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lilyophelia -> RE: Male Chastity/Orgasm Denial Question (10/1/2006 12:23:12 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MisPandora
Understand that most women won't, if given the chance, sit around the house all day and masturbate. Most male slaves I've had in service to me would do it in a heartbeat (or did.) Women also have a different power store when it comes to her orgasms. This is a generalization, but it's far more ethereal and physically encompassing for a woman that it is for males (although I've known and have trained some males to have the "body orgasm".)
i like that a lot, and i think it's probably got at least a grain of truth in it. Chastity is mostly useful for restricting masturbation...
...and in response to the continuing subject of male versus female sexualities, i know, like..if i weren't to have an orgasm for a extended period of time...like more than several days...i would feel almost lost. It has a definite emotional quality...and when i do masturbate (and this is a private, giggly-blushy subject, of me personally), my thoughts are always so submissive, and they almost always include my Miss, and at the end, i feel exasperated and weak and very Hers....also very at peace and obedient and deeply submissive to Her. It would also never limit my ability to please or satisfy Her. These obviously don't summarize all female experiences, but just mine
And, i think that it's also important to clarify too, that chastity isn't just about making a male miserable. With women, it can be a lot harder for them to have, like, involuntary orgasms...some men can't even seem to control that. And i think that there is only a very tiny subset of those who use chastity, who use it for very extended periods of time. Most Domme's allow a reasonable number of orgasms, but mostly when it pleases them, and after a male sub/slave has fulfilled all of their tasks/chores/Domme's expectations. Excessive masturbation, without permission, is a big thing.
Oh, and going back to the OP, because i feel guilty. It's also kind of a statement, too...because we're a lesbian couple , and chastity devices in many ways limits the...well, the symbolic threat of a man, i guess. i mean, in chastity, a man is kind of...harmless, really...brought down to the level of victim (in play terms, of course). There's something, very pleasing about that...humbling of a slave.
Is there anything emotional about it? Just the desire to submit, and to be pleasing, is emotional in itself. We had the privelege of having one part-time male slave when we were still in Florida, and we never took him for granted. While we were very selfish with him, and the dynamic was always there between us, we still miss him, for his integrity and his nature. he was, an amazing slave, and so yes, i feel emotionally bonded to that, because chastity was part of a greater whole.
Now the only problem with that, was the fact that there were times where he was too aroused to get the contraption on, and even ice wouldn't help. It would just make him blue! i took that mostly as flattery, and he was still incredibly submissive and sweet and obedient. So, i think that not balking at chastity, if your Domme requires it of you, is more the important thing, rather than some gift you supposedly might give Her.
And for men who despise chastity, just be very honest about that, with any potential Dommes that you meet. Some will pass you up, because you don't meet Their needs, and that's perfectly fine, because wisdom involves not getting into situations that don't work. There are plenty of Dommes who don't require chastity, and for whom you might be much better suited to serve and please. ^^
-lily
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