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jesskitty -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/26/2006 2:02:52 PM)
personally i haven't found anything really substantial from any bdsm website. there's good discussion, i befriend people that are faraway but i haven't found anyone i click with that's local to me friendship or relationship wise. my personal thoughts are that if magically somehow everyone stoped b.s.ing each other, people would take the time to think through their responses instead of mainly sending out rude and disrespectful messages it'd be easier for people to connect in person via sites like this..but that's just my two cents.

Eir -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/26/2006 2:06:57 PM)
I have found what I was looking for good riddence :D A lover, a friend, a dom... the man that I would like to do everything for...

gandalf0297 -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/26/2006 3:36:39 PM)
yep.

Kirei -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/26/2006 3:39:12 PM)
I have never found anything good from a site...I do much better at events, demos, or munches. Koneko

jamesthehumanrug -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/26/2006 3:48:37 PM)
kitty;people are on this web for you and acting special for each other ;whos kidding who; usually; you get to people, by recommendations [sm=brush.gif],and word of mouth ,esp., amoung women;but ,if you can do it yourself here; all the more power to you;i found what i wanted in this life; and lost it;but ;then again; you cant take that away from a person; once something becomes part of the heart; no matter how cold the days may get; and no matter how hard the hearts you meet from that day on are ....but, to be persistant is a rule of thumb;you won't get anywhere ,without forcing yourself ,out there ,and pushing yourself ,to keep trying;even when you don't want to anymore[>:] ..... quote: ORIGINAL: jesskitty personally i haven't found anything really substantial from any bdsm website. there's good discussion, i befriend people that are faraway but i haven't found anyone i click with that's local to me friendship or relationship wise. my personal thoughts are that if magically somehow everyone stoped b.s.ing each other, people would take the time to think through their responses instead of mainly sending out rude and disrespectful messages it'd be easier for people to connect in person via sites like this..but that's just my two cents.

jesskitty -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/26/2006 8:23:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jamesthehumanrug kitty;people are on this web for you and acting special for each other ;whos kidding who; usually; you get to people, by recommendations [sm=brush.gif],and word of mouth ,esp., amoung women;but ,if you can do it yourself here; all the more power to you;i found what i wanted in this life; and lost it;but ;then again; you cant take that away from a person; once something becomes part of the heart; no matter how cold the days may get; and no matter how hard the hearts you meet from that day on are ....but, to be persistant is a rule of thumb;you won't get anywhere ,without forcing yourself ,out there ,and pushing yourself ,to keep trying;even when you don't want to anymore[>:] ..... quote: ORIGINAL: jesskitty personally i haven't found anything really substantial from any bdsm website. there's good discussion, i befriend people that are faraway but i haven't found anyone i click with that's local to me friendship or relationship wise. my personal thoughts are that if magically somehow everyone stoped b.s.ing each other, people would take the time to think through their responses instead of mainly sending out rude and disrespectful messages it'd be easier for people to connect in person via sites like this..but that's just my two cents. i know this might sound ignorant, but i've read this over 5 times..and i don't understand one bit of it from begging or end or middle. if anyone or you yourself could reword it so i can understand it that'd be greatly appreciated. i like knowing what people are trying to communicate to me. [:)]

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/26/2006 8:30:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jesskitty i know this might sound ignorant, but i've read this over 5 times..and i don't understand one bit of it from begging or end or middle. if anyone or you yourself could reword it so i can understand it that'd be greatly appreciated. i like knowing what people are trying to communicate to me. [:)] No Jesskitty, it isn't you, James is like that. If you did understand him, I would ask what you were sniffing? M

LadyMorgynn -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/26/2006 8:34:53 PM)
I've been here almost a year now, and can never make heads or tails over his posts; they are just too much trouble to decipher and not usually worth it in the end even if you do spend the time. I just skip over 'em and don't bother. I mean... he sure doesn't bother making any attempt to make them legible to us. quote: ORIGINAL: jesskitty i know this might sound ignorant, but i've read this over 5 times..and i don't understand one bit of it from begging or end or middle. if anyone or you yourself could reword it so i can understand it that'd be greatly appreciated. i like knowing what people are trying to communicate to me. [:)]

jesskitty -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/26/2006 8:45:20 PM)
phew! i thought it was just me! sometimes i'm just a dumb blonde at heart.[:)]

kinkyohiocpl -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/26/2006 11:02:41 PM)
Nope we have been here a year or so and been other places for about the same time with no luck. We work weekends so we can not realy get to munch's or any partys. With all the fakes online we are slowly figuring out that we may never find the female sub or slave that we want.

mons -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/27/2006 1:58:22 AM)
greetings when i first came to this site yes i was looking for a slave or submissives but i have found something more inmportant .............friends it is so strange but the friends i got to know and speak with are more important oh yes i will see if i find someone in time but the friends are great. mons

WhyteRavenne -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/27/2006 8:46:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn Not yet... but what I want is pretty specific and also pretty definite; I'm not inclined to compromise; so I knew in the beginning it would take me a long time to find what I sought. It just takes patience. Which is not to say there aren't days when I feel frustrated and impatient and sick to death of wading through the trolls, wannabees and gamesters... but eventually I regain my perspective and keep on with the search. Thank you, Lady Morgynn, Sometimes a little reality, that one is not alone is all that is needed, though. We are all looking for something, why else would we be on cm, or even the internet!? However, finding the person or people that are looking for the same things we are can be tricky. I hope you find what you seek, Ravenne

Frank01 -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/27/2006 8:48:55 AM)
This site provides entertainment. Anything beyond that is gravy.

