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Messages - 9/24/2006 7:42:54 AM

NightMaster00

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I always wonder why people who post their profile here (as they seek for something or other) don't take the time to at least read the messages they are sent. I understand many women receive lots of responses and that they can't be bothered responding for one reason or another (a short "I'm not interested" would suffice) but it seems ludicrous to me that they don't even read the messages. Am I crazy or just too naive to expect my messages to be read?

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RE: Messages - 9/24/2006 7:45:44 AM

demistress

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It's entirely possible she's installed a filter that sends males over a certain age to the bulk folder, which chances are she ignores entirely unless she's reallllly bored.

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RE: Messages - 9/24/2006 8:02:00 AM

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By and large many women have learned the hard way that ignoring and deleting seems to work best when contacted by those who do not fit what they seek, or have not read their profile. Too often a simple sorry not interested results in nasty replies from the one who contacted them. Many women also set parameters for what they seek and as mentioned those outside their parameters go to the bulk folder and every so often the bulk folder is emptied without any being read. In all honesty just because someone gets an email doesn't mean they are required to read it or respond to it. No answer is an answer and you just move on instead of dwelling on it. That's life.

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RE: Messages - 9/24/2006 9:33:07 AM

MasterFireMaam

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Sometimes, it's easier to ignore or not answer when the sender is not an interesting person to them. When I read a profile that has no real information in it, I usually don't bother. I want someone who has at least made some kind of effort. Other times, it's because it's obvious that they haven't read the profile. I can tell this when I get addressed as Mistress.

Might I suggest flushing out your profile? There's hundreds of Doms here and your profile doesn't say a thing about you, the person. Perhaps disinterest is why you're not getting responses.

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RE: Messages - 9/24/2006 11:46:33 AM

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There used to be a a feature in the Mail that would indicate that the mail had been deleted unread whereupon you could draw your own conclusions of the person in the profile... But since they've upgraded it's disappeared, thinks it should be revised, but then what do I know???

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RE: Messages - 9/24/2006 11:54:31 AM

EbonyFtshGoddess

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quote:

There used to be a a feature in the Mail that would indicate that the mail had been deleted unread whereupon you could draw your own conclusions of the person in the profile... But since they've upgraded it's disappeared, thinks it should be revised, but then what do I know???

you can go to the sent mail section and any mail that you've sent to someone will say either "No" next to it (indicating that it had not been read) or it will show a time and date that it has been read.

secondly.. i WHOLEHEARTEDLY agree with everything that SweetSarijane said. sometimes no answer is indeed an answer and it's just easier not to reply to someone you're not interested in or that hasn't taken the time to read your profile in it's entirety.

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RE: Messages - 9/24/2006 12:57:47 PM

diamonddreamlove

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Sometimes one just gets to many at once and with real life invading there is no time for common courtesy. Sorry but that is how it goes. Besides i have answered some that have just harrassed the living crud out of me so i am much more cautious now.

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RE: Messages - 9/24/2006 2:42:14 PM

toservez

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Two reasons for not reading the first message you sent. They may have set up the bulk mail controls and your messages go into there and the person never reads her bulk messages or if you are always contacting newer people then it might take them days if not weeks to go through them all if they are trying to reply back sincerely to many and they only have so many free hours in the day.

In terms of not replying, there are a ton of threads, but while most people take "no thank you" messages nicely there are still too many who think that is just a starting point and/or too many who are just plain abusive that I understand why some adopt limited replies. Most of the people I do not end up replying to are people who put no effort into their message and profile so why should I take the effort to reply.

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RE: Messages - 9/24/2006 10:14:37 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: demistress

It's entirely possible she's installed a filter that sends males over a certain age to the bulk folder, which chances are she ignores entirely unless she's reallllly bored.

And if she's taken the time to install such a filter, hopefully she's also taken a moment to include an age-range preference in her profile essay.

If so, then thoughtful and caring males who have taken the time to read her profile won't even send e-mails to her if they are outside of her age-range preference.

As far as the thoughtless and uncaring males go, who may have either ignored or not even read her profile, who cares whether they suffer the unanswered question of why she hasn't even read his e-mail?

Unfortunately, we don't see many stated age-range preferences though, do we?
This being said, I think the OP has a very valid point regarding e-mails not even being read.

If you Ladies are installing age filters that send e-mails to bulk and not posting matching age preferences in your profile, then that makes you thoughtless and uncaring.

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RE: Messages - 9/25/2006 8:28:35 AM

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Heck, I've had women send ME emails, and when I respond, they never open my response.

*shrugs* I just never seriously worried about it. I just figured her loss.

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RE: Messages - 9/26/2006 1:42:34 PM

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I'm one of the frustrated masses that can't stand when people can't even bother with a simple "sorry, not interested". I think the excuses about too much email making it impossible to bother with a simple reply is just that, an excuse. After all, it doesn't take more than about 5 seconds.

Of course, if you reply "sorry, no thank you" and they keep harassing you, then that's what the ignore button or reporting the asshole is for, and shows just how rude they are and how right you are to say no to begin with. But at least have the decency to say no once. It's just polite.

Of course, then there's always the frustration of starting a nice email exchange with somone, maybe some lengthy emails and back-and-forth questions, and suddenly they stop replying without any reason given. Irritating...

Maybe my standards of what is "rude" or "polite" are just out of whack in this digital age.

(sorry, waxing cynical today)

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