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FirmhandKY -> RE: What are you? (9/28/2006 7:32:41 AM)

I'd don't consider myself a normal "dom" because I refuse to be type-cast.  I like to think of myself as a "man".  But maybe not even an "average" man.

I don't like roles assigned by others, but embrace them if they serve my needs.  I am not a sadist but can inflict pain, especially if it has a reason and serves a purpose.  I am generally quiet and unassuming, unless I decide for my own reasons to not be, then I can be a clown, a bully, a peace-maker, a killer, a lover, a cold-hearted SOB or a romantic.  

I am a man who avoids conflict and violence, unless it is required, and then I don't half-step, I go for total death and destruction.  I'm a pacificist who believes that violence is sometimes the only correct response.

I am a compassionate person, but I don't let my compassion control me.  I can shoot my own dog, and remain silent and aloof, but grieve in my heart.  I'll never tell you.

I think before I act.  I think while I'm acting. My actions almost always serve multiple purposes.

I believe a man's word is sacred, and should have value not because of other's expectations, but because of his own values. I've been known to give my word, and take it back.  I'll tell you when it happens, and why. I won't be put in a box of expectations.

I have a large ego, but it mostly justified.  I'm falliable, but not often.  I've learned that although I'm most often right, there is always someone better at any particular thing, or area of knowledge, so it pays to listen closely to others, no matter who they are.

I don't believe in ostentation and display, but in calm and quiet competence and control. I prefer quality over quantity.

I like people, but generally only in small doses.  I like women better than men, and hold men up to a higher standard.  Not many meet that standard. I don't expect them to, and I'm rarely disappointed.

I listen.  I learn.  I try to teach and guide those very few who I think show promise, or are ernestly interested in learning.

I'm impatient with fools and idiots, and have learned that most of the time it doesn't matter what you say to them, but that sometimes you can shake up their world and get to a real person underneath.  Sometimes it's just fun to watch them twist and flap in their own stupidty.  Sometimes it's better to just let them live with their illusions.

Sometimes I take pity on them.

Children and small animals hold a big place in my heart.  They don't know any better and look to adults for love, guidance and protection.  I have no pity for people who excessively coddle either children or pets.

I'm anal when it comes to detail, but have learned that "something good right now" is usually preferable to "something perfect" in the undefined future.

I don't settle for "good right now" when I can avoid it.  If I can, I'll go without rather than settle.

I'm sarcastic, but have learned that not everyone appreciates it, so often hide it in small actions and in big words.  Read my shit closely, or I'll be laughing at you.

I like attention, but think it can be a trap.  The deep attention of one person, is worth more than the fame and adulation of the masses.

I'm a leader, and a damn good one, but I prefer others take the lead.  I stand back and assist unless failure touches my goals, then I step forward and take over.  You'll be happy I did.

I'm a simple man, with simple taste and simple desires.  But no one every seems to believe me.

FHky

edited for: spelling (one of those things at which treasure is better)




stockingluvr54 -> RE: What are you? (9/28/2006 8:44:03 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

So I just received an email on the other side and it made me think.
I know, scary thought.
The man it was from was very romantic.  It was such a turn off for me. 
I'm just not into romantic doms.  I like rough, tattoos, forceful...no romance whatsoever.  It fulfills a very hard, cold side of me.

What kind of dom/domme are you?
or...
What kind of dom/domme are you attracted to?


Don't consider myself a Dom....just a vanilla guy with some d/s fantasies/traits in the bedroom. Guess I'm not real romantic.....you'll never follow a trail of rose petals up to the bedroom,etc. I'm more of a "get those panties down!" type. What I try and do is always treat a lady with respect.....open doors....little peck on the neck once in awhile...a smootch...small gift....some cuddling once in awhile....brush her hair every now and then...bring coffee to her in bed,etc.  Just little things to let her know I appreciate her.....  Of course she ain't getting none of that unless she's holding up her end of the deal.......lol




happypervert -> RE: What are you? (9/28/2006 10:16:25 AM)

[fast reply]

If a gal describes herself as a "hopeless romantic", I run the other way because she'll surely be disappointed with me.

I consider myself a hybrid -- a casual, irreverent, fairly smart space cadet, a good-natured nasty bastard, a sophisticated barbarian, a respectful wise-ass, a hip geek, and a lazy athlete . . . maybe there is a simple description that sums that up neatly.




Tikkiee -> RE: What are you? (9/28/2006 11:19:09 AM)

I am attracted to the 'bad boy' type. The rougher the image, the better the attraction




HalloweenWhite -> RE: What are you? (9/28/2006 11:32:20 AM)

Humourous,controlled,reliable,dependable,honest,sincere,creative. Oh yeah......and a sadistic bastard in the making;just have lots more reading to do then on to some "practical" sessions. [sm=evil.gif].


                                 HalloweenWhite.




innatedesire -> RE: What are you? (9/28/2006 6:32:24 PM)

what she said [:D]

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ORIGINAL: pleazuredpain

Point me in the direction of a Sadist any day of the week.  Rough, crude, yet very loving after all is said and done.






