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What is the best way for a Potential Master to communic... - 10/3/2006 8:17:31 AM

MasterWildnHard

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Hello submissives and slaves and switches LOL
As a Dominant Alpha male, I am fully aware that submissive females get flooded with emails in general on this site. I am seeking some advice from you on how to best get your attention as one being sincere and real from the beginning. Should the email be general or specific for example. Should a Dom come across as Dom persona or at first be more vanilla as a person.

I am a natural Dominant and have been for many years. I am relatively new to this website and have a specific quest in mind. I have posted a profile and am not getting any real responses. So I would greatly appreciate and am willing to open myself up to critique. editing suggestions and willing to accept any genuine offered help with my profile. So let me have it subbies LOL

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 8:20:02 AM

Aileen68

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Be yourself.
And we really, really, really like to get cock shots in the first email.

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 8:23:04 AM

mnottertail

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Can you give me the name of your photographer?

I don't have any cockshots (sheepishly) and this may be a major reason I haven't been getting anywhere around here.

Thanks for the tip,
Ron
(it is a handsome one, tho)

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 8:23:33 AM

MasterWildnHard

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Nope I do not send pics of their Real Master LOL in email. I only give personal Introductions one on one preferred

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 8:36:31 AM

MasterFireMaam

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With all due respect, your profile sounds like you're blowing hot air. It's weak and reads as if you are all bradavo. You're a real person with real wants and needs. Try discussing those rather than trying so hard to convince everyone that you're a Dom. subs/slaves are pretty intelligent, so they'll assume that you feel you are if you list yourself as a Dom.

You're also going to have to ellaborate about the relationship with your wife. Many subs/slaves are looking for "the One" and so a married man isn't the ideal. That will lessen your responses.

My suggestions:
1) Redo your profile showing a relaxed, real personna.
2) Fill out the check list so subs/slave can tell if your interests are anywhere near their own. It's not going to do any good to want caning when the other doesn't.
3) Include a picture of yourself where you are neat and clean, or state that you have one to exchange for a similar picture. If you are contacting first and they already have a picture in their profile, include yours without it being requested. DON'T send cock shots...that was a joke!

Hope this helps and best of luck!

Master Fire

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 8:38:28 AM

AquaticSub

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Read our profiles and mention something in there in your letter. I'm not personally looking for a dom or master right now but when I was looking for partners I really hated getting e-mails where it was so obvious that they hadn't taken the time to read my profile. My theory is that you can't be bothered to read my profile, then you can't be bothered to be a good dominant/master.

Also, don't call them "sub". If they give a name in their profile use that. Maybe I'm odd but I really hate the letters I get saying "Sub, I noticed your profile. Talk to me and I consider accepting you as my slave." Be respectful to us and we will be respectful to you. Good luck!

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 8:38:42 AM

Aileen68

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

DON'T send cock shots...that was a joke!

Master Fire

Sssshhhhh....we almost had him.

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 8:42:54 AM

Aileen68

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

(it is a handsome one, tho)

And the word going around is that you can whiz from Minnesota all the way to Jersey.

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 8:43:26 AM

HarryVanWinkle

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterWildnHard
Hello submissives and slaves and switches LOL
As a Dominant Alpha male, I am fully aware that submissive females get flooded with emails in general on this site. I am seeking some advice from you on how to best get your attention as one being sincere and real from the beginning. Should the email be general or specific for example. Should a Dom come across as Dom persona or at first be more vanilla as a person.

I am a natural Dominant and have been for many years. I am relatively new to this website and have a specific quest in mind. I have posted a profile and am not getting any real responses. So I would greatly appreciate and am willing to open myself up to critique. editing suggestions and willing to accept any genuine offered help with my profile. So let me have it subbies LOL

I realize you're hoping for replies from submissive women but I'm going to answer anyway. I would say that your first email should be specific, as in specifically telling the people you write to what it is about their profiles which inspires you to write to them. I would say, in an introductory email that a Dom should come across as himself.

I would also suggest that your profile isn't getting any "real responses" because it tells almost nothing about you, other than that you're married and that you consider yourself to be God's gift to submissive women. Nothing about your interests in life, your beliefs, your lifestyle, your experience, your resources, etc.

All I see there is a bit of self puffery and a lot of demands, i.e. that you are one of very few men who is "Master of his own self" (with no explanation of what that means to you,) that you demand that the women who write you be "real" (whatever that means,) that they include a picture and be prepared to send more at your demand, although you show none of yourself, that they be ready to come to you when you tell them too, with no indication of when that will be, that they tell you all about themselves, while knowing next to nothing about you, and that they be and be prepared to prove themselves over 18, as if expect hordes of horny teenagers to overwhelm your mailbox.

In short, I see nothing in your profile which would inspire any submissive woman I know (and I know more than a few) to think that you "are that man." In fact, the only thing I can think of that could make your profile less appealing would be to include the words, "Make sure you're on your knees when you write me."

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 8:45:29 AM

Lashra

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I think the fact that your married might turn away some potential subs. I know that many are looking for a "relationship" and that wouldn't include a wife. But there is something out there for everyone, so you may wish to try adding more of what your personal interests are, along with what limits you are willing to work with.

good luck,
~Lashra

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 8:56:23 AM

mnottertail

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Fresh or Saltwater..........

