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open for opinions - 9/29/2006 6:53:16 AM

justinca200

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what price does one say enough is enough? are people afraid of taking a chance on a relationship, and things might work. I know people who have soaked alotof time and energy and get nothing in return, is that what being Used is bout? for someones other personal gain???. Tell me Mistresses when do and other people draw the line??

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RE: open for opinions - 9/29/2006 6:59:05 AM

MstrssPassion

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Not sure I understand what you are asking but it almost seems you are focused on the negatives & are completely forgetting the positives.

Small shifts on how you perceive matters can make a world of difference in future outcomes.

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RE: open for opinions - 9/29/2006 10:11:39 AM

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How can we possibly answer these questions? The are so subjective as to not have any value. If you're wondering where you should draw a line, you'll have to work that out for yourself. If you want to ask specific questions about your specific situation, please do. We're all full of opinions!

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RE: open for opinions - 9/29/2006 10:34:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: justinca200

what price does one say enough is enough? are people afraid of taking a chance on a relationship, and things might work. I know people who have soaked alotof time and energy and get nothing in return, is that what being Used is bout? for someones other personal gain???. Tell me Mistresses when do and other people draw the line??

Are you trying to ask when do you throw in the towel in looking for a Mistress?"

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RE: open for opinions - 9/29/2006 10:54:00 AM

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good afternoon justinca,

I see this is your first post and you only joined here on the first of August. While your questions were a bit hard to understand, I am going to sort of make some assumptions about what I "think" you were asking, if this is way out in left field perhaps you could rewrite a question so we can give you better answers.

I understand that for some it can take a long long time to find someone you feel any sort of connection to, and I understand from talking to other gentlemen looking for a mistress that they run into some unique problems that female subs do not - that of a 'domme' or 'mistress' expecting "tribute".

My Daddy and I have been seeking a girl to be part of our family for a year and a half now. In that time, on other sites, we have sent out over 250 letters of introduction to ladies who fit our desires and whom we thought were seeking what we had to offer. Out of that many we actually have had four - yes 4 - really honest and interested ladies enter into a serious correspndence with us. One turned out to be a total flake, one just stopped responding when we asked if we could begin to have phone conversations, one was ok as long as we sent her $$ for rent (see we can be taken advantage of also!) and one, well we remain hopeful.

I have been on CM looking for a boy since mid December, and only last week signed a beginning contract with a wonderful gentleman to be "my boy". I wanted it to happen faster, but I think it was worth the wait and sorting through everyone I spoke to here. In the meantime I also met some others with whom I enjoy email exchanges, lunches, and friendships.

The long and the short of it is - if you are seriously looking for somethign real, honest, with the possibility of a long lasting relationship ... well, it takes a while and you might have to kiss some toads!, as the saying goes! Nothing worthwhile happens over night. Use good judgement and common sense. Look for the whole person, not just how many floggers they have. Be patient, not petulant, be outgoing and willing to put a lot into your search, for you will only get out what you put into it.

You have a good resource here in CM lists and if you take some time to get to know people you will find a wealth of good advice.
good luck in your journey,
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RE: open for opinions - 9/29/2006 11:00:06 AM

Argentopal

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I want to add a "ps" ... I just went and looked at your profile ... if you want anyone to be seriously interested in getting to know you, you must put some information in your profile. How would some potential friend, domme, mistress even have any idea if they had anythign in common with you at all. I never wrote to anyone with an empty profile, and if someone wrote to me and I looked and it was empty I was pretty much not imterested. I do not want to have to dig for information, I want something to go on and I think most others do as well. Surely you have hobbies, music, food, education, skills - something that would spark an interest in someone when they read your profile.

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RE: open for opinions - 9/29/2006 11:57:21 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: justinca200

what price does one say enough is enough? are people afraid of taking a chance on a relationship, and things might work. I know people who have soaked alotof time and energy and get nothing in return, is that what being Used is bout? for someones other personal gain???. Tell me Mistresses when do and other people draw the line??

I am going to give you an opinion as vague as your questions.

It depends.

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RE: open for opinions - 9/29/2006 1:10:19 PM

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I wouldnt want to soak a lot of energy into this reply. Cuz what will I get in return? Although I personally dont feel used, I think I'll draw the line at the end of this sentance.

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RE: open for opinions - 9/29/2006 6:00:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: justinca200

what price does one say enough is enough? are people afraid of taking a chance on a relationship, and things might work. I know people who have soaked alotof time and energy and get nothing in return, is that what being Used is bout? for someones other personal gain???. Tell me Mistresses when do and other people draw the line??

Sounds like a random cry for attention if I've ever heard one. Why dontcha come back when you can provide us some background information and some questions that are not so subjective and emotion-based, eh?

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