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What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 3:20:48 PM

LordBizwahsgirl

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Heres a question I am not quite sure what a Daddy Dom is?

My Dom is very good at making me feel like his little girl and babing me, but I dont know if that is what a Daddy Dom does soley.
Some one please help me to understand.

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 3:27:23 PM

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Age and Roleplay Page

i think this is a good link. it explains both ageplay and those that roleplay or include some what i like to call 'big and little' play in their d/s m/s relationships.

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 3:27:54 PM

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When I think of a Daddy Dom all I can do is smile...........brings back some very good memories of a loving man

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 3:29:41 PM

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I'm keeping my mouth shut on this one, as last time when I compared mysef to an equivalent of a Daddy Dom, I was lectured. Instead, if you would like my personal explination, feel free t PM me.

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 3:40:42 PM

Aine

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quote:

ORIGINAL: jesskitty

Age and Roleplay Page

i think this is a good link. it explains both ageplay and those that roleplay or include some what i like to call 'big and little' play in their d/s m/s relationships.

Don't want to butt in here, but age isn't always a part of what it is to be a Daddy Dom or their counterparts.

Don't want the OP getting that impression.

To the OP:

There are a TON of DaddyDom threads, definitely I suggest doing a search for that subject.

Where's LA when ya need her???

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Honey, you obviously missed the "want to be used as a toilet fetish" thread or "where do I get instructions on setting my sub on fire" thread. LOL

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 4:24:13 PM

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i live in a Daddy Dom's world as my Daddy's slave and little girl. Age play isn't synonomous with having a Daddy Dom and alot of times it has nothing to do with it.

My Daddy is my teacher and guide through life, he can be strict and fair and loving (kind of like a parent) He protects his little girl and gives me a safe haven from the world....He is strong and can put his foot down and i know to do as he says. He is very nurturing. He has an intelligence level that surpases my own and i look up to him and respect him. There are alot of other traits but you get the idea i am certain.

These qualities seem to be pretty much across the board from all i've heard of other Daddy Doms.

Edited to add: i totally feel like his little baby girl and it is a warm and wonderful feeling to know i'm cared for and loved in the way he does me.

< Message edited by charismagirrl -- 9/30/2006 4:25:59 PM >

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 4:31:58 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aine

quote:

ORIGINAL: jesskitty

Age and Roleplay Page

i think this is a good link. it explains both ageplay and those that roleplay or include some what i like to call 'big and little' play in their d/s m/s relationships.

Don't want to butt in here, but age isn't always a part of what it is to be a Daddy Dom or their counterparts.

Don't want the OP getting that impression.

To the OP:

There are a TON of DaddyDom threads, definitely I suggest doing a search for that subject.

Where's LA when ya need her???

Thanks for pointing out ageplay is not necessarily a part of what daddydoms do... My Daddy and I do not ageplay

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 4:50:41 PM

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The fact that ageplay is generally considered completely separate from the DaddyDom/babygirl (and everything synonymous gender-wise) was something I learned VERY quicky once I started looking into more of what it was to be a Daddy Dom. I had met one particular Dom on yahoo that helped me a lot as I was very new to the lifestyle and all that was under that general umbrella.

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Honey, you obviously missed the "want to be used as a toilet fetish" thread or "where do I get instructions on setting my sub on fire" thread. LOL

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 4:50:50 PM

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About a year ago, i had the same question. I was surprised at that time how little information i was able to locate on Daddy Doms. Im almost embarassed to say how far off my preconceived notion was on this dynamic.

Search the boards. I made several inquiries regarding this subject and was provided with a wealth of information. Although this is not the type of dynamic that interests me, i have a much better understanding and appreciation for having done some research.

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 5:37:11 PM

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Sometimes it's nice to have a nice warm lap to curl up into and feel protected. Fantasy or not, it's a realy nice place to visit.

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 5:45:35 PM

velvetears

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ORIGINAL: LordBizwahsgirl

Heres a question I am not quite sure what a Daddy Dom is?

