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Thrill versus Danger on first meeting - 1/21/2005 2:12:34 PM

match2u

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love and blessing to all

i would like to here the opinion in this view.

as a newbie, novice even as an experienced sub/slave you find a huge part of information when considerung you will meet your prospective Master in regarding the safety.

starting from official places, safe calls, saving information left on a friend, id-card, driver-license, and beside the fact checking if all the things He told You are sincere and true.

its a kind of antagonism and for me it was really hard to handle getting involved with community - checking on information and in telling then - hell You betrayed my trust - especially in considering that D/s and M/s is based on trust.

and finally - after weeks, months in talking, chatting you feel the thrill and the "peachfish" is dripping in anticipation.

how You handle to make sure there is safety and not loosen the trust and thrill?

kindly and with hug to all

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RE: Thrill versus Danger on first meeting - 1/21/2005 2:21:14 PM

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IF you've done everything you spoke of. You're safe. If something was to go wrong. At least you've done all you could to check things out first.

Think all the women slavemaster killed checked him out first? Highly doubtful any of them did. Although none are still alive for us to ask.

I did everything you did when I met Doug. I then met him in a very public place and I did not leave with him. We had a fabulous first meeting. The best I had ever had while seeking.

For me it was excitement enough...especially since I knew I'd be seeing him again and again.

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RE: Thrill versus Danger on first meeting - 1/21/2005 2:40:06 PM

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I think everything mentionied is great and well thought out, but if I may just add one more thing? ( I wish more would do as you guys have suggested though)..*grins*
Even if all that checks out, what if you let someone know when and where you were going? So if something hapens and you disappear, they know when, and where you were when it happened...?

Just a thought.

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RE: Thrill versus Danger on first meeting - 1/21/2005 6:07:16 PM

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quote:

how You handle to make sure there is safety and not loosen the trust and thrill?

When it's possible, I try to meet others that don't come into my life from a personal recommendation (i.e. 'on-line) at a local munch.

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RE: Thrill versus Danger on first meeting - 1/21/2005 6:45:26 PM

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Here are some other threads on first meetings:

first meeting guidelines

dos and donts

first time jitters

playing on a first meeting

first meeting protocol

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RE: Thrill versus Danger on first meeting - 1/21/2005 8:14:49 PM

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I have met four or five men from online chats and so on. Each time it has been fine. I don't follow all the 'rules'. I don't check into things cause I feel most of those things can be faked in some way. I have one friend who I tell everything to, all that I know about the guy and give his email address. Then I meet him in a very public place, most of the time. This Thursday I am meeting someone else, weather permitting as it's very extremely cold here lately. I plan to meet him at a Tim Hortons, the most popular Canadian coffee chain, its always busy. I am not taking him home with me and I will not go anywhere with him that first time, I think. In the end you take your chances and deal with things as they occur.

I'm not sure if he will be ok with announcing it, but I'm meeting cilla on Thursday. Just for the curious. :) He hasn't passed all my 'tests' yet but he's doing nicely and he understands paperclip collars.

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RE: Thrill versus Danger on first meeting - 1/21/2005 8:17:58 PM

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understands paperclip collars.

What is a paperclip collar?

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RE: Thrill versus Danger on first meeting - 1/21/2005 8:21:59 PM

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I don't know if it's my original idea, I doubt it. But I wrote about paperclip collars/ chains a few years ago in an erotica story. I've always kept the idea around as something to ask male subs, to see if they understand the concept. It's just a collar made of paperclips, easily breakable but unbroken by choice.

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