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How to get over a broken heart??? - 1/20/2005 11:16:57 AM

MistressKartia

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Hello sir,

I need to ask a question about something that I am have a bit of a problem with I use to be a slave to a great master but we are no longer together, because he told me that I couldn't be a slave that it is not in my character to be a 24/7 slave. he was right but that is not a problem to me, this is my problem I have falling in love with him so much it hurts to look at this picture, he knows how I feel about him, but he can't return the love that i need from him. So what should I do about a breaking heart?

Please help me. I am currenly a domme now.

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RE: How to get over a broken heart??? - 1/20/2005 11:26:40 AM

panthergoddess

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Mistress,

This is going to hurt and is MUCH harder to do than say but......ya gotta just move on. Concentrate on your Domme side and let your search or and subsequent training of a slave be your new focus.

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RE: How to get over a broken heart??? - 1/20/2005 12:53:48 PM

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because he told me that I couldn't be a slave that it is not in my character to be a 24/7 slave.

You say you were his slave, then he decides you are not the right charachter. Well, you've already proven you do have the charachter did you not? Anyway, I know that is a bit off track but I'd look at it as he has changed his mind. Why, you may never know. It may or may not be anything you even did.
Take solice in that. Then move on with your life. He decided he was not the one for you. You cannot push yourself on him. So move on. I'm assuming you like being a top?
Learn some about it. Go find a bottom to top.
Call a friend and go out. Take a class. Meet some new people. Before you know it you'll be over him.

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RE: How to get over a broken heart??? - 1/20/2005 1:02:15 PM

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Yes, I agree with Gloria about getting out and doing things. Only time will heal you and you can't speed it up. You can only make it less painful by concentrating on something or someone else. <<hugs to you>>

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RE: How to get over a broken heart??? - 1/20/2005 1:04:48 PM

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ahh yes the broken heart.... To start with lets first state that both men and women can have thier hearts broken and do. Its never easy when it happens. While it may not seem as much constalation right now at least he did take the time to try and explain why. It is much harder to deal with when the other person just ends it with no explanation whatsoever. You didn't mention if you two are still communicating or not at all. But my advice accept it, do not dwell on it, pick yourself up, and move forward. Do not go to places you use to go, or stare at photos thinking about the past. This will only makes matters worse. You did not say if you enjoy being a top or if you perferr being a bottom. You really are the only one that can decide that. But hang in there and things will gradually get better. Best of luck and remember there are others that will allow you to bend thier ear and help you.

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RE: How to get over a broken heart??? - 1/21/2005 1:10:59 AM

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hello Kartia,

i know how it feels being in love and love will be not returned.

so - therefor time and patience will heal the wound and scarf we feel in our soul.

althuogh - and thats the way i try to deal with, i am asking myself what is it who let me feel so sad, lonely and painfull inside?

often i found out its not the point about love. nothing hold me back to love, so therefor regardless which relation i have to people - my love for them can be still there.
and i am asking myself than - is it more the disappointment not getting back what i desire so much to get?

the love you have for this man - you still can keep this love in your heart. and may to see from the point that there exist a human being in that world let you feel the bliss of love.

i know - sounds so easy and so hard to live by - smile - i am not perfect either!

petra

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