Here is a good article, by a "little girl" about Daddy doms.

http://www.vanilla-not.com/basics/daddydom.html

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 5:59:39 PM

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Thanks for the link velvetears, I found it to be an interesting read.

When I hear the term Daddy Dom I interpret it as the Dom in the relationship is a teacher, much like a normal parent would be. As, ideally, the function of a parent is to love, nurture, and teach his/her child/children, not have sex with them.

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 6:27:18 PM

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I love my Daddy Dom! We have an incredible relationship where the Daddy and the Dom flow beautifully depending on what I need at the time.

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 6:29:24 PM

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Iam with Kashan. There is play...and we put the label we want on it. Ageplay is one pleasure. Yes, it can be a big part of any relationship and more for a man old enough or able to 'play' the part. For the younger, and I have been a daddydom, it is or can be a beautiful place to visit but some will love its pleasures but don't want to 'live' there...some love it so much....they choose to.

In a M/s live-in affair because of a different and some will say, special bond that develops, for them, can be a love affair like no other.

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 6:33:34 PM

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Ooooweeee...i love this question!

Well, i can only comment on this dynamic from the experience i have had with 2 different Daddy Doms. With all the doms i have met, i can truly say these 2 were real Daddy Doms, both were quite paternal, yet each had their particular preferences, if you know what i mean.

i had a very kind and loving father (couldn't discipline for shit though....lol)....but i guess that is the type of nurturing i look for in a partner (with the discipline, and sex, included of course).

i really like the responses here. The link provided by velvetears was great! (i didn't get to really explore the other link by jesskitty yet).

And as Jersey said, i also smile when i think of those past relationships. Loving men, yes!

i copied the below from a site which i do not still have the link to. It is a Daddy Dom's perspective on what he is. Hope it helps

What is a DaddyDom?
A Daddy's View
By Deep

I have been asked several times what a Daddy Dom really is and how that differs for any other Dominate. First, I want E/everyone to know, it has NOTHING to do with incest, and it isn’t age play or any fetish for or with children. Daddy Dom: I can only say what it means to me, others may have a different impression and there are several web pages that define it in different ways. Just do a search on Yahoo there’s plenty.

In my view a Daddy Dom is the most tender of all Dominants. He loves His little one with an undying passion. He always has his submissive’s best interest in mind, even when it conflicts with his personal desires. That doesn’t mean that he gives into her every whim. There can be a huge difference in her desires and her real needs. He has to be able to make that sacrifice for her if needed. And yes, at times he does punish her. This usually hurts him just as much if not more than her, but he will always do what’s best for her.

He helps her set and reach her goals in life, not just in the lifestyle. He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be, not for HIM but for her! He’s not just looking to make her a better submissive, but a better person in general.

He becomes many things in her life, a mentor, a teacher, a protector, a guide, AND...a lover! He offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. He is consistent in his actions so that she knows what to expect from him, she knows she can depend on him!

He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing all along that he can’t! SO...it is up to him to prepare her for whatever life may throw her way and be there to comfort her when things go wrong. Knowing she will run to him when she becomes overwhelmed or frightened by the harshness of life. The Daddy Dom will listens to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly or childish they may sound to him, to her they are real and he will help her confront them. He slays her dragons so to speak and he is her "Knight in Shining Armor".

The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams, desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves him enough to open herself up so totally to him. He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little one, and he loves her unconditionally.

There is nothing more satisfying to him than to see her succeed, to watch as she grows as a person. He revels in her daily accomplishments almost as much as she does herself.

He will cuddle her and show her the tenderness she craves when she needs it, when she feels unsure of herself he will whisper encouraging words for her. When she feels ugly he will reassure her how beautiful she is to him ... when she is scared he will be her safety net, her medium against the world if need be.

She is his pride and joy...his main comfort in life...his reason for living. His pride in her shows in the tender loving way he cares for her, she is the one that puts the twinkle in his eye! Even though she is all woman, she is his little one and he is her Daddy ! Just remember...he may be a Daddy but he is still and foremost, a Dom!

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 9/30/2006 6:59:27 PM

charismagirrl

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the link posted by velvetears is the thing my Daddy had on his profile at a vanilla site when i met him almost two years ago.

