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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/20/2007 6:30:22 AM

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fair play to you, the guy in question could do worse than contact you but again its up to him to make prudent choices with regard to what he does with his money

30K to him is like $100 to me and you.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/20/2007 7:12:50 AM

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i have no idea what his financial position is. i suspect he is not very rich after all he said he earns only 500 dollars a week

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/20/2007 7:15:23 AM

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i have no idea what his financial position is. i suspect he is not very rich after all he said he earns only 500 dollars a week

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/20/2007 7:45:11 AM

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I take exception to this as I work three jobs, two of them ‘vanilla’ consulting on a very important global issue. I ASLO work at a reputable Dungeon in NYC (1 hr tribute is $185, of which MY cut is $70)…It means I haven’t had to go to the ATM for my ‘walking around’ money and can buy gear I wish to own….The other woman I work with are students, have multiple jobs and rarely rely on Pro work alone for all income and ALL see this as ‘REAL’ job…please take your narrow judgments about what is ‘work’ elsewhere. No one _I_ work is ‘rich’- talk about a misconception!- but at least we know that we earn what we take home with skill, professionalism, and expertise.
I have posted my beliefs about Pro work and my lifestyle on another forum, but why bother. Yes, there are some very good reasons why people go to Pros (experimentation, married, no interest in a ‘relationship’ with a Domme, etc etc). But in then again, would what I write (or have written) change someone else’s opinion? More to the point…would I care if it did? Hardly, but miss representing something you have obviously understanding of…that is just irresponsible…

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/20/2007 8:00:08 AM

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I take exception to this as I work three jobs, two of them ‘vanilla’ consulting on a very important global issue. I ASLO work at a reputable Dungeon in NYC (1 hr tribute is $185, of which MY cut is $70)…It means I haven’t had to go to the ATM for my ‘walking around’ money and can buy gear I wish to own….The other woman I work with are students, have multiple jobs and rarely rely on Pro work alone for all income and ALL see this as ‘REAL’ job…please take your narrow judgments about what is ‘work’ elsewhere. No one _I_ work is ‘rich’- talk about a misconception!- but at least we know that we earn what we take home with skill, professionalism, and expertise.
I have posted my beliefs about Pro work and my lifestyle on another forum, but why bother. Yes, there are some very good reasons why people go to Pros (experimentation, married, no interest in a ‘relationship’ with a Domme, etc etc). But in then again, would what I write (or have written) change someone else’s opinion? More to the point…would I care if it did? Hardly, but miss representing something you have obviously understanding of…that is just irresponsible…

I don't know why everyone worries about pro dommes. There's nothing wrong with being
a pro. I was a pro for almost 12 years. WTF?

More power to you LadyLupineNYC!!!!!!

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/20/2007 9:03:26 AM

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im entitled to my opinion its not a judgement on you Ma'am im sorry if it offends you, bottom line is you will do whatever you want charge whatever you want no matter what anyone says, the guy in question has to have enough cop on to either take your services gladly and pay for them whatever you demand with a glad heart or else refuse to go to you, simply put he must put up or shut up, simply whingeing while with great reason he has i must say, but simply complaining wont change a thing
good day
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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/20/2007 10:15:37 AM

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I agree there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a pro Domme.
Lets face it you don't worry about paying for any other professional srvice.
However I get very angry with men thinking that they can 'buy'at a reduced rate the same services from me a dominant woman who is looking for a life time partner or partners.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/20/2007 10:55:56 AM

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I've always found women with money hot

but then I'm shallow..and I aint one of them :P

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/20/2007 10:58:34 AM

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Don't blame the Mistress just because you can't afford it.

That's like walking into a Rolls Royce Car Dealership and complaining about the price of their cars.

But don't worry there's hope for you. Not all Dominas charge a fee.

But don't forget that ProDommes are alot cheaper than a Girlfriend, Wife, or ExWife.

Then there are times the ProDomme can COST the male a Girlfriend, Wife or gives additional ammo to the EX-wife should she discover the alliance.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/20/2007 11:07:07 AM

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womenrule -

Not ALL Mistresses are about the money - my profile specifically states that I'm not about the money - in fact, I don't like the idea of financial slavery at all. But then again, I'm a bbw Mistress, and many slaves aren't "into" that either. And - I'm "into" sex, many Mistresses aren't. I guess it just takes all kinds - just like in the vanilla world.

