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juliaoceania -> RE: 24/7 financial security... What? How? (9/29/2006 6:37:58 PM)

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From one old broad to another...right on!  I feel the exact same way.  Now, my Dom has given me some wonderful financial advice and I've followed it.  We don't live together but I think even if we did, I'd work.  I don't know what I'd do with myself if I didn't!


Once my son is done with school I can think more of my own financial future, and I am getting to the place of pursuing my own career goals, I can totally understand this.

I understand that some may feel that a person "cannot serve two masters", but if you share the same goals it really isn'y serving two masters, is it?

I plan on going to graduate school next year, he wants me to go because he feels as though this adds something to our dynamic.. in a way am I serving him by achieving my individual goals? I think so!

We have at times talked about the type of property investments we would like to make one day, and if we are combining resources it does kinda make it "our" investment, but if we get to that point I want him to have that "veto" power.

One side note, in ancient times slaves often owned property or even had slaves of their own. In the South slaves could work and make money and sometimes buy their freedom if they accumulated enough money to do so... just a little history




degradess -> RE: 24/7 financial security... What? How? (9/29/2006 7:07:29 PM)

I would never allow a dom to totally take over my income.  It would be an arrangement of working together on expenses.  That way I am sure that I have something.  Being subservient sexually is not being totally dependent on others' incomes.  I could never trust anyone to "take care of me" that way.




KatyLied -> RE: 24/7 financial security... What? How? (9/29/2006 7:12:12 PM)

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I could never trust anyone to "take care of me" that way.


It would be difficult for me as well.  I like being independent and having my own space.  I've sometimes wondered how I would merge my things (my home, my assets, my debts) with another person.  I would have this attitude vanilla or otherwise.  Financial merging of assets/debts really freaks me out on some level.  Some things in life are beyond the scope of the lifestyle.




DiurnalVampire -> RE: 24/7 financial security... What? How? (9/29/2006 7:20:29 PM)

By Angel's request, when we move into a 24/7 arrangement, he will no longer own anything. He will have access to a joint account where his earnings wil be places, while my account remains in my name only. Aside from the car he drives, everything he has (which isnt much, taking a boy straight out of college and starting him there tends to mean there is less baggage by way of "stuff" to deal with.) will become mine. His car will remain his for insurance reasons.  Once we are in this permanent arrangement, he will stil be expected to work, wether that be outside the home or eventually from home. Either way, he is expected to contribute financialy to the house as well as I do. He wil be named as the beneficiary in my insurance policies, and all other safeguards will be put in place once he is moved.
What I plan on doing, for both our personal comfort, is the equvalent of a prenup.  Before he turns everything over to me, we are going to make an accounting of what was originaly his. In the case of a separation, he will be entitled to reclaim his things, and any money remaining in the joint account. No lawyers, no muss no fuss.

DV
owner of LoverForDomme




ExSteelAgain -> RE: 24/7 financial security... What? How? (9/30/2006 4:54:40 AM)

I,  personally, don't think people should screw with each other's money. If you live together and both make about the same, divide things up. If you make th house payment, let her buy the groceries and pay the utilities, etc. Seems uncomplicated and safe to me.




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