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CrappyDom -> RE: Another perspective (9/25/2006 10:23:00 AM)
For some I guess virgins and such are fine. For someone of my stature and experience what do I care if they have been with others and in general would prefer that over little if any experience. The more people they have experienced they more they will realize how superior I am, how much more talented and creative I am than the others they have been with. For those who know me and wonder if the above is sarcasm, it most certainly is not, I am just that good.

Severian -> RE: Another perspective (9/25/2006 10:59:00 AM)
Many good suggestions here. I appreciate everyone's input! Actually, I did find out what had caused her date to go bad and it was over something I would not have done. I did not break the contact 'on the spot.' The conversation happened on her way home from the date. She had picked up some food on the way home. I needed to eat as well so it was agreed that she would call me after she finished eating. She did not call and I had enough time to assess my feelings on the matter to know that our connection was becoming more and more displeasing. I attempted to call her but she did not answer. Then I received a call from her where she did not say anything (interestingly enough by that time I had sent an e-mail - very polite - explaining how I felt I was being treated.) She never tried to explain her position. My lifestyle preference is that of Dominant for that is what pleases me and gives me the excitement I need to please someone who's lifestyle is a compliment to my own. Above all I am still human and that means that I am open to misinterpreting what I perceive. I make errors (which in this current situation I feel I made many.) I have much to learn. I think ending this was most likely the correct thing to do but I did so for the wrong reasons.

juliaoceania -> RE: Another perspective (9/25/2006 5:51:00 PM)
It sounds like there are better connections out there for you. I would make sure you are on the same page about seeing other people or not seeing other people in the future if you sense a connect... expectations should be reasonable on both sides...smiles

justheather -> RE: Another perspective (9/25/2006 6:25:29 PM)
If you were getting weird vibes from her before the discussion about her being out on another date, it could be that she just said that in the hopes that you would break up with her. Some people cant come out and say "Im sorry it's just not working out for me", they have to "make" the other person do the "breaking up". I do not think exclusivity is a reasonable request at that stage of getting-to-know-you. I dont know why she could not have just said she was "out" instead of "out with another Dom". Perhaps she was trying to let you know that she was still looking around, but didnt really choose the most tactful way to express it. I agree with Julia that it sounds like it just was not a good match. Keep your chin up.

justheather -> RE: Another perspective (9/25/2006 6:27:11 PM)
By the way, CrappyDom, are you travelling with the touring company of Spamalot? Because I just saw it last week and the guy playing King Arthur looks JUST LIKE YOU. I'm not kidding, it was uncanny.

Pimpernell -> RE: Another perspective (9/26/2006 1:26:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: justheather If you were getting weird vibes from her before the discussion about her being out on another date, it could be that she just said that in the hopes that you would break up with her. Some people cant come out and say "Im sorry it's just not working out for me", they have to "make" the other person do the "breaking up". My last girfriend did exactly that, making the relationship so unpleasant that I would break up with her and she would be the poor victim. Now I can't stand any form of passive-aggresive behaviour.

Nimkii -> RE: Another perspective (9/26/2006 10:47:40 AM)
They want to date and were not into anything serrious thats cool. Perhaps some one else will suit there needs better then I. No skin off My nose. They want something different and unique then they will stick around. It doesn't take me long to figure out who is serrious and who just desires to be a play slut.

Wolfie648 -> RE: Another perspective (9/27/2006 1:30:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Severian How would you react to a potential sub telling you the reason they weren't there to take your call was because they were on a date? Doesn't matter what I think/how I'd react. It matters what you think and you seemed pretty clear on that. D (owner of j)

Celeste43 -> RE: Another perspective (9/27/2006 6:45:31 AM)
we spoke for over a month before meeting, and by the end it was multiple phone calls, emails and chat daily. Yet he didn't ask for exclusivity until after the first meet simply because neither of us could predict if there would be chemistry or not.

LASub4Real -> RE: Another perspective (9/27/2006 12:11:18 PM)
Well, previous to the Dom date disclosure you stated that you were already feeling a level of "animosity" from her. It sounds like perhaps this wasn't really going to work out regardless. That happens all the time, and you are probably the better for cutting it off when you did. Also, disclosure goes both ways. As a sub myself who chats, emails, and phone calls Dommes, I would feel that if I had someone else I was dating at the time, that I would disclose that immediately. Why? Because I'm the one who's already semi-involved with someone else so I have no problem offering that information regardless of it has been asked of me. LAsub

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