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RE: When a friend doesn't understand - 10/10/2006 12:59:05 PM

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I am learning also..it doesn't matter if anyone else is happy with your choice or not, as long as you are.. that's all that matters in the end.

I think you have it pretty much sorted. It would be nice for our friends to be happy with our choices and there for us but sometimes its too hard on both sides.
Being true to yourself is the most important thing, being happy with your own choices. You cant be miserable or live differently because your friends dont understand.

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RE: When a friend doesn't understand - 10/10/2006 2:58:20 PM

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I think I read everyone's posts and didn't see this mentioned. The best way to defuse your friend's concern is to have her meet your Master in a social setting. Put your relationship dynamic on display for her to see.

She may not understand the physical aspects of what you do, but if she sees you content and happy in the company of this man she may realize she doesn't have to.

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RE: When a friend doesn't understand - 10/12/2006 1:59:59 AM

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Yeah she said, "If you can help me understand it," maybe she wants an introduction to the scene? A bit of play?

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RE: When a friend doesn't understand - 10/12/2006 1:11:50 PM

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Thats a good idea Mercnbeth. I did let her meet him, and I asked her afterward what she thought. She said, "It was really quick, and he seemed nice..but he could have helped you with the car door."..lol.

I will try to figure out something to make it so they meet for longer, yet I don't want to totally make her uncomfortable. (this is my ex, the friend)

I doubt it, ChaOz.. trust me.. I would love it if she would give it a try, she knows that.

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RE: When a friend doesn't understand - 10/12/2006 1:57:55 PM

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i was sent on a task by the Trainer i had and was in my best friends area so she went with me. i had finally told her what turn my life had taken. it made her a little uneasy at frist but then we came to an agreement that if i do get to go real life she will always be my safe call. as long as she knows where i am and who i am with she feels a lil better. we have both been abused in our pasts but she is understanding. and the run we made was to fanasty gifts and she had a ball looking at different things in there and even got a book on how to give blow jobs. so it was win win. just talk to your friend like you alwasys have if she is your best friend she will understand hun hugs

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RE: When a friend doesn't understand - 10/12/2006 8:37:55 PM

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my one girlfriend was also very concerned when I told her what I was into. I gave her a BDSM Documentary that was filmed here in Canada, as well as a couple books.

When she came back she said she could totally understand why i felt the way i did, even though it's not for her.

Before she saw the movie and read the books the only knowledge she had was the "hollywood & media" version of what is protrayed to the public.

Some people will never understand, but with the right tools they can if they want to.

Good luck

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RE: When a friend doesn't understand - 10/15/2006 5:12:19 PM

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I don't have a problem with my friends when they question the bruises that they see on body. However, my sister freaks out and is convinced that I am being abused. I was finally able to make her understand by explaining to her that there is a huge difference between BEING abused and FEELING like you are abused. Once she understood where I was coming from with that, her apprehension lessened a bit. Not totally, but somewhat.

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