2006 3:14:25 AM)
My opinion is that you are no longer a virgin when you no longer feel like one. Some would argue I lost my virginity the time when my male partner first penetrated me with his penis... but he only had it partly in before we stopped and he withdrew, so we didn't actually have sexual intercourse as I understand it. Some would say it was the first time my male partner penetrated me until ejaculation, but my hymen was still intact after. Some would say it was when my hymen was finally broken, but if thats the case I'd had sex with 4 people and still stayed a virgin. Personally, I believe it was before any of these events, on the day when myself and my partner got naked and explored each other in intimate new ways. It was beautiful and exhilerating (sp?) and afterwards, I felt that I had crossed a line into new territory, and was now a sexually active human being. That, for me, was losing my virginity: I felt a change.

BD123 -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/24/2006 1:14:28 PM)
Congradulations in finding that someone special and best of luck with everything from hereon in.

Adelphus -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/24/2006 1:27:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yaqeta My opinion is that you are no longer a virgin when you no longer feel like one. Personally, I believe it was before any of these events, on the day when myself and my partner got naked and explored each other in intimate new ways. It was beautiful and exhilerating (sp?) and afterwards, I felt that I had crossed a line into new territory, and was now a sexually active human being. That, for me, was losing my virginity: I felt a change. Yes, I think that this sounds best. I have trouble with lying, so it's good to know I can still say straight-faced that I'm a virgin if I need to, (though I have no idea how that situation would arise!) but over all, yes.... I have indeed finally crossed that line in my mind. I was beginning to think it would never happen! You guys may not remember her, she went by the name Whipenrod and has the most beautiful face. She always looks like she's smiling somehow, probably because she always is. [:)] http://www.theseventhstarprojects.com/P10100791_1.jpg

siouxie -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/24/2006 7:25:48 PM)
I didn't know her - haven't been around on here all that long - but you two do look rather happy there, and the setting is wonderful! (i was on the beach last night, in the rain as usual!)

GreySaber -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/24/2006 7:36:50 PM)
I came across your profile prior to seeing this post. (Your images make me lament your homosexuality, though I wish you the best of luck with it.) Now, The limitation of 'penis vagina' for virginity are silly. There was a gay fellow on politically incorrect some time ago who said "Accoring to Bill Clinton, oral sex isn't sex..... and that would make me a virgin..." And whilst we are at it, let's examine that in more detail. If you were a male homosexual instead of a female one, and you had had a million men penetrate your backside, but never been with a woman, would you be a virgin? Certainly not. On the other hand, we can't classify EVERYTHING as sex. That would be silly. It should be more then a significant grope in the least. How about oral as a minimum for lesbians?

sexychik69 -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/24/2006 8:07:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Adelphus Right, so this seems like a real easy question and maybe it is. Some people say if you have any kind of sex at all, you aren't a virgin (so does a spanking count?). Some say it's once your hymen's gone you aren't (what about tampons?), then others say that oral sex counts, then it's penetration by anything, while still OTHERS say it has to be an actual male penis. Now I'm a lesbian, always was, so there will be no penises, thank you. How the hell do I know if I'm still considered a virgin? ;-p I think that if you've been with a woman before sexually (since you are a proclaimed lesbian) then that would be your definition of virginity. Just like heterosexual people would consider pussy/cock intercourse a way to lose virginity. As DV said though, it's personal definition. [:)]

Estring -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/24/2006 8:10:34 PM)
For a lesbian, wouldn't it be lockjaw?[;)]

Sinergy -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/24/2006 8:29:39 PM)
Hello A/all, The proscriptions in the middle east-based religions (Christianity, Islam, Judaism, etc) which have an issue about virginity tend to focus on the piercing of the hymen in a woman. According to them, you are still a virgin if your hymen is still intact and your husband can show the bloody rag to his family who waits outside. While I have ruined a few virgins in my day. I tend to agree with George Clooney, who said "Who the hell wants a virgin? I want 3 professionals." But that is just me, and I could be wrong. Sinergy

Lordandmaster -> RE: What counts as losing virginity if you are a woman? (9/24/2006 9:13:33 PM)
This is one of those questions that makes me just want to wait for the dictionary crew to haul out their Websters and argue about what virginity "means."

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