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Am I worthy? - 10/6/2006 8:51:56 PM   
AmIready


Posts: 2
Joined: 10/6/2006
Status: offline 		 I'm not advertising a profile, Simply put I am asking the professionals if this is for me or am I just looking for a dominant girlfriend and/or kinky sex..

Guess it would be best to tell you guys about me.
I'm a 21 year old male with little experience. I'm a caring, dedicated, and polite individual that likes to be controlled. Honestly I'm not really interested in paying a pro-dom for these kind of services, rather in getting into the lifestyle with someone.When I find something I really can get into I become very very focused on that subject. Overall I want a woman to worship and take care of. Into a little bit of pain, but am pretty softcore about it. Collars, chains, and cuffs are fun by me. I lack discpline, but am willing to learn. I'm an intellegent guy that likes to think, discuss, and have be a little (itty bit) rebellious. I'm very open-minded about everything. My downfalls are that I lack ambition, am manipulative, and am cautous in life. Putting it bluntly, I do want sex and would perfer if the control continued into the bedroom. I am averagely modest about my sexuality. In a mistress I would like one that I could love and would love me back, even if she didn't show it a lot. I want someone rough, but doesn't take it to the extremes.

So, be as harsh as you want to be, hold nothing back. Is this lifestyle for me or am I over my head?
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RE: Am I worthy? - 10/6/2006 8:53:16 PM   
hypnoticblue


Posts: 130
Joined: 9/20/2006
Status: offline 		Nah, the lifestyle is all about what you make it.  You just have to be yourself and be real.  You'll find your place in it...

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RE: Am I worthy? - 10/6/2006 10:46:33 PM   
FurysEmbers


Posts: 12
Joined: 10/6/2006
Status: offline 		totally agree with hypnotic...you have to feel your own worth before someone else can see it in you. if this is what you want then give it all your heart and i doubt you will fail.

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Omnia mutantur, nihil interit. (Everything changes but nothing is truly lost.)

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RE: Am I worthy? - 10/7/2006 5:53:03 PM   
DivaDuchess


Posts: 402
Joined: 8/17/2006
Status: offline 		The old say ... love yourself and others will see the best in you as well.

Just be you, don't try so hard, be real.  That's all anyone can/should expect.




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Courage is not the absence of Fear,
But rather the judgement that,
Something else is more important than Fear.

The Brave may not live forever,
But the Cautious do not live at all.

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RE: Am I worthy? - 10/8/2006 11:09:56 AM   
joyinslavery


Posts: 955
Joined: 6/21/2005
Status: offline 		Your post does indeed look and sound like a profile. 

Hope it works out for you. 

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-Bertrand Russell

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*Beware of dog*

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RE: Am I worthy? - 10/8/2006 11:13:25 AM   
amaidiamond


Posts: 1793
Joined: 2/6/2006
From: Watford / London
Status: offline 		Id agree with the others, the lifestyle is what you make of it... start slow, see what you like and what you don't, theres nothing wrong with going into it slow and as long as you're honest about what you feel and desire then can't see anyone having a problem with that...

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RE: Am I worthy? - 10/8/2006 11:34:26 AM   
sissifytoserve


Posts: 1016
Joined: 8/30/2006
Status: offline 		Am I worthy?

Thats not a very healthy question to ask.

You are opening yourself up to abuse by human vampirism.

There ARE people out there like that. Watch it.

I hope you at least have some self-worth and self-respect before you even consider getting into this lifestyle.

Beware the parasites.

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A great mind must be androgynous
Samuel Coleridge

The uniting of the feminine and the masculine is the highest form of human development Carl Jung

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RE: Am I worthy? - 10/9/2006 2:37:33 AM   
AmIready


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Joined: 10/6/2006
Status: offline 		I do have respect for myself and I guess I chose too strong of a title. What I mean is am I not some guy looking for a quick wank. Do I sound like someone who honestly wants to try this. I think I am, but I could be decieving myself.

< Message edited by AmIready -- 10/9/2006 2:41:00 AM >

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RE: Am I worthy? - 10/9/2006 4:08:54 AM   
DivaDuchess


Posts: 402
Joined: 8/17/2006
Status: offline 		Aside from the fact that you have NO profile to speak of ... where it belongs.  Perhaps you should build a profile FIRST, then perhaps post to the boards.  You're not going to get much in the way of interest without a profile.

When writing it, like I said earlier ... be yourself.




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Duchess

Courage is not the absence of Fear,
But rather the judgement that,
Something else is more important than Fear.

The Brave may not live forever,
But the Cautious do not live at all.