BlkTallFullfig -> RE: What are you? (9/28/2006 6:36:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: happypervert
If a gal describes herself as a "hopeless romantic", I run the other way because she'll surely be disappointed with me.

I consider myself a hybrid -- a casual, irreverent, fairly smart space cadet, a good-natured nasty bastard, a sophisticated barbarian, a respectful wise-ass, a hip geek, and a lazy athlete . . . maybe there is a simple description that sums that up neatly.
Yes, I think the word is Aquarius;  I dated this boy some time back, and he was possibly brilliant, and fun, but the romance thing eluded him often, lol.   M




Sinergy -> RE: What are you? (9/28/2006 8:26:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sweetnessforsir

I like romantic, rough and tumble men who make me feel special.   




There is something about taking my partner by surprise to Disneyland for the day.

And then spanking her nasty ass and demanding she orally gratify me while we are on the Skyway To Tomorrowland.

That is why Uncle Walt built the damn thing.  Duh.

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

Sinergy




KnightofMists -> RE: What are you? (9/28/2006 9:35:29 PM)

You mean there are different kinds... mmmmmm let me go down the list and see what kind am I.........aaaaaaawwwwww there it is.


I am  Knight of Mists.

That says it all I would say




DiurnalVampire -> RE: What are you? (9/28/2006 9:47:55 PM)

OK, I needed to get an outside opinion on this.
I am (it would seem) a very masculine personality. I do not take much interest in the more femenine endeavors, and I have masculine hobbies and pastimes. I am an affection addict, and I can be romantic when the mood strikes. However, my idea of romance isnt wine and roses, more like hiking and sunsets.  I am very physical when it comes to my D/s style, not pain, but sensual. I am very respectful of someones limits and real life situation when it comes to what I expect of them outside the home.
I am also very rough and tumble and very physically dominant.

So I am told, I actually asked what he thought.

DV




CrappyDom -> RE: What are you? (9/28/2006 10:11:59 PM)

I am an irritatingly arrogant man who thinks the world should, at least partially, revolve around me and my needs.  However as people get to know me they slowly come around and admit that I have just cause for my arrogance and at some point begrudgingly admit there is some logic in having the world revolve around me.

I care deeply about the world and am passionate about those beliefs.  I do not like to see bullies either physical, verbal, or otherwise and I will call them on it.

I love romance and my florist used to recognize my voice (been too long) but I have always believed it is the little things that count.  The small trinket or note that comes just as a doubt might arrive showing that I was always thinking of you.  Somehow knowing the day was long and that a quick dinner and relaxing evening would be perfect or that the moment you enter the door you want to be grabbed by the hair, forced to your knees and be ravaged and beaten silly.

I am the kind that sees things in side you that you haven't let yourself know yet or at least have never dared breath aloud.  I am the kind who knows when to push you past a hard limit or not approach a soft one.

I am not the biggest sadist but I have my moments and things do get hard when I hear that squeal.  I love getting inside people's head and that is perhaps my greatest gift although I do have a few other minor talents.

Bottom line is I am a daddy dom, which to me means I can be firm, demanding but ultimately loving and nurturing of my little girl.




Lordandmaster -> RE: What are you? (9/28/2006 10:16:53 PM)

I'm certainly not romantic, but I don't have any tattoos.

Anyway, I'd describe myself as mean and rough and what not.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

What kind of dom/domme are you?




ExSteelAgain -> RE: What are you? (9/28/2006 10:41:16 PM)

I can’t look at it as whether I’m a tough Dom or a romantic one. It is possible that the romantic type can “out Dom” the guy with tattoos. Who knows?

It all depends on the intelligence and other intangible qualities of both parties. I’m not necessarily talking about physical appearance but what gets your attention right off the bat, may be a stereotypical yearning that may not turn out to be what you thought it was. Uniforms mean little.

Of course all this depends on what level you want the relationship to reach. If you want the fast, no strings, not getting to know you thing, you may find release in the stereotypical, role playing person.

There are many examples of those seeking someone in a certain group only to realize that the specific person is nothing like the image of the group.  




ExSteelAgain -> RE: What are you? (9/28/2006 11:18:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger
And..... if they can't tell me who Paul Wolfowitz is..... I don't wanna fuck em'
- R


I really hope you are not serious.




deadlyangel -> RE: What are you? (10/1/2006 10:00:21 AM)

I'll confess, romance does it for me.




RiotGirl -> RE: What are you? (10/1/2006 10:26:52 AM)

tall - dark - built - dominant naturely in everything he does in his life - able to tone it down and let down his hair in right situations - a true Alpha Male.  No nonsense a tough SOB - but knows how to sit back and relax.  Knows when to be soft, and when to be tough.   Some one that i can close my eyes with and know that nothing will possibly touch me, because he wont allow it - come hell or high water. 




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