Minnesota is the land of 10,000 lakes, we know our watersports.........

But, erm...........no, it really ain't that big, even in men bragging to women inches.

Ron

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Have they not divided the prey; to every man a damsel or two? Judges 5:30

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 9:09:21 AM

juliaoceania

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1) Make sure your profile reflects the truth of who you are, and not some myth you "think" we want.

2) The best way to get someone interested in conversing with you is to take an interest in them. That means reading their profile and their checked interests... commenting on what you liked about it, mentioning shared VANILLA interests.

3) Do not assume there is any sort of power exchange on the first email (IE do not order a submissve to do anything)

4) Be genuine, respectful, and remember people like this behavior no matter what their orientation...

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 9:17:08 AM

toservez

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Be yourself, be your self, be yourself.

Never make any demands, any requests no matter how polite or cop a "dominant attitude".

Write a personal message and, no, that does not mean it has to be a novel and in fact it hurts if it is a novel(a woman's vision of a novel!). Show me that you read my profile and seriously thought if we are a match and write it in your own words. Do not take my profile and go line by line agreeing or saying no problem and thinking that will impress me. It will not.

In addition to a personal message take a lot of time and thought in your profile. Do not dismiss this part like so many. Do not write your profile in theoretical generic nature but give real information about who you are as a normal person, your dominant nature and what you want from a potentiial in both of these things as well. Also do not write the profile in a way so not to eliminate anyone but write it to draw what you are really wanting. Most of us are attracted to passion and vision and not "whatever you want or need I can provide" types. Fill out the interest list honestly. If you really love some things that people sometimes do not like still put them on there. In the end it is about finding your match and not just a woman breathing.

I can tell you personally when I enjoy a message and click on the view profile, I am looking for someone who put in effort in their profile and that their profile matches the words(tone/theme) they wrote in their message. This is very important!

< Message edited by toservez -- 10/3/2006 9:19:02 AM >

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 9:23:41 AM

ThunderRoad

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And then be prepared for few of them to even bother to respond.

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 10:01:19 AM

KatyLied

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quote:

You must have a picture and be willing to send others as directed.

To me this sounds like you want nothing more than dirty pics. Also, by qualifiying that you want only *real* people, you are bound to bring out the players, they will have a lot of fun with that sort of thing.

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 10:33:39 AM

hypnoticblue

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Well, these guys pretty much all said what I was going to. You need a picture. I know for myself, I don't usally waste my time looking at a profile unless there is a picture.

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 11:48:04 AM

ThunderRoad

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Kinda a shame when people require a picture to even bother initiating a conversation and frankly it's just damn rude. I don't have a picture in my profile because I am easily identifiable in the university community and it doesn't take much to have a person's affiliation with a web site like this tarnish a good reputation. I'd rather wait until I've at least exchanged a handful of emails with someone before I start the picture exchange. It's safe for me and helps to weed out those players as well.

If people require my picture to even bother exchanging pleasantries and get to know each other initially, then it's pretty safe to assume that they are either so full of themselves as to not warrant my time, or just playing games. At least in my opinion.

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 1:01:08 PM

juliaoceania

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ThunderRoad

Kinda a shame when people require a picture to even bother initiating a conversation and frankly it's just damn rude. I don't have a picture in my profile because I am easily identifiable in the university community and it doesn't take much to have a person's affiliation with a web site like this tarnish a good reputation. I'd rather wait until I've at least exchanged a handful of emails with someone before I start the picture exchange. It's safe for me and helps to weed out those players as well.

If people require my picture to even bother exchanging pleasantries and get to know each other initially, then it's pretty safe to assume that they are either so full of themselves as to not warrant my time, or just playing games. At least in my opinion.

There is a good reason I followed this tenet of not talking to people without a picture posted. Married men do not like to share pics of themselves. Now I am not saying that all profiles without pics are people with something to hide, but about 65% of all men looking for someone online are of the married variety according to a study...

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Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 1:04:09 PM

OhReallyNow

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterWildnHard

Hello submissives and slaves and switches LOL
As a Dominant Alpha male, I am fully aware that submissive females get flooded with emails in general on this site. I am seeking some advice from you on how to best get your attention as one being sincere and real from the beginning. Should the email be general or specific for example. Should a Dom come across as Dom persona or at first be more vanilla as a person.

I am a natural Dominant and have been for many years. I am relatively new to this website and have a specific quest in mind. I have posted a profile and am not getting any real responses. So I would greatly appreciate and am willing to open myself up to critique. editing suggestions and willing to accept any genuine offered help with my profile. So let me have it subbies LOL

this slave would offer the advice of just being yourself

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RE: What is the best way for a Potential Master to comm... - 10/3/2006 3:44:09 PM

Miseri

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Carefully read the person's profile. Show that you did: "So, I see that you like such and such? Have you ever heard them live in concert? (example). If you put time and thought into it, they may as well.

Personally, one thing in emails that will automatically be deleted (and would have in my days of being free as well), is someone randomly emailing me with some presumptous command or demand of a sexual service or offer of a service. That's rude and has troll written all over it.

Good luck! Hope my input helps! :)

< Message edited by Miseri -- 10/3/2006 3:48:15 PM >

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