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RE: Is BDSM a move evolved type of sexuality? - 9/28/2006 9:14:23 AM

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Do you really want to know, I mean really?

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RE: Is BDSM a move evolved type of sexuality? - 9/28/2006 10:56:07 AM

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More evolved?

Nope.

Just folks trying to be happy,
and to express their longings and desires.

DD an old goat still consumed with desire

PS...
This way ain't better than other ways, just different.
It's this "my way is better/more evolved" crap
that causes much of the hate, anger, violence and war in our world.

Too bad Jesus, Mohammad, deSade, Masoch, Moses,
and Butch-The-Dom didn't all say,
here's one way to consider, others may be fine too....

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RE: Is BDSM a move evolved type of sexuality? - 9/28/2006 12:42:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress
.....let me re-ask my question for a sec, do you think it is harder for a couple to navigate in a relationship as equals where there is no final say, or harder to navigate in Power Xes, because of the learning curve and mental and emotional intricacies involved in wiitwd?

Which type of relationship navigation would allow for an impasse? A good bout of chess begins as equals, as do many sports where that equality is transitioned into a power dynamic... either by total chess pieces, or types of chess pieces (strength) or by points/score (accomplishments).

Equality is ideal for competition, and impasse, while disparity dynamics by design don't suit competition or impasse. There may be a sort of maturation curve in either relationship navigation style, but likely cancel out in overall analysis.

This is not to say in a power dynamic the sub side/position is ignored, merely that it does not constitute a final word/position... all the while not entertaining impasse or stalemate.

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RE: Is BDSM a move evolved type of sexuality? - 9/29/2006 9:39:33 AM

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I agree that there has to be one strong person in the relationship. Is'nt that what Dom/Domme's are all about. This lifestyle is based on one person being stronger than the other.

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RE: Is BDSM a move evolved type of sexuality? - 9/29/2006 3:35:14 PM

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this is the old linux/windows debate, to me.

normally, people get into windowsy relationships. there's little freedom to act, in fact most everything is conveniently ritualized for you, from the day of the first date till the divorce hearing. there's so much less to blame yourself for, and so much less you can actually accomplish.

in bdsm, people get alot more freedom, and that most usually means, alot more freedom to fuck up. i certainly consider it a superior system. mustly because my definition of superior is "that system in which the greatest number of other people fuck up the most".

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RE: Is BDSM a move evolved type of sexuality? - 9/29/2006 3:44:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I agree that there has to be one strong person in the relationship. Is'nt that what Dom/Domme's are all about. This lifestyle is based on one person being stronger than the other.

No, it's about an imbalance of authority.

Or wierd fucking, take your pick.

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RE: Is BDSM a move evolved type of sexuality? - 9/29/2006 4:04:19 PM

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I believe it is more evolved, because I myself happened upon it at aproximately the same time plain old sex lost it's aahhhh/wow factor for me. M

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