(Admitting here that I haven't read the other 9 pages of comments.)

Good luck with your search,

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/20/2007 11:10:52 AM

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Then there are times the ProDomme can COST the male a Girlfriend, Wife or gives additional ammo to the EX-wife should she discover the alliance.

No, those are instances where said male's poor judgement cost him those things.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/20/2007 12:49:28 PM

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hi mate get in touch with newdombbw, she's your woman, she's not interested in money
always a pleasure to help mate
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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/21/2007 10:40:21 AM

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My question would be Why does it play such a big role if A woman is not a Pro Domme? I love to serve, but I just don't have that kind of money. I thought it was about the domination and that money only played a small role. I just curious as to any thoughts on this subject.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/21/2007 12:53:13 PM

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anyone who decides to make a commercial profit out of someone else's troubles is a criminal to my mind

I'll make sure I let my doctor know that next time I see him/her. You'd better get on the horn with psychiatrists and psychologists ASAP.

Dumbass.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/21/2007 1:00:20 PM

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why cant all you so called ladies not get a REAL job and work for $500 a week not ask for 500 dollars or pounds or whatever for a few hours work, what makes all you ladies so special, at the end of the day we are all the same , sub and dominant the only one who is truly superior is Jesus Christ

HNG?

I'm sorry, it costs money to get the gear (clothing, tools, etc...), it takes time, physical and mental exertion to perform these acts. Maybe you should quantify what you consider to be a 'real' job. Addicted to food and I work at a fast food restaurant? I'm a pusher now in your book.

It is not the Domme's job to make sure that you're financially stable before taking you on. As a matter of fact, it's illegal in the US to ask for a social security number if you're not a financial institution and the customer is asking for financial services, so it's not even possible, within the law, for them to do that in the US.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/21/2007 1:08:57 PM

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i would prefer to work for 500 dollars honest labour than manipulate someone for 500 dollars in a few hours, someone who obviously was troubled maybe even depressed and just wanted some comfort

Call your mommy if you want comfort. If you want to have someone perform BDSM activities on you and you can't get up off your ass to find someone willing to do that for free, then you need to pay someone.

I don't know of many Domme's who run around sending messages going "Come give me money and I'll spank you!". The standard is that males approach females and dom's approach subs (if they are both female - either way if they're both male, I'm not sure), so it's the subs saying "Please let me give you money to whip and beat me or tie me up or...." No manipulation going on here, the male sub is INITIATING the encounter. If anything, they're the ones manipulating. I'd love to have someone come over here and fix my damned dishwasher right now, but I don't want to pay for it... they're manipulating my weakness!!!

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/21/2007 1:10:54 PM

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It's not about money to me. Are you sitting down?
I actually expect "service"!
Imagine that! I actually expect a submissive that can
WORK. Do things for me, fix things, etc.
It is a novel idea, but there are actually a few submissive
men that provide a real service.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/21/2007 1:12:27 PM

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a real job would be working in a office 9 to 5 and paying tax. a real job would not be taking advantage of someone for financial gain

If a Domme is not paying her taxes, she is breaking the law. Most Dommes that I know of pay taxes on their income. Assuming that they don't pay taxes is naive. Then again, assuming that anyone pays *all* of their taxes who runs their own business is naive too.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/21/2007 1:20:51 PM

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hmmm...funny, I always see these threads...people bitching about pro Dommes, yet I am not one, and although my profile clearly states the kind of relationship that I am looking for, I get tons of men offering me money...

This is one reason I left bondage.com....that seemed to be all I ran into...one guy from another country, kept on and on, changing his nik when I would block him, bothering me, offering me more and more money to be his "escort" when he was in the country.

Had a lot on here as well...one guy, first email griping about two women that ripped him off, how he sent one plane tickets and set up a hotel room and she didn't show and the other told him if he was serious to send her money, which he did..um.....anywhoo.... all he talked about in every one of his emails was how much money he made, how much he sent to his kid, how much overtime he made, how much he spent on others, etc. Even though I told him time and time again I am not interested in your money and tried to change the subject...didn't work. Finally, I wished him luck and stopped responding

So maybe you might want to look into the actual submissives themselves before you point and say that ALL Dommes are about money.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 1/21/2007 1:45:44 PM

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thank you Goddess Mia , at least you have a coherent argument and can see it from both sides ulnlike Solinear who seems to have problems with arguing his point intelligently
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