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Really Curious... - 9/30/2006 7:18:49 PM   
chelsea555


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Status: offline 		I just recently realized what im looking for in bed and from a man, and i have no clue to go abouts finding me a dom who wouldnt mind a young girl with no clue as to what this is all about! Helllpp!!!
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RE: Really Curious... - 9/30/2006 7:20:42 PM   
KatyLied


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RE: Really Curious... - 9/30/2006 7:50:35 PM   
Midearthtrainer


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Status: offline 		Then begin by defining what it is that you want in a realtionship? Examine all aspects of what this lifestyle is about. READ, READ, READ an read some more; and you will get a gist of what it is that we do(wiitwd). Do not be afraid to ask questions. Get out to some local or regional (if no local available) munches/groups. I highly suggest you find someone to mentor you.
When you have something concrete that you like or dislike fill out your profile in detail. The more you describe yourself and what you truely seek, the greater the chance your will find it.

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RE: Really Curious... - 9/30/2006 9:55:03 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		As a fairly young novice sub, your issue will be more one of fighting off all of the "altruistic" offers from doms to train and mentor you and protect you until you decide to be owned.

Best piece of advice- make no commitments to anything for at least 6 months and learn from everyone everywhere.


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RE: Really Curious... - 9/30/2006 10:10:19 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		The problem isnt going to be finding someone wiling to take on a young girl.  You are going to get TONS of offers. The problem is going to be finding someone who is honesty interested in helping you learn and grow as opposed to simply getting to use a young girl.

Read, ask questions and do not jump into anything head first.  Make sure safety is kept in mind, and when you do meet someone you are comfortable interacting with, you arent stupid about a first meeting.
Honestly, you are going to have to kiss a few frogs befre you find a prince (i love that saying) so dont be too disappointed if the first one you find isnt mr right.  It took me ages to find the boy I wanted, its never an easy search.  However, once you DO find the right one, it is most definately worth the effort.

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RE: Really Curious... - 9/30/2006 10:59:45 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		Only a few frogs?....dayum..am I a closet frog lover?is frog my new kink?.. oooonoooo.....Tempting

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RE: Really Curious... - 9/30/2006 11:01:17 PM   
zero69u2


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Status: offline 		blank profile won't win the hearts of prospective dominants..
Honesty, Picture, and a upbeat profile would definately help.

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RE: Really Curious... - 9/30/2006 11:18:59 PM   
Owned1


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Status: offline 		All the suggestions made so far are great ones, I wanted to add one more.  Venture away from the computer to the real life in da flesh kinky world in your community.

As well do some reading, online, books where ever you can find information,  the more you read the more you will be able to understand BDSM and what your own needs wants and desires are.

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RE: Really Curious... - 9/30/2006 11:19:47 PM   
diamonddreamlove


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Status: offline 		Be yourself also trying to be otherwise will leave you unhappy and unfullfilled.  Take your time and choose carefully.

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RE: Really Curious... - 10/1/2006 1:44:42 AM   
shadevarr


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Status: offline 		Providing any scrap of information about you is benefitial, the more the better unless you want prospective Doms to solely look at your age to make a decision on contacting you. Also, when it comes to the lifestyle, read everything plus some. Find what you like and go from there. Exploration is half the fun :D

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RE: Really Curious... - 10/1/2006 6:34:15 PM   
amlonging


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Status: offline 		I am going to advice against a pic lilone.  Seems that when a pic is up you get all da guffs just cuz of your looks....or just dont make it sensually sexy like some do.  Thats my advice.

LA has listed some great things to read..... READ

A man in bed is NOT the same thing as D/s ~ relationship.
A dominant man in relationship is very different from a man who tops.

Most importantly...KNOW YOURSELF.  I always suggest Claudia Varrin's book Erotic Surrender.  It has some very helpful tools and resources on how to prepare yourself for the "right" man, not just a "real dom."

OK my 2 cents is over with

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RE: Really Curious... - 10/1/2006 10:33:54 PM   
Cardius


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Status: offline 		Congrats, knowing exactly what you want is more than most ever achieve, 

Now lets give you some advice.

Now that you have figured it out don't tell anyone.  If you let slip what you want guys will start altering thier posts to make you think you have found your one.

I would just put up a bad picture (yes I said bad) and the fact that you are inexpierienced.  Then prepare for the onset.  You will be inundated with emails.

Also I wouldn't put an ad up here.  Go to alt where anyone serious will put up a good quanity of cash just to be able to send you a note.  Amazing how money qualifies people. 

Don't reply to anyone who is a jerk or demands a better pic.  Form letters and you will get them are also bad.  But as you read compare the emails to want you want.  Ask lots of questions if they can't or won't answer move on.

There thats a start.  And godluck on your journey

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RE: Really Curious... - 10/2/2006 1:04:24 AM   
LASub4Real


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ORIGINAL: Cardius
Also I wouldn't put an ad up here.  Go to alt where anyone serious will put up a good quanity of cash just to be able to send you a note.  Amazing how money qualifies people. 


Good Advice for the most part, except that Alt. is just full of pervs with $40.00 disposable income and the same M.O. take it from an ex-Gold Member!

LAsub

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RE: Really Curious... - 10/2/2006 7:25:15 PM   
chelsea555


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Status: offline 		Thanks for all the info guys....the reason i didnt want to put a pic up or anything is cuz everyone knows there r a lot of creepos out there....i have a cam and everything tho....if anyone want sto add me on yahoo msg to chat, feel free!! [email protected]  Thanks again everyone

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RE: Really Curious... - 10/2/2006 10:00:46 PM   
chelsea555


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Status: offline 		whoa...ok....

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RE: Really Curious... - 10/3/2006 7:50:52 AM   
hypnoticblue


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Joined: 9/20/2006
Status: offline 		giving out your yahoo isn't much better hun...  you'd be better of posting a picture!

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