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MasterHyde -> RE: Contacting Dominants (11/27/2006 8:14:06 PM)
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Everyone has their own preferences, so all I can do is tell you what I look for when someone approaches me.
Be respectful. This is important. I don't expect everyone to call me Sir (though it be nice!) but I do expect courtesy and manners. I expect some to understand that I'm human being first, and a dominant sadist second. Don't throw yourself at my feet. Get to know me first.
Be at least moderately intelligent. I'm not expecting a rocket scientist, but I do think you should be able to form a sentence and communicate in some legible manner. This means "How are you?" and not "how r u?".
Be thoughtful. Be considerate of my time. If I'm online, I'm usually available to chat. Still, it's nice to be asked. And I don't required "permission" before sending a private mesage. A simple "Hello" followed by "Can I ask/speak to you about something?" is ideal. Keep in mind, if you ask to talk with me, you should probably have some kind of topic ready. Even one or two questions you'd like to ask me are fine. You have to help the conversation get started. I can't stand when someone sends me an IM and then has nothing to say. If you initiated the conversation, bring something to the table.
Some dominants don't like to be approached. They think it is disrespectful or rude for a submissive to initiate conversation. I think that's bullshit. As long as they show good manners and follow the guidelines above, I'm more than happy to speak with anyone who contacts me. I'll always respond politely to politeness.
To add a comment about dominants adding you to their "favorites" list, but not writing to you... I can't speak for anyone else, but personally, I'm guilty of this too often. I see a profile of someone I find interesting, and I mark it as a favorite so I can go back and write to her later. I do this too many times, and I don't always get back to writing the intended letter. I'd write something right away, but most of the women on here are buried in mail, and I don't want to send them a "quicky" or a one-liner that will just get ignored anyway. I want to write something that will catch their attention, and sometimes that takes time. I need to collect my thoughts, and sit down focused on writing for a while. I procrastinate, and that never gets done. It's a shame. If some of those women took it on themselves to write me because they saw I added them, wonderful! But I don't expect that to happen. If I'm interested in getting to know them, it's on me to initiate things.
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