ProtagonistLily
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Hello everyone....I am so new to this that I don't know what certain thing or words mean....like what is a "Pro Domme" and how does that compare to a "Fem Dom".....and what does "switch" mean.....I guess what I really need is a D/s dictionary of sayings, words and terms, LOL....and I don't mean to offend anyone by not knowing, but I am truly a curious person who would like to learn and partake in occasional D/s get togethers with the right Fem Dom.....thanks again.......
Your mileage may vary on this one....
Well, as a Dominant Female, I have been wondering for a while what exactly it is that makes a middle aged man wake up one day and say "Ya know, I think I'm a submissive..." I'm personally suspect myself. Is this just another way to get dates? The reason I ask this is when I've been contacted by these 'new' subs, and I start chatting, I get this laundry list of what they are interested in, and what they are willing to do, but anything outside that realm is considered 'not for them' or 'I'm not that hard core'.
Frankly, for me it gets a little tiring. If you are interested in finding out the definitions because you truely believe that this lifestyle is what's been missing for you for so long, for the love of God, do some web research. There are BDSM webrings galore out there that will give you definitions that you need as a 'newbie'.
I'd start with www.castlerealm.com and go from there. They have a links section that is quite comprehensive.
I may get smacked for this but, this isn't a lifestyle for just the 'curious'. Not everyone fits here. Not everyone can be a submissive or a Dominant. In my opinion, it's like being a pregnant...you either are, or you aren't.
For sake of being charitable, I'll give the quick and dirty as I see it:
Pro Domme- A Dominant Woman who offers her skills and services as a Dominant for a fee
Fem Domme-A female human being who is Dominant, as opposed to a Dom, who generally is a Male human being who is Dominant.
A Switch-A human being of either gender who both submits (bottoms) or Doms (Tops)
bottom- a person of either gender who is the 'do-ey'; could be the person receiving play from a Top, a person who serves a Dominant person, or any of a bunch of other combinations. I use bottom to refer to someone who I play with or who serves me who is not collared or does not have an ongoing relationship with me past the service/play
Top- a person of either gender who is the 'do-er'; could be the person administering the play to a bottom, a person who is served by a bottom or any of a bunch of other combinations. I use Top to refer to someone who plays with or is served by someone who is not collared or does not have an ongoing relationship with them past service/play.
Once, I tried to learn how to knit. I was not good at it, it was complicated and I couldn't really get the hang of it. For some, D/s is akin to knitting....some people just don't have the head for it.
Lily
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