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RE: Am I worthy? - 10/9/2006 8:01:32 AM   
sissifytoserve


Posts: 1016
Joined: 8/30/2006
Status: offline 		Well..if it is something you feel that is in your nature....and you can find someone you can trust....talk to them about it....and mabye even do a
little experimenting if they are up to it. Put your toe in the water and see how you like it.

You shouldn't be afraid of anything as long as you have someone you trust and state what you both want to try at the beginning in a logical manner.

Some unexpected things good or bad may occur....but thats in any intimate relationship.

You do need an honest profile hough..if you are looking here.

< Message edited by sissifytoserve -- 10/9/2006 8:03:04 AM >

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A great mind must be androgynous
Samuel Coleridge

The uniting of the feminine and the masculine is the highest form of human development Carl Jung

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RE: Am I worthy? - 10/9/2006 9:05:27 AM   
MsKatHouston


Posts: 1909
Joined: 6/7/2006
From: Houston, TX
Status: offline 		Only you can decide if this is for you.  Learn about it, experiement, get involved.  If you are looking here, it might be a good idea to put up a profile and a pic so others can learn more about you.  The post you made sounded like something you'd put in a profile.  Good luck.

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-Kat

~If you can't be a good example, you'll just have to serve as a horrible warning~

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RE: Am I worthy? - 10/9/2006 9:40:33 AM   
KeirasSecret


Posts: 415
Joined: 8/17/2006
From: central NH
Status: offline 		 
I was where you are not so long ago. I have learned from what I’ve read here that there is a wide variety of standards so it is quit possible that you will fit in somewhere. In my opinion, some of the important things to remember when starting out are to figure out if you have any “hard limits” (anything you absolutely cannot bring yourself to do) and make sure you state these to anyone who you contact or contacts you. Take your time in finding what you are looking for. Do not settle for the first person you come in contact with just because they were there first. In other words make sure you get to know them and what they will expect of you to be sure they are what you are looking for. There seems to be a lot of good people here but as others have said there are some not so nice ones also.
Good luck and take care.
k

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RE: Am I worthy? - 10/10/2006 1:27:32 PM   
MisPandora


Posts: 2911
Joined: 4/7/2004
From: Philadelphia, PA
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quote:

ORIGINAL: AmIready

I'm not advertising a profile, Simply put I am asking the professionals if this is for me or am I just looking for a dominant girlfriend and/or kinky sex..

Guess it would be best to tell you guys about me.
I'm a 21 year old male with little experience. I'm a caring, dedicated, and polite individual that likes to be controlled. Honestly I'm not really interested in paying a pro-dom for these kind of services, rather in getting into the lifestyle with someone.When I find something I really can get into I become very very focused on that subject. Overall I want a woman to worship and take care of. Into a little bit of pain, but am pretty softcore about it. Collars, chains, and cuffs are fun by me. I lack discpline, but am willing to learn. I'm an intellegent guy that likes to think, discuss, and have be a little (itty bit) rebellious. I'm very open-minded about everything. My downfalls are that I lack ambition, am manipulative, and am cautous in life. Putting it bluntly, I do want sex and would perfer if the control continued into the bedroom. I am averagely modest about my sexuality. In a mistress I would like one that I could love and would love me back, even if she didn't show it a lot. I want someone rough, but doesn't take it to the extremes.

So, be as harsh as you want to be, hold nothing back. Is this lifestyle for me or am I over my head?


Your downfalls will drive how deeply you get into "the lifestyle."  In my experience, I'd say you're more of a bedroom submissive who wants his way when he wants it.  There's nothing wrong with that, so long as you're honest and up front with what you know already about yourself.  If I got an email from you and you told me that you're "an obedient fellow who wishes to please me in every way" and I came to find out the opposite, I'd be pretty pissed.  Likewise, you'd be upset with a woman who claimed to be into exactly what you seek and it turned up that she wasn't what she was promoting.

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Pandora
Ms World Leather 2004
Ms Philadelphia Leather 2004

"Simply put, if you want a real femdom to love you, give her reasons to love you." Gloria Brame

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RE: Am I worthy? - 10/11/2006 5:55:55 AM   
SexyFemDom


Posts: 25
Joined: 7/24/2006
Status: offline 		Aint nothing wrong with bedroom subs who want to submit 'part-time'.  Your so-called downfalls are precisely why submitting will be excellent for you.  I wouldn't be pissed if you weren't as obedient as your email stated - I would just train and discilpline you accordingly.  This all is supposed to be fun.  Some take it too seriously - don't worry, you'll find your Domme.

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RE: Am I worthy? - 10/11/2006 6:56:08 PM   
Keyholderwanted


Posts: 13
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline 		Agreed, it's all about what you make it.

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