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Lost Sensitivity - 10/6/2006 5:11:09 PM

TreSwank

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Boy.............. do I remember those gawky adolescent days, rife with acne, masturbation, shitty drugs, and metal. Back in that bygone era, when MTV was still good, before you started hearing news stories about S&M, and watching HBO specials on Pandora's Box of NYC, there used an extra, dark appeal to S & M................the appeal of largely unexplored terrain. When I was twelve years old, and thought that I was the ONLY person in the world that had THOSE kind of fantasies, involving spanking, flagellation, golden showers, scat, strangulation and hardcore crochet action (LOL), my fire used to get kindled in a New York minute, but now, things are different.

Is S&M mainstream, nowadays? Not quite, but it HAS lost all of it's taboo, hush-hush quality. Do I still have to participate in S&M to get fired up enough for intercourse? Yeah, pretty much, but I kind of miss the days of silence. It might strange to some, but it makes complete and total sense to me. The transgressive elements gave S&M an extra edge. Don't get me wrong.......it's still my main love, but you can't wish back the old days.

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RE: Lost Sensitivity - 10/6/2006 5:18:25 PM

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I first heard of BDSM in Penthouse Forum when I was 16, and that is pretty mainstream when it comes to erotica. As a lifeway, sure it is a smaller minority.. but I know a lot of people that are into bondage, spankings, and other BDSM activities. I was into humiliation before I knew what is was... I remember people joking around about rough sex and whips and chains for a long time.. longer than the internet has been around

I do not know how mainstream it is or it isn't... but I think people have been doing these things without naming them for a long time! Perhaps I am viewing it through my own eyes... which I tend to do a lot.

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RE: Lost Sensitivity - 10/6/2006 5:28:38 PM

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I've often toyed with the idea of having a "membership only"/"gotta know a member to be recommended before you can join" Bdsm club to add a level of secrecy and darkness to our "lifestyle". I too find myself often a bit taken back when I see what I've kept hidden away about myself for such a long time displayed on or hinted too in mainstream television. When I see the very new to the scene decide to play heavily on what used to be the edge...lol. I wonder if this is just a giant step toward a more sexually open kink friendly America?

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RE: Lost Sensitivity - 10/6/2006 5:39:36 PM

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Nope, don't miss it at all. I like this because it's what *I* like. I don't care if everyone in the world also loves it, it's not how dark or secret it is that turns me on.

I understand a lot of kinksters DO get off on that- being in some secret dark club. And it's hard to let go of something that you hold very special and see it marketed to the masses.

But I prefer the world viewing me as another freak rather than not being able to express myself and fear for having children because they might be taken from me due to my choices.

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RE: Lost Sensitivity - 10/6/2006 8:06:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TreSwank

...When I was twelve years old, and thought that I was the ONLY person in the world that had THOSE kind of fantasies, involving spanking, flagellation, golden showers, scat, strangulation and hardcore crochet action (LOL), my fire used to get kindled in a New York minute, but now, things are different.

crochet action?! man, you're one twisted fuck.

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...Do I still have to participate in S&M to get fired up enough for intercourse? Yeah, pretty much, but I kind of miss the days of silence. It might strange to some, but it makes complete and total sense to me. The transgressive elements gave S&M an extra edge. Don't get me wrong.......it's still my main love, but you can't wish back the old days.

see my "vanilla back-up" thread.

you need a good old fashioned aussie root mate. in the back of a Holden panel van with surfboards on the roof... at the drive-in after eating ya fish n chips, drinking V.B. and playing the pinnies. that's the shit.

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RE: Lost Sensitivity - 10/6/2006 8:36:37 PM

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I remember reading some serious hardcore S&M stuff complete with a mistress shitting into a guys mouth. At the time it seemed hot but as a testosterone addled youth, even the wind seemed erotic.

I think though that my earliest exposure may have been to one of the first editions of The Joy of Sex that had drawings of bondage when I was really young. I remember reading the book and only years later did I find out the early editions mentioned bondage but the later ones didn't and I have always wondered if the one I looked at had any of those pictures.

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RE: Lost Sensitivity - 10/6/2006 9:08:30 PM

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heh. i was just talking about reading (well looking at pictures in) my parents' version of The Joy of Sex when i was a teenager. i studied it pretty hard

and i don't recall any bondage pix. that woulda been a 1970s edition so now i'm curious as to when the book was revised. and does it include any bdsm now?

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RE: Lost Sensitivity - 10/6/2006 11:13:33 PM

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At last! I'm not alone in my strange, sad crochet fetish.

Oh damn, now that's taken all the fun out of it.

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RE: Lost Sensitivity - 10/8/2006 12:27:12 AM

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I think it has something to do with the thrill of doing something "wrong". It could be an act of rebellion or the threat of getting caught...or of simply being "bad". Sometimes, it's just fun being bad.

BTW, I have a variety of crochet hooks and can knock out a decent granny square using chain stiches and triple crochets in about 15 min. Hot yet? Potholders anyone?

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RE: Lost Sensitivity - 10/8/2006 12:58:44 AM

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Speaking of references going very mainstream....I just saw a commercial where this kinda geeky looking asian guy was walking down the street one night, hears some interesting music and goes into the place where the music was coming from and he looks around to see that it is a BDSM club. And cuts to him spinning on a crosswheel with the saying across the screen "There are easier ways to discover new music"

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