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What do I actually do? - 1/22/2005 5:04:47 AM

LadyLisa

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Im left with this "cyber slave" looking for pain. I dont really know what to do with him - I want to do this, but what can I actually do or instruct him to do?

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RE: What do I actually do? - 1/22/2005 6:58:58 AM

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Lisa-

Is it maybe a little late to asking that? I feel that your post is analogous to walking into the local range and asking "I have this loaded gun here- now what do I do with it?".

The first answer is disengage.

Then figure out who you are and what you want. Reading the forums here are a good start. There are some powerful, smart, wonderful ladies you can learn from and a few good men that can give you an idea of what a boy wants.

Then go looking for someone to learn with.

Stay warm,
Lawrence

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RE: What do I actually do? - 1/22/2005 7:32:05 AM

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Lisa,
I suggest you order him to find real people in his location.

Personally, I don't know what an 'on-line' slave could ever do for me. How can he clean my bathroom? wash my dog? clean my pool? I don't recognize the pleasure you would get out of an online slave... care to share that with us?

I suggest you move on to real people that want to be there for you to touch. The mind is a great place to start, but nothing replaces the sounds a submissive makes when submitting to my kind of fun!

Ms Honey
(who also agrees with the prior post!)

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RE: What do I actually do? - 1/22/2005 8:42:48 AM

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I'd suggest a cliff, or very tall building. The sudden stop at the end tends to apply all the pain they'll want or need for the rest of their life.

I am, of course, being sarcastic.

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RE: What do I actually do? - 1/22/2005 8:45:30 AM

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quote:

Personally, I don't know what an 'on-line' slave could ever do for me. How can he clean my bathroom? wash my dog? clean my pool? I don't recognize the pleasure you would get out of an online slave... care to share that with us?

Amen to that!

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RE: What do I actually do? - 1/22/2005 11:23:35 AM

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quote:

Im left with this "cyber slave" looking for pain. I dont really know what to do with him - I want to do this, but what can I actually do or instruct him to do?

I started online and my first pain experience was clothes pins on my nips. That should work for a guy too. He had me do 20 sec three times a day at first and build up to 2 minutes. It was what taught me that I loved erotic pain.

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RE: What do I actually do? - 1/23/2005 7:27:36 PM

zifra

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It's wrong to make judgements just because a cyber relationship does not meet your needs. while we would all like real life, not everyone has that option.

in an online pain relationship, it is important that there be an agreement that the receiver ends anything that is about to go beyong his limits, since you are not there to judge.

Cyber pain ideas: a buttplug, tight collar, clothespins or clips, rubber bands on his hard cock, weights hung from his balls. making him hold a weight out at arms length, sitting on something uncomfortable or spikey, electrical toys work well. ben gay applied to the cock, a slice of ginger up the ass is very nasty.

have fun, stay safe!

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RE: What do I actually do? - 1/23/2005 7:43:39 PM

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Im left with this "cyber slave" looking for pain. I dont really know what to do with him

What do you mean when you say 'left with'? Are you ambivalent about the fact that he is a cyber slave, a masochist, both?

If you don't know what to do with him, let him go.

If you decide you are game for this, you need to have protocols and safety procedures in place before you begin - and that means a phone number that will connect you to his local police/fire department in the event that something goes drastically wrong. Just like ANY SM activity - you need to discuss and work out limits. Find out his health history. Prepare yourself and him.

But I concur with Lawrence. You need to back up and do some homework.

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