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RE: sub/slave - 9/26/2006 1:32:20 PM

MasterFireMaam

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ORIGINAL: patina

My question is Why does a Dom change the status of a person when he/she clearly states what they desire to be?

If a sub comes to you to be a sub why does a Dom start addressing that sub as a slave a few days later and when that sub say's wait I agreeded to be a sub, you are told "I am the master do as I say be quiet slave". If you refuse He says you do not want to be of the lifestyle you are just playing at it.

Because people have a way of assuming everyone thinks and reacts to thing the same way they do.

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I think we have to many wanna be Master playing at it.

Or, they could simply be inexperienced and just simply not know what they want or how to get what they want. I know many, many people, myself included, who thought they had to be "this" way in order to be "that" kind of person. It took me a few years to figure out that I didn't identify as a Fem Dom at all. I'm a Master.

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Maybe I have answered my own question. Maybe we need to start monitoring and demanding accountability from our own groups as all have the wanna be players. The problem is how?

I actually have an idea. It was done on a diff. site.

My question isn't about how to do this...my question is WHY do you WANT to do this. As annoying as these people might be, they will never go away...and policing them in such a way as to get rid of them, you might be getting rid of genuine people who are simply confused. Why deny them the chance to educate themselves and grow.

If you don't like how a person treats you or reacts to you, it is YOUR responsibility to defend your boundaries. Complaining about how crappy they are doesn't bring any positive energy to your life. Simpy thank them for their time and explain that the kind of treatment/relationship they have come to offer isn't what you're looking for. I know it's annoying and sometimes painful to have to do this...but...it's all trial and error. Have patience and go slow.

Master Fire

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(in reply to patina)