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First experience as a Top - 9/25/2006 12:53:10 AM

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I am just arriving home from a play party hosted by a group called Dirge Factory, quite often it is refered to as BDSM-lite in this area, but sometimes you gotta take what you can get. I spoke to the DM and let him know that i was interested in topping a S&M scene. after some leanthy conversation about tools and techniques, a "stunt bottom" was found. both he and I were put through our paces. I received quite a bit of feedback, some good, some bad, all given and taken constructively, from him and the Master guiding me. I throughly enjoyed Topping, and was told that I did a wonderful job, especialy for a beginner. I was not expecting the large difference in the endorphin buzz that I received topping. I crashed much harder from that buzz than I have any time that i bottomed.

Scorecard for the night: i was flogged by experienced Master, I flogged one willing "stunt bottom", and then i "stunt bottomed" for a new Domme. All in all, a good night.

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RE: First experience as a Top - 9/25/2006 8:19:04 AM

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He enters, dips His lid;

Well Done!!! You are proud of yourself andrightly so!

It's great that your are exploring the 'classification' of L/s that you fit into.

Warm regards;
Driver1961. Sir to His loving WildChild.

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RE: First experience as a Top - 9/25/2006 8:22:42 AM

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Yes, the Dirge Factory as well as Purgatory in Charlotte can be fun. There's nothing wrong with a little S&M (Stand & Model). I mean, hey, I look HOT in this outfit! LOL

If you want something that not so much "kink taking over goth space", consider a real time BDSM group. Feel free to email me on the other side. I have a list of groups in our state.

Top drop can be hard, too. Take care of yourself and pamper yourself. Do things that are healthy for you...and stay in touch with your kinky friends. They probably know what you're going through.

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RE: First experience as a Top - 9/25/2006 12:34:54 PM

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Driver, thanks for the regards.

Master Fire, I had gotten involved with TTC before... things... happened. I'd love to see more info about other clubs, you have mail.

I know that Dirge factory is not the most "lifestyle" club, but it is where i was introduced to S&M (not just Stand and Model)

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RE: First experience as a Top - 9/25/2006 12:44:35 PM

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I've been to DF...it was fun. I'd do it again if it wasn't on a SUNDAY night. So, I wasn't tryin' to bash the event. It's a great place to be introduced.

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RE: First experience as a Top - 9/25/2006 2:18:21 PM

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it does suck that it is on a Sunday, but I had worked all weekend so I took today off, I was able to sleep in. there is a quarterly one on Fridays at Aris Lounge on Martin St downtown Raleigh. I want to say that the next one is the first week in November, but not sure on that.

and i agree on the fact that its a good place to be introduced, a little S&M in the back, none of the stuff that could be seen as "heavy" by vanillas

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