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Submissive Men and housework - 10/7/2006 5:33:23 PM   
FavoriteGuy


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Status: offline 		Question for submissive men; if you suprised your wife/lover by cleaning the kitchen and making dinner, what type of response would you most like to recieve:

1. Loving praise and a hug
2. Indifference as if this is just normal behavior
3. Punishment for stopping at the kitchen and not doing the laundry too (or whatever idea she dreams up)
4. None of the above - give your own answer

Note - this is not what you *expect*, it is what you would like best.




Additional information, read only if you want
Trying to work out what is going on inside the head of a submissive man.  is it something like, "I can be happy cleaning & cooking, etc - but only if it is within this set of framework - otherwise it is just vanilla housework.
How can a dominant woman make tedious tasks "fun"?
What is it that makes it arousing to do tedious tasks when they are framed within a dominance/submissive framework?
How can a submissive man be unfulfilled when doing tedious tasks?
What are the ways that a dominant woman can break the mood of a task and pull the man out of a submissive "headspace"?

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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/7/2006 5:38:37 PM   
NakedServiceWimp


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Status: offline 		Indifference as if this is just normal behavior.

It is all part of being a true service slave - cleaning and service without drama or attention is expected of a slave.

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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/7/2006 6:06:49 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: FavoriteGuy

Question for submissive men; if you suprised your wife/lover by cleaning the kitchen and making dinner, what type of response would you most like to recieve:



Ok, I'm not a man, but I had to answer this question. It would be a much bigger surprise to Himself if I did NOT make dinner and clean the kitchen and not a happy one!

Celeste

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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/7/2006 6:53:16 PM   
sissifytoserve


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Status: offline 		Service has its rewards.

Eventually.





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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/8/2006 9:49:42 PM   
liks2plzlf


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Status: offline 		A loving prasie and a hug, even though this is normal behavior. I am in a vanilla relationship

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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/8/2006 9:53:03 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		My boy knows to expect a thank you, and a kiss.  If he did an exceptional job, he may get a treat. If he went above and beyond and did more than i expected of him for a day... he will be rewarded accordingly.  I see no reason to take his actions for granted, even if I know they are always going to be done.  Once he is unappreciated, our relationship would fall apart. I appreciate his service, and I apprecate his obedience. I always will. Just as he appreciates my attention.

DV

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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/8/2006 11:14:36 PM   
MagiksSlave


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Status: offline 		I just wana say DV you are wonderfull and your boy is lucky!! This is how Master treats me i clean and such for him because I love to please him as his slave but he never goes as if he didnt notice even though it is my job as his slave to do such, just because a slave is suposed to do things doeisnt mean they should be taken for granted.. again DV your wonderfull and in my opinion how all Domanents should be ((hugs))

Magik's slave

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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/9/2006 5:01:49 AM   
submaleslaveuk


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Status: offline 		1. Loving praise and a hug

Although did depend on how good a job i did, dont mind any of the alternatives either to be honest but my fav would be the praise and hug!

submaleslaveuk
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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/9/2006 9:13:28 AM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		Not a male sub but have them.  For me, my response would depend on the dynamic.  If it was the one I live with, there would likely be no reaction though over time, I do praise.  The reason for this is that it's an every day occurrance and an expectation.  It is no more special than his expectation that I go to work every day.  The little things, though, should not be overlooked and the occasional show of appreciation for the mundane is nice...both ways.  If I had another who did not regularly do that but surprised me with it the praise and a hug would likely occur.  Anyone who goes out of their way to do something nice for me is shown appreciation. 

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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/9/2006 12:51:45 PM   
illuminati1


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Status: offline 		Ok, I have to go and be a SAMmy but.. uh.. men can do housework? Is that possible?!

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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/9/2006 12:59:48 PM   
BalletBob


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Status: offline 		I would get Loving Praise and a Hug....THEN she would ask me what am I UP TO?

Once she my wife asked me to mop the floors, and she tole me, I "MAY" dress in my French Maids Outfit. Well she got a great job out of me, and I was more than PLEASED to do it.

I always said you can get more using a Reward, than with a Threat.

Waiting for Halloween, BalletBob

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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/9/2006 1:01:51 PM   
BalletBob


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Status: offline 		Hi Illuminati1. YES, that is POSSIBLE ! I even used a DUSTER at times on things, besides being Punished with it.

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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/9/2006 1:10:17 PM   
sissifytoserve


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quote:

ORIGINAL: illuminati1

Ok, I have to go and be a SAMmy but.. uh.. men can do housework? Is that possible?!


Of course it is.

Some of us are born domestics.

Apron and skirts included.

Amazing what a little reward can accomplish.

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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/9/2006 1:13:15 PM   
AAkasha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: illuminati1

Ok, I have to go and be a SAMmy but.. uh.. men can do housework? Is that possible?!


My man does all the housework, including cleaning and errands. He does a great job at it and it works well for us. But it's not for everyone -- I know a lot of men that would not do well.
Akasha


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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/9/2006 2:22:48 PM   
littlesarbonn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: FavoriteGuy

Question for submissive men; if you suprised your wife/lover by cleaning the kitchen and making dinner, what type of response would you most like to recieve:




If I was to surprise my wife/lover, it would probably surprise me even more because it's been quite some time since I've had a lover and I've never had a wife.

When I've had girlfriends, I usually did as much around the place as possible, but that's just because that's my natural demeanor. I think a woman knowing me would be surprised if I DIDN'T do it.


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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/9/2006 2:36:25 PM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		LOL yes, they are capable of it.  In my situation, I am the sole bread winner and my hubby does everything domestic.  This works wonderfully for us. 

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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/10/2006 3:53:08 AM   
maledave777


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Status: offline 		I would enjoy receiving loving praise and a hug. However, I desire to do all of housework on regular basics for a woman someday. I would not expect praise and a hug every time though. I would let her know that I appreciated her too.

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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/10/2006 5:07:49 AM   
kisshou


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Status: offline 		DiurnalVampire Mistress is right on!

I am a female owned slave not a male but I have to wonder if the mindset of slaves is that different due to gender.

Even though things are expected no one, not even a service slut like me likes to be taken for granted.


An acknowledgement that this was done as a service  :)

I bet Mistress DV owns a very happy boy :)

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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/10/2006 5:21:31 AM   
trainable14Domme


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Status: offline 		A must read for all women who want to train their men to do all the domestic stuff is REAL WOMEN DON"T DO HOUSEWORK. There is a web site as well. realwomendon'tdohousework.com. Its a fabulous read. i have been housetrained for years. (as it should be)
trainable14domme

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RE: Submissive Men and housework - 10/10/2006 5:15:15 PM   
LTRsubNW


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quote:

ORIGINAL: FavoriteGuy

Question for submissive men; if you suprised your wife/lover by cleaning the kitchen and making dinner, what type of response would you most like to recieve:

1. Loving praise and a hug

I would expect that anyway, but no, it wouldn't come from housework (that's why God invented houskeepers).

2. Indifference as if this is just normal behavior

(See above, make special note regards no housework).

3. Punishment for stopping at the kitchen and not doing the laundry too (or whatever idea she dreams up)

I would expect that anyway (that's why God invented Dommes).



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