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Selene5678 -> Very new to all this (10/7/2006 8:07:14 PM)
Would someone be kind enough to explain the basic roles and responsibilities of a "pet" to me? And what is the difference between a pet and a slave? Much appreciated....

mstrjx -> RE: Very new to all this (10/7/2006 8:15:48 PM)
This post will be quickly followed by the hordes that will declare anything having to do with definitions isn't the bother but........ A 'pet' could simply be a pet name, like darling, sweetheart, and the like. A 'pet' could imply a type of training, like puppy training. Crawling, leash and collar, feeding or drinking from a bowl, etc. Non-verbal communication. Could be lots of things. Jeff

Aine -> RE: Very new to all this (10/7/2006 8:22:15 PM)
Asking for definitions of terms here is like asking someone to define the color red. A pet to one, is something completely different to another. As well as a slave and the roles and responsibilities of anyone within the constraints of a D/s or M/s dynamic generally is limited and defined only and best, by those involved in that particular relationship. You're going to get a shit-ton of opinions on each, and a crapload of stuff in between. Do not take those as rules, laws, or anything set it stone. Take the information you get from anyone involved in BDSM as a very vague guideline, and sometimes with a grain of salt, and create from there the things that fit YOU.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Very new to all this (10/7/2006 8:28:11 PM)
In my personal definition, the difference between a pet and a slave is the emotional attachment. Angel is my pet. But then again, you wil hear a million different ideas. Why, becasue it is just a title. When you begin discusions with a Dom, your best bet is to ask them what it means to them. That way, you know what your getting into specificaly instead of trying to ferret a useful definition out of everyone elses opinions. DV

MasterC46910 -> RE: Very new to all this (10/7/2006 8:30:31 PM)
A pet is something you have to feed, unless it has recently been to the taxidermist.

WyrdRich -> RE: Very new to all this (10/7/2006 8:37:54 PM)
JMO, a Pet gets a lot more leeway and tolerance of independent behavior.

cuddleheart50 -> RE: Very new to all this (10/7/2006 8:40:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WyrdRich JMO, a Pet gets a lot more leeway and tolerance of independent behavior. Hmmmm, I wanna be a pet. [:D]

MistressTexas -> RE: Very new to all this (10/8/2006 12:02:31 AM)
To my understanding, a common way to look at it is: A Pet is treated as an animal, very commonly as a puppy. This involves eating out of a dish on the floor, etc etc. A slave, for all loss of rights, is still treated as human.

Bluebird -> RE: Very new to all this (10/8/2006 12:14:20 AM)
My thought on it is - my pet is someone I play with, but I don't really expect anything from him other than play. Kind of like my non-human pets - I enjoy them and have affection for them, but they have no responsibilities. If I had a slave, I would have expections of him. A pet could ultimately become a slave if we both deemed it appropriate, but it is not an automatic progression.

Rumtiger -> RE: Very new to all this (10/8/2006 12:30:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bluebird My thought on it is - my pet is someone I play with, but I don't really expect anything from him other than play. Kind of like my non-human pets - I enjoy them and have affection for them, but they have no responsibilities. If I had a slave, I would have expections of him. A pet could ultimately become a slave if we both deemed it appropriate, but it is not an automatic progression. I like being a pet.

outlier -> RE: Very new to all this (10/8/2006 12:34:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aine Take the information you get from anyone involved in BDSM as a very vague guideline, and sometimes with a grain of salt, and create from there the things that fit YOU. Aine, Excellent post. I think that last sentence would make a fine sig line. Outlier

Selene5678 -> RE: Very new to all this (10/8/2006 12:49:08 PM)
Thank you to those who took the time to offer a thoughtful response. I do realize that this is an established community of those with a lot of experience in the lifestyle, so I an grateful for some leeway regarding my beginner's queries. I have heard many different variations on the topic of pets, so the clarifications were helpful.

OhReallyNow -> RE: Very new to all this (10/8/2006 4:04:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Selene5678 Would someone be kind enough to explain the basic roles and responsibilities of a "pet" to me? And what is the difference between a pet and a slave? Much appreciated.... *for this slave, the word 'pet' is nothing more than an endearment. Other's will naturally disagree though.*

LotusSong -> RE: Very new to all this (10/8/2006 4:27:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bluebird My thought on it is - my pet is someone I play with, but I don't really expect anything from him other than play. Kind of like my non-human pets - I enjoy them and have affection for them, but they have no responsibilities. If I had a slave, I would have expections of him. A pet could ultimately become a slave if we both deemed it appropriate, but it is not an automatic progression. I agree.. this is my opinion also :)

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