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blugoddesss -> potential masters that dont listen (10/5/2006 9:42:48 PM)

i have an ad printed for a particular interest. i had a dom who replied who was the total opposite of what i am looking for. i politely informed him that he was not what i was looking for and wished him luck on his search, however he wrote and ask me questions regarding my 'preference'. i told him that i wasnt going to answer his question and stated that everyone had their particular preferences and wished him (again) good luck on his search.

any suggestion on how to deal with doms who wont/can't listen? or those who reply who are NOT what i am looking for without being rude or nasty?



Owned1 -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/5/2006 9:47:00 PM)

I think you did the correct thing,  if they persist simply ignore them.  I would not block them as that is reacting to their silly behaviour.  I would suggest though the ones who are doing this are not Doms rather hngs looking for a thrill.

Owned



elainee -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/5/2006 10:05:18 PM)

I block anyone whom I don't want any further contact with. That is what the block is for.



juliaoceania -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/5/2006 10:15:25 PM)

I know people feel they have to respond to everyone that emails them, but you really do not. If someone emails you after they obviously either did not read your profile, or ignored the contents of it , I would not feel beholden to email them back... Do you answer every credit card advertisement that comes in the mail?



Kinkypupper -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/5/2006 10:23:33 PM)

Be rude and nasty.... if they cannot take a  hint or READ.. you do not need them.



Focus50 -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/6/2006 3:55:43 AM)

I'd suggest you already did what I'd advise anyone - almost....
 
When a female gets unwelcome mail (that'd be all of them on these sites), I advise to first, only reply to polite and sincere mail for starters - but do make that effort to reply.  Secondly, when your own reply is a rejection, you also be polite and sincere (as you have) and if they further respond like they don't believe you etc, that's the time to block/delete with a clear conscience.
 
One of my 4 self rules is not to waste my time talking to people who aren't listening - try it! 
[:)]
 
Focus.



Celeste43 -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/6/2006 5:59:12 AM)

You did the right thing. Thanks but no thanks and goodbye.

My dom still makes comments about an email I got from a man who had zero compatibility with me, including the inability to read that I was already collared, yet said he could change his ways totally to make me satisfied. Basically the only thing he was interested in was that I live within 30 miles of him and it's hard meeting people in this semi-rural area.



zebrastripes -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/6/2006 6:06:42 AM)

I don't see where you did anything wrong.  Go with those instincts and you will be fine.  I answer polite mail politely.  People who write in a nasty manner are simply ignored.  Works for me.



Kiaban -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/6/2006 7:12:57 AM)

Sounds about perfect to me. Since you can't poke em in the eye with a sharp stick [gets stuck in the monitor I have tried it] its even better to simply pretend it was never there. Talking to them further will usually result in nasty comments and general unpleasantness.



pinkee -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/6/2006 7:16:59 AM)

i have a similiar problem.  A "Master" who contacted me here has carried on and on about getting phone sex from me.  i have refused outright.  Personally, i think he's a 'nilla guy, probably married, who just wants wanker material.
 
pinkee



mnottertail -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/6/2006 7:39:07 AM)

I don't know............them oldstyle princess phones give such good head.

Ron



Owned1 -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/6/2006 8:19:10 AM)

Shoot that is what I was doing wrong with phone sex,  I was using a cordless and the dayum antenna kept getting in the way[;)]

Owned



Corve -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/7/2006 5:52:33 AM)

move on.  find a master who respects your gift of enslavement.
Master Corve



Tikkiee -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/9/2006 4:20:03 PM)

quote:

any suggestion on how to deal with doms who wont/can't listen? or those who reply who are NOT what i am looking for without being rude or nasty?

someone like that...there is only ONE way to handle them
 
you don't have to be nasty, but you an be rude in a very nice way that he will even come back and say thankyou to you, not knowing that you insulted him [:)]
 
Of course, 99% of them think that anyone who would dare turn them down must be idiotic, a fake, a player, a wannabe, or just plain outright lying. For those, I make sure that the insult is loud and clear.



MASTERRocker -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/9/2006 4:21:35 PM)

What  I didn't hear you??? Maybe try 'Listen Up Canada' - they have specials on right now........



toservez -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/10/2006 7:23:37 AM)

Sounds like you did the right thing and I would just ignore him and delete his messages. It is unfortunate but there are people on sites like these that cannot take no thanks for an answer but see it as only a starting point. They take personal relationships like they are selling a used car or something, keep them talking and say anything and maybe they will change their minds.

Don't feel guilty or any other emotion because of some stranger who has sent you a couple of messages. Not a good approach to have when looking for someone online good or bad messages.



RedSavageSlave -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/10/2006 12:20:51 PM)

I just love the title to this thread.. "Potential masters that dont listen"

I dont know how potential they are if they are not listening.. someone must have really low standards LOL

<and yes I know that is not what this thread is really about>



LotusSong -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/10/2006 12:34:24 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: blugoddesss

i have an ad printed for a particular interest. i had a dom who replied who was the total opposite of what i am looking for. i politely informed him that he was not what i was looking for and wished him luck on his search, however he wrote and ask me questions regarding my 'preference'. i told him that i wasnt going to answer his question and stated that everyone had their particular preferences and wished him (again) good luck on his search.

any suggestion on how to deal with doms who wont/can't listen? or those who reply who are NOT what i am looking for without being rude or nasty?


Hit the BLOCK option after your first reply.



CrazyC -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/10/2006 12:35:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: blugoddesss

any suggestion on how to deal with doms who wont/can't listen? or those who reply who are NOT what i am looking for without being rude or nasty?


It is so nice to know i am not the only one where it is blantenly clear they never read my profile. I have been Over whelmed many times by responces. Even a "Hi Sexxy" becomes annoying, when i go to their profile and there is nothing there. (hmmm and then they wonder why i never reply.) I came to a point where i had a friend who is a Dom go through my emails with me and delete those who where too much. those who are just rude, or are demanding from me, i gave a letter saying they have gone too far. Those who are nice...just something saying i am sorry, but not interested...and then wish them good luck in finding what they are looking for. It has been said before...it is ok to ignore letters all together. :)

Take care of yourself first, and the right Dom will respect that.



LadyHugs -> RE: potential masters that dont listen (10/10/2006 12:46:46 PM)

Dear blugoddesss, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Well, being a dominant woman; I'd probably offer the guy a hearing aid so he can hear "NO" better with; strong glasses to see "NO" better with and a pillow, as to cushion his rear with when he lands on it after having been told "NO."   Guess it might be a bit harder with slaves to do...but, you can always tell them; you'll donate your eyes when you don't need them any longer, as they see "NO" for exactly what it means --"NO!"
 
Respectfully submitted with a lot of wit,
Lady Hugs



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