(after first seeing him and being too shy to approach him here on CM 2 months earler) He thought is was a great way to get across what he is about and he li8ked tha tit was written from the girl's perspective.

It's such a great way to put it too!

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For today i won't say but...
For today i wont say just...
For today i will simply obey....
For today i will trust that You are right...
For always i will be your imperfect slave

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 10/1/2006 8:58:56 AM

jesskitty

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aine

quote:

ORIGINAL: jesskitty

Age and Roleplay Page

i think this is a good link. it explains both ageplay and those that roleplay or include some what i like to call 'big and little' play in their d/s m/s relationships.

Don't want to butt in here, but age isn't always a part of what it is to be a Daddy Dom or their counterparts.

Don't want the OP getting that impression.

To the OP:

There are a TON of DaddyDom threads, definitely I suggest doing a search for that subject.

Where's LA when ya need her???

and i know it's not. if you read the link it seperatly defines the two and also gives personal perspective about what each of them is. which is why i like the website, it talks about all perspectives of it. and i think it'd be nice to show a link instead of linking to previous threads to spice up the info.

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 10/1/2006 11:58:03 AM

Aine

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quote:

ORIGINAL: jesskitty

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aine

quote:

ORIGINAL: jesskitty

Age and Roleplay Page

i think this is a good link. it explains both ageplay and those that roleplay or include some what i like to call 'big and little' play in their d/s m/s relationships.

Don't want to butt in here, but age isn't always a part of what it is to be a Daddy Dom or their counterparts.

Don't want the OP getting that impression.

To the OP:

There are a TON of DaddyDom threads, definitely I suggest doing a search for that subject.

Where's LA when ya need her???

and i know it's not. if you read the link it seperatly defines the two and also gives personal perspective about what each of them is. which is why i like the website, it talks about all perspectives of it. and i think it'd be nice to show a link instead of linking to previous threads to spice up the info.

At first glace, the page, while informative, points greatly to the -age- factor and playing an age-based role in the Daddy/sub relationship. To the untrained eye it looks like a place that likes to center around the roleplay of age.

Though I like the area about learning about one's inner-child.

But out of the majority of people that I've read posts by on here in the plethora of DaddyDom threads...it has little to do with roleplay...it's a lifestyle. There are distinctions between the two for a LOT of people. The cut and pasted essay was a great example and one that I see related all over the place and repeated a lot.

I'm not naysaying that site whatsoever...please don't get that impression. I think that the link you provided is a good one, albeit just one piece of the pie.

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Honey, you obviously missed the "want to be used as a toilet fetish" thread or "where do I get instructions on setting my sub on fire" thread. LOL

Thank you, DelRay for that one.

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 10/1/2006 1:54:18 PM

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It is many things to many people. For some it centers around an older man molesting/playing with a little girl. Some it is an even wider age difference and involves diapers. There are many many dynamics that people may or may not tap into.

I struggled to rectify my needs around being controlling, my image of what a "real" dominant was like, the prevailing S&M scene in San Francisco, and the side of me that is very nurturing. I initially rejected calling a woman "my little girl" as I had images of molestation and wanted to think of my girl as an equal that didn't jive with the though of a child.

While this isn't unique to me, the reasons I identify as a daddy is I like to control, there is the underlying naughtiness of it, I get to nurture and protect, and I have come to a more nuanced view of a partner as my equal and tend to combine the equal stuff to things like intelligence, worldliness, etc.

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RE: What is a Daddy Dom? - 10/1/2006 2:23:35 PM

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LA is enjoying an anniversary and birthday with her partner :) But still having time to check in and help out when needed.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_546688/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#546972
Another daddy dom question

http://www.collarchat.com/m_541638/mpage_2/key_daddy/tm.htm#541832
How does a dom decide to be a daddy ?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_540044/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#540129
Daddy's Girl

http://www.collarchat.com/m_278285/mpage_2/key_daddy/tm.htm#278992
What exactly is a daddy dom?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_259176/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#259184
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