WhyteRavenne -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/27/2006 8:56:23 AM)
LOL, Frank... I will openly disagree.. and most likely agree to, with you. If I want entertainment, for the time I spend online, I could go to a movie and get a better deal! However, I think it's great that there are opinions that differ so greatly from mine! Good luck, Frank, and all others who feel that way! I hope you are rewarded with entertainment!

FirmhandKY -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/27/2006 9:44:33 AM)
There are no guarantees in life. However, I will say that one's attitude is often a determining factor in "success" or "failure". Knowing that you may never find the "perfect" match for you shouldn't be a surprise, but then again, failure to try will almost certainly guarantee failure to find. Personally, I've looked for years on this site and others, and in person. I've meet some nice, interesting people, and I've meet some not so nice or interesting people. At times I've spent a lot of time looking, at other times I just said "to hell with it". For a time. In the end, when I did find "the one", I couldn't believe it at first. It was just too good to be true .... I had to slap myself, mentally . I tried all the test, all the "tricks" that I knew to confirm or deny, to catch her, and make her expose her "real self". Fortunately for me, her "real self" was the one she was showing me. Yes, I've found what I was looking for, after years of thinking, soul-searching and looking. And it's a match that is so excellent that it's one that I never realisticly expected, although I had always kept a forlorn hope out for it. It not based on fantasy, but a realistic and deep appreciation of what we both want, and what we both need. It is based on years of being in relationships that weren't what we both wanted or needed. It was easy to recognize because of all the people and relationships before that weren't successful. Those people and relationships that "didn't work out" were the fire that purified our souls, and our self-understanding. So even the most difficult and unfufilling relationship we had before were a positive thing in the long run, and helped forged our understanding of what we truly wanted and needed. ahhh, yes, I have truly found my treasure. FHky

MySweetSubmssive -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/27/2006 10:02:46 AM)
Have I found my be all and end all? No, I haven't. While I'm not going to settle for someone who has a different orientation to BDSM than I do, I am more and more cognizant of how a shining ideal gets in the way of finding someone ... real. I both like the question of whether we have found what we want (as a reality check) and see it as a symptom of that fantasy-seeking. What I have found here is a deepening understanding of what I am looking for and who I am as a dominant, and the opportunity to take pleasure in the submission of a few wonderful men. While the experiences haven't been perfect (maybe they never will be), I've learned and grown and experimented. The only way I can know myself in D/s is by doing, and I have appreciated the submissives I have know thus far. MSS

RosaB -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/27/2006 10:38:13 AM)
Nope, haven't found the one and I'm ok with that. It's been an interesting, exciting, and at times hurtful, but mostly enlightning experience. I'm content with things as they are now, but if the one falls from the sky, I'll be happy to catch him with my net. Would I want a loving d/s relationship if I could have it or for that matter a loving man woman relationship? absolutely. Is it necessary for me to have it to be happy? No. Haven't found the one, don't expect to anytime in the near future. Though that guy that wears the dark cloak gives me a tingle. [;)] Rosa

MASTERRocker -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/27/2006 10:41:35 AM)
I want the Bruins to win the Stanley Cup BEFORE I die - but I will settle finding an honest slave - that will be much easier and a better winning combination..... MASTER Rocker

CreoleCook -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/29/2006 9:04:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WhyteRavenne how many have found what they have been REALLY looking for. Not just settling, but, honest to goddess, "this is what I want". I've thought long and hard on this topic, even after the woman with whom I am interested in, has posted her own response. Here's how I feel... I honestly thought I wanted something completely different from her. Yet here I sit, contemplating collaring, and yes, marrying this woman with whom I want to spend the rest of my life with. We have our differences... we have our similiarities. We have different techniques to deal with different situations. Yet the overriding factor is how we feel when we are together, whether hand in hand, or just voice to voice. We've known each other for several years, via the internet, and have spoken a time or two of possibilities, yet until this past year, nothing was ever set in stone. Now she's coming down to visit me in about a week, and I look forward to the time I get to spend with her more than any plans we may have ideas for... so to answer the question... no, I did not find what I was looking for. I did, however find what I finally saw in her..... in us. Creole

amayos -> RE: Have you found what you want? (9/29/2006 10:05:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WhyteRavenne How many have found what they have been REALLY looking for. Not just settling, but, honest to goddess, "this is what I want". I have found what I've looked for in complete form once here or twice there. Total living breathing ideals are a rarity, and so I usually find that I must shape a girl to my liking. That said, I don't ever make anything from whole cloth. Any quilt I consider adding to must show some promising patches to rouse my interest.

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