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RE: Casual sex versus Casual D/s and/or BDSM - 9/27/2006 5:27:36 PM

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I can't do casual...............Must have something there...........

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RE: Casual sex versus Casual D/s and/or BDSM - 9/27/2006 6:24:57 PM

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Casual BDSM, yes.

Casual sex, no.

Casual D/s..not sure there is casual D/s.

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RE: Casual sex versus Casual D/s and/or BDSM - 9/27/2006 6:42:15 PM

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I must ask what most consider to be casual. I have read from many here on the forums that they play in groups often, participate in the local scene, etc, and to me, this says "casual player".. yet, the majority of the answers indicate that most are selective? Hmm...

I don't play with anyone I don't know or like. If I enjoy them and know them, even if there is no "future" I can top them. To meet someone in a casual sense, like a fix, for sex or BDSM is not important to me. Nor are group events or play parties. I will go, but I play with those I know and none other.

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RE: Casual sex versus Casual D/s and/or BDSM - 9/27/2006 8:24:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: WetHotGoddess

I must ask what most consider to be casual. I have read from many here on the forums that they play in groups often, participate in the local scene, etc, and to me, this says "casual player".. yet, the majority of the answers indicate that most are selective? Hmm...

I don't play with anyone I don't know or like. If I enjoy them and know them, even if there is no "future" I can top them. To meet someone in a casual sense, like a fix, for sex or BDSM is not important to me. Nor are group events or play parties. I will go, but I play with those I know and none other.

That was one of my main thoughts when I wrote this thread. I read all the people who are active in their local community and participate in play parties, which to me are 100% casual play, and to me even a mentor relationship that BDSM is involved is casual as well. Since for me personally I could not submit to something in a play party if I was not owned and ordered but can decide if I am going to have sex with someone I know there is no chance at happily ever after I was curious.

So what is casual play BDSM to people and the ones answered already, none of you do play parties?

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RE: Casual sex versus Casual D/s and/or BDSM - 9/28/2006 4:02:46 AM

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None of you do play parties?

I used to be active in my community, but it was generally between relationships. Most of the submissive partners I had, except for the first, did not want to have anything to do with meeting other people in the Lifestyle. Most of my activity was while single.

What I would see at play parties was that usually the people who were playing were already couples. The difference between their playing at home and at the parties is that there were people around, and it didn't bother them.

There was one group I was a part of that 'featured' one couple whose play level was at a much higher level than the rest. They had no trouble playing 'hard' in front of others. At some point, and I can't actually recall how, I was asked to participate. Sometimes in conjunction with her Master, at others while he was taking a break. From then on, when there were parties I would be asked to 'assist' this same couple. I suppose that during those hours I was part of the 'family'. I never had any communication with them except for the parties.

Through people seeing me with them, I would also be asked to 'demonstrate' with other single, submissive women, usually involving electrical play, but my involvement with them was kept strictly to the party.

If I were to become involved in the community again, it would start out the same way. I would just 'be there'. I don't do the Dom 'rooster' thing very well. I don't try to garner attention. Eventually, it just finds me.

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RE: Casual sex versus Casual D/s and/or BDSM - 9/28/2006 10:10:46 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: toservez

quote:

ORIGINAL: WetHotGoddess

I must ask what most consider to be casual. I have read from many here on the forums that they play in groups often, participate in the local scene, etc, and to me, this says "casual player".. yet, the majority of the answers indicate that most are selective? Hmm...

I don't play with anyone I don't know or like. If I enjoy them and know them, even if there is no "future" I can top them. To meet someone in a casual sense, like a fix, for sex or BDSM is not important to me. Nor are group events or play parties. I will go, but I play with those I know and none other.

That was one of my main thoughts when I wrote this thread. I read all the people who are active in their local community and participate in play parties, which to me are 100% casual play, and to me even a mentor relationship that BDSM is involved is casual as well. Since for me personally I could not submit to something in a play party if I was not owned and ordered but can decide if I am going to have sex with someone I know there is no chance at happily ever after I was curious.

So what is casual play BDSM to people and the ones answered already, none of you do play parties?

I did the "community thing" at one time.

The childish games and politics pretty much ruined my enjoyment of it-I don't bother now.

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RE: Casual sex versus Casual D/s and/or BDSM - 9/28/2006 10:53:27 AM

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I do play parties, but am very choosey about the ones I attend. I avoid the bigger groups' parties and only attend a smaller group's parties and occasional private by invitation only parties. I stay away from the drama that way and I like it that way.

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RE: Casual sex versus Casual D/s and/or BDSM - 9/28/2006 10:58:44 AM

Kirei

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Well I don't do one night stands. Causal how do you define casual? I have done casual d/s stuff at local munch for someone new a few times to teach them....I don't know does that count? Sex there has to be something.

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RE: Casual sex versus Casual D/s and/or BDSM - 9/28/2006 1:54:44 PM

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I don't do D/s BDSM things or have sex casualy

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RE: Casual sex versus Casual D/s and/or BDSM - 9/28/2006 2:02:06 PM

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so.... does that mean you have sex frequently then????
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RE: Casual sex versus Casual D/s and/or BDSM - 9/28/2006 2:23:14 PM

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I see casual anything as just a desire to feed a craving, sex, bdsm, drinking. I make no distiction between them for they are all addicting, in their own way. Doing nothing but casual though, I find to be a bit unhealthy.

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