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RE: Mistress or Baby Sitter? - 1/24/2005 6:12:07 AM   
ProtagonistLily


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the local ones know that I could never meet them real time, I don't lie to them. Our conversations include a lot of topics and I actually have a lot of fun.


Perhaps knowing that you aren't available puts a differant spin on the experience and allows them to drop the 'slave speak' with you.

L

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RE: Mistress or Baby Sitter? - 1/24/2005 9:16:16 AM   
pantera


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Status: offline 		I never thought of it that way Lily and you may be right. Don't get me wrong, we talk about all this good stuff as well...and trust me, they try.... but they are respectful ...

I can imagine some of them being really annoying- I think they want to go straight "into it" instead of trying first to win the domme over with honest and normal conversation...and even if you are talking about the subject, they need to be articulate...but that tells you they are not very smart and I personally cannot stand dum guys-

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RE: Mistress or Baby Sitter? - 1/24/2005 10:07:28 PM   
MadamYasna


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Status: offline 		I agree with the Doms that prefer an intellectual slave rather than a pet man. I personally enjoy the eclectic tastes of a gentleman whos a lifestyler and knows what he wants and is proud of it...and proud to serve his Goddess. Have we forgotten, that no matter how petty their request is, they are after all begging for our time. We need them as much as they need us. Without our slaves we are all dreamers. Respect the ones who respect you. Those nasty type wanabe Dom's need to check themselves and their ideas...this scene is for ppl who are adverse, each person is individual and deserves to be happy. If i dont like someones request, i just simply dont see them. I dont whinge and whine about their request. I politely say no thanks. There is someone for everyone. Petty whinging bout golden slaves makes this seem all so cheap. I am a lifestyler and enjoy being me. NObody will change me.
I adore all my slaves/subs. I wouldnt have it any other way.

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RE: Mistress or Baby Sitter? - 1/25/2005 7:12:39 AM   
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If i dont like someones request, i just simply dont see them. I dont whinge and whine about their request. I politely say no thanks. There is someone for everyone. Petty whinging bout golden slaves makes this seem all so cheap. I am a lifestyler and enjoy being me. NObody will change me.
I adore all my slaves/subs. I wouldnt have it any other way.


I appreciate your comments. However, if you are accusing me of 'whinging' (which I assume you meant whining), I would ask that you respect my experience, and save the insults for personal mail.

I'm glad you adore all of your slaves/subs. Though, I wonder how many you have, and how selective you are if you have this cadre of boys around you. Are you a Pro? If so, your sentiments mean very little to me, because my situation is very differant than yours.

I'm selective. I'm choosy. I don't give a rats ass about having this gaggle of submissives following me around simply because I'll entertain them.

So thanks for your view.

Lily

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RE: Mistress or Baby Sitter? - 1/25/2005 8:20:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MadamYasna
gentleman whos a lifestyler and knows what he wants and is proud of it...and proud to serve his Goddess.
Those nasty type wanabe Dom's need to check themselves and their ideas...this scene is for ppl who are adverse, each person is individual and deserves to be happy. There is someone for everyone. Petty whinging bout golden slaves makes this seem all so cheap. I am a lifestyler and enjoy being me. I adore all my slaves/subs.

Hah? We would ALL apreciate a "gentleman" (read emotionally/ physically available) lifestyler who knows what he wants and is proud to serve his Goddess...
"Nasy type wannabe Doms"? You almost sound as if you're saying that those of us who don't accept anyone who comes calling to make a stable of subs/slaves we adore, qualify as "nasty type..., and we should stop whining?...

"This scene is for people who are adverse"? the OP and some of us here are adverse to wankers trying to use us when there's no fun in it for us...
I suspect however, that you meant DIVERSE, and in that case, we all (I think) agree "to each his own", and we applaud you and your stable of adored slaves; however, that setup doesn't work for some of us, so we'll stay true to ourselves as you will stay true to yourself. M

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RE: Mistress or Baby Sitter? - 1/25/2005 10:42:01 AM   
pantera


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Status: offline 		oops! this is getting a bit heated-

I understand the point about being nice and respectfully saying no... but I'm sure we are all decent people here and everybody agrees on that. Respect comes 1st- and that goes both ways.

I don't think that somebody is a "nasty domme" because they may get annoyed with some of the guys. There are all sorts of people here...and I can see how some (specially women) may get (use the word again) annoyed with a guy or two.

I would advise to just not waste time with those you don't find interesting... for me intelect is essential- I have to be compatible with the person I'm chatting in order to maintain a conversation....or we could be adversaries and argue...I like that too >:)

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RE: Mistress or Baby Sitter? - 1/25/2005 10:44:42 AM   
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However, if you are accusing me of 'whinging' (which I assume you meant whining),



Just for interest whinging is a word as well :), basically used in british countries, including australia (which is why I know it )
dictionary online shows the definition to basically the same as whining
"To complain or protest, especially in an annoying or persistent manner."

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RE: Mistress or Baby Sitter? - 1/25/2005 3:13:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Um, sometimes we just want to vent, that doesn't mean we are whining. Truth be told, everyone started out as a wannabe, even Mike, he wanted to be a professional basketball player and after enough time invested in learning the craft, he became the best. Bet some are scratching their head at that little ditty.

