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Master wants a Mistress - 10/8/2006 5:14:58 PM

MagiksSlave

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Ok if you Ladys dont mind I have a question and consern, my Master is a switch I knew this from the begining it is something that I think makes him the best Master ever, He wants a Mistress so that he can fufill his need to be a sub, I want this for him too because I want more then anything for my Master to be very happy. but Im scared that I may be a reason a Mistress wouldnt consider him(I dont want to be the reason Master doesnt get what he needs and wants) or that if he finds a Mistress she will wish me gone, He has assured me he would never be with a Mistress that would want him to give me (or his Domonent side which is a big part of him) up but I cant help but worry a little!! Anyway Im wondering what You all as the Domme's think!!

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RE: Master wants a Mistress - 10/8/2006 6:00:10 PM

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It depends...
There is a difference between being submissive in a relationship and being a part time masochistic bottom in scenes. If he just wants to bottom on occasion, and owuld like a regular play partner, then it probably isn't such a big deal.
However, it sounds like this is a man who wants a Mistress to serve in the sense of a D/s *relationship*, while at the same time he is in a M/s *relationship* with you.
I don't relate to this, so it is hard. I am sure it can be done, i.e., the married boy who has a vanilla wife and a Mistress he serves in a different way. I know of some which have been proclaimed right on these boards. And if all know, and all are fine with it, then it can work out.
It is tricky, I am sure, but just be patient and make sure that you are okay with this side of your Master, and that you can be supportive of this other side of him, as well. Remember, there will be three people involved, and they all have to be on the same page.

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RE: Master wants a Mistress - 10/8/2006 6:03:53 PM

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Yes Miss thank you.. Im am totaly suportive to the point of trying to help him find someone. I want Master to be happy and haveing a Mistress will do that for him, even going as far as saying if Master wanted to go poly it would been fine, I really care for him and want him to be happy more then anything, I just dont want to be stoping him from finding happyness at the same time I dont want to be cut out of his life!!

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RE: Master wants a Mistress - 10/8/2006 10:57:48 PM

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You can find whomever you want, if given enough time, money, and geographic area :-)

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RE: Master wants a Mistress - 10/8/2006 11:24:01 PM

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LOL this is true

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RE: Master wants a Mistress - 10/9/2006 1:29:12 AM

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Hi Magikslave,

I think at first you and your Master do need to distinguish between whether He needs the opportunity to switch and bottom sometimes, or whether He really needs a full-on Mistress to serve. This will obviously make a huge difference in the impact that (a) you will have on His success at finding the right One, and (b) this will have on your life as His slave.
If it's the former, then it shouldn't be too hard for Him to find a play partner that will Top him and you shouldn't really factor heavily into this, other than not being jealous of time that he spends bottoming. In your position, i would try to see it as a benefit not only to Him (as He is more complete and satisfied and happy) but also to you (He might pick up some great ideas to try out on you! And He's likely to be even more empathetic of your role as His slave).

If it's the latter, then there will be much greater impact and it would be a search best accomplished together. While there might be non-hierarchical ways to do this, I find that much harder to sort out and explain! Otherwise, in a hierarchy, such a Mistress would essentially be coming in as overall Head, with your Master next in line as Her sub and your Master, and you as the bottom slave. There would have to be discussions as to which tasks your Master should do as Her sub, and which He can delegate to you as His slave. And obviously you would need to be respectful of Her position, though not necessarily also Her slave in a bdsm or sexual sense. It's this kind of household that I am seeking to create, except in this case, it would be Master as the overall Top, Myself as the Duality, being His slave and also Dominant to My male sub/slave. I'm looking for the right bottom ... in your case, you'd both be looking for the right Top!

Good luck to you and your Master!
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RE: Master wants a Mistress - 10/9/2006 7:41:46 AM

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If she doesn't understand his need to remain a Master while still serving her, then she's not the one. Look long and hard...and keep talking to him about your worries. Also, talk to her about them and see what she has to say. Remember to talk about if she'll own you, too.

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RE: Master wants a Mistress - 10/9/2006 10:02:30 AM

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Ok thank you all this is really great so far. He has thus far assured me that he would never pick a Mistress that would make him give me up as his Domonent part is a great part of him. If I have some part in the search and we find a Mistress that we can both love then I would have no problem beeing her slave as well as his however if he choses someone that I do not enjoy haveing power over me then I would want it to be my choice not to be her slave and would not want her to expect that since she owns him that she owns me. after all the only choise we have as slaves is who it is we are slaves too. While I am reasonably sure Master would never pick a Mistress that would harm me or that would do anything I didnt really truely agree with I guess it is a fear in the back of my head. As his property everything he does efects me and I guess im just scared me and Master have been comunicating a lot about this and he does know my fears he even tells me of the Dommes that he is talking to and how things are looking relationship wise!! you are all being very great thank you!!!

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RE: Master wants a Mistress - 10/10/2006 1:30:37 PM

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Magik -- there's alot more to "wanting to submit" than just saying he wants a mistress. Does he wish to bottom? Does he wish to submit fully? Is service his thing or is he driven by pain? Does he wish to be owned? Perhaps your understanding more of what he really wants out of that side of him would put you more at ease. I can't say that we'd have those answers.

The more alarming part is that he doesn't acknowledge your presence in his profile seeking someone else. That would set me off if he approached me seeking something. Is there a reason for that?

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RE: Master wants a Mistress - 10/10/2006 4:12:01 PM

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Honestly Ma'am I have been asked why I am not mentioned in his profile befor.. It isnt really my place to have him put me there if he doesnt wish to. The only thing I can really say is he doesnt rely so much on this site and that I became his slave after he made the profile and he just hasnt changed it... i really dont know why he doesnt, Ill have to respectfully inquier why...

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RE: Master wants a Mistress - 10/10/2006 4:18:15 PM

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Ok :D I just asked Master about it and it was just as I thought.. He doesnt use collarme much and hasnt done very much with his profile at all so he just hasnt been on here to change it... Maybe now he will but if he doesnt thats ok because I know he tells any Domme's he talked to about me. I love and trust my Master he has never ever lied to me or betrayed me!!

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