Besides a lengthy number of years in the life doesn't mean that one is good at it, just means a person's old at, I mean been at it a long time. Gawd bless those very experienced all knowing individuals. Always happy to learn the ways of the world and especially when we should speak our minds. Shame on us all for not being more willing to keep our thoughts to ourselves.

Rosa

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RE: Mistress or Baby Sitter? - 1/25/2005 3:42:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Lily,
Yes, I have had the same conversations, even via email. I get specific, and they still can't get specific back. If the applicant seems promising at all, I will request an essay to include their philosophies on being a slave, what having a slavehood vocation means to them, and always to include what they think a typical day would be as a live-in slave to Me. I steer them away from anything sexual, and make sure they understand that they are expected to have a part time job, at the very least. If the essay is good, I take it from there. If not, I simply end the pursuit. This has helped me alot with My constant and necessary weeding. Hope this helps.

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RE: Mistress or Baby Sitter? - 1/25/2005 11:09:58 PM   
MadamYasna


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Status: offline 		How exciting...replies...i was just typing madly after no sleep for a day...but yes..im sure that my 'fantasy stable of reliable pony butt plugged men' are waiting for their feedbags to be shoved in their pathetic faces.....but...alas...i have no time to whinge about people and their spellcheck abilities and constant criticism...i feel positive today..yesterday was a different day...good to see some intellect around... I stand tall in my circle of glory.

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RE: Mistress or Baby Sitter? - 1/30/2005 3:37:10 PM   
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Even if the person applying to me for the position of slave/sub had better have a backbone and be able to think. How else will he know to anticipate and make sure I am cared for at times when I'm just not feeling 100%. Besides, even slaves may serve different purposes for different Masters/Mistress'. I may just want a slave that can entertain me with their great knowledge the of the arts, wine selections, poetry, history, to name a few things of interest. For me a slave doesn't have to be a mindless, passive thoughtless twit. I may want a slave/sub that can entertain me with his creativity his gifts he's learned from life's challenges.


I feel the same way. I dont want a drone who I can not hold an intelligent conversation with. I give them a few minutes to interest me or I have nothing to do with them. I dont want someone who acts like he has no mind or hobbie, I know that he hasnt been sitting on his couch waiting for me to come in his life and tell him what to do. He has to have interests and knowledge of things. I spoke with someone recently that wanted to be my a""boy which is not what I desire, so I told him so. That is the only thing he could tell me about himself or his interests. When I told him I wasnt interested(as my profile specifies what I want) he became very disrepectful. I am tired of the people who call themselves sub/slaves, but are really lazy minded individuals or disrepectful jerks who try to get whatever they want without respect to others.

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RE: Mistress or Baby Sitter? - 2/8/2005 9:55:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		:-) Yes that does sound familiar. i am a mostly sub, occasional switch cd. Oddly enough it goes both ways. i do get subs "wishing i was Domme". WHen we chat i get very much the same conversation. i can only imaging how boring it would be to have to tell someone every last little thing to do and then have them sit there like mute lumps the rest of the time. Like i said though i get it from the other end as well. Many guys contact me who are "Dom". They want to train me as their slave and transform me into a girl. When i question them further, it is always the same uneventful, unimaginative crap. i am supposed to get all 'dolled up' for them. they will come over and 'inspect' my makeup. (thats the extent of the fem training) and then they will handcuff me, spank me for a couple of minutes and then i will service them orally. Wow am i a lucky girl. True domination and feminization.....oh and i forgot to mention i dress/act like a girl 10-14 years old. i bring that up right away to make sure they are ok with that and inevitably when we talk about meeting they want me in hose an high heels. Anywayi guess it cuts both ways. It is just as bad having a lump as a slave as it is having a lump as a Master/Mistress. It really is ahrd to find people. The reason i started reading this string was because of the mention of a babysitter. In ways i am looking for just that. Someone to live with me to make sure that i dress and am as fem as possible as much as possible in my daily life. It certainly is not someone to tell me what to do every second though. Anyways, just my 2 cents
kimmy

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RE: Mistress or Baby Sitter? - 2/8/2005 10:02:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily

Recently, I've been getting a fair amount of mail from male submissives who are within my age and location range. If they are polite, I will write them back, and suggest we chat.

Typically, the chat goes something like this:
Me: Hello there, could you please tell me more about yourself?
them:I'm a total and complete slave looking to serve a Mistress
Me:Yes, I gathered that. Could you tell me what you are looking for?
them:A Mistress
Me: Yes. Have you ever served someone before
them: Yes, I was her total and complete slave
Me:Ok. What kind of things do you like
them:I like to have a Mistress who totally owns me....I will do what ever the Mistress wants.
Me:Ok. What did you enjoy that your Mistress did or had you do
them:What ever pleased her

Ok, you get the drift here. Am I unusual in that I'm not looking for a 'Stepford Sub', rather, I'm actually interested in having a submissive with some personality and a mind?

I go through these conversations and invariably wonder what the bring to the table that's attractive, if this is all they have to offer in the introductory conversation. Are they really looking for a Mistress or are they looking for an adult Baby Sitter?

Lily


*sigh*

Most of these don't know what they're looking for at all. I think many just see the clothes and little else!

I have zero interest in anyone who says they will do exactly what I say - and are then too scared to attend a munch or similar.


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