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Question: - 10/11/2006 9:13:11 AM   
plzblisterme


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Status: offline 		How does one keep interest when they have no luck finding a Mistress?
   david
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RE: Question: - 10/11/2006 9:16:09 AM   
MissyRane


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Status: offline 		I have a question...
why does it seem that 99% of the folks here are SO DESPERATE?????????????????????

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RE: Question: - 10/11/2006 9:17:34 AM   
LadyEllen


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Status: offline 		You have had no luck? Your profile is OK (well, apart from the bit about the strap on, which was a "sudden change of pace" there in the middle!). Your pic is OK.

I'd suggest you hang out on the boards and chatrooms a bit - get your name out there; there are thousands of guys looking for dommes, so make yourself stand out.

Do you go to any events / venues?

E

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RE: Question: - 10/11/2006 9:17:51 AM   
MstrssPassion


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Status: offline 		Keep interest in what?

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RE: Question: - 10/11/2006 9:18:14 AM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissyRane

I have a question...
why does it seem that 99% of the folks here are SO DESPERATE?????????????????????



I am NOT!!!! (don't you have chocolate to attend to???)


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RE: Question: - 10/11/2006 9:18:26 AM   
amlonging


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ORIGINAL: plzblisterme

How does one keep interest when they have no luck finding a Mistress?
   david


With no great awesome thinking to your question, my first thought is...if it is THE mistress which keeps you engaged in your submission, then I might suggest you find a local munch where you will find a mistress willing to engage you in some BDSM activity.
If you are interested in THE mistress for a D/s relationship, take your time.  When it is right, you will find each other.
 
But until then, make of yourself a better man.  One a mistress will be proud of.
my 2 cents

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RE: Question: - 10/11/2006 9:19:46 AM   
LadyEllen


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissyRane

I have a question...
why does it seem that 99% of the folks here are SO DESPERATE?????????????????????



Easy! None of us are real. Remember?

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RE: Question: - 10/11/2006 9:24:33 AM   
MissyRane


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I am NOT!!!! (don't you have chocolate to attend to???)



of course*lllllllllllliiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiccccccccccccccckkkkkkkkkkkkkk*

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

Easy! None of us are real. Remember?


oh yes!!! I remember

< Message edited by MissyRane -- 10/11/2006 9:25:35 AM >

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RE: Question: - 10/11/2006 11:03:10 AM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: plzblisterme

How does one keep interest when they have no luck finding a Mistress?
   david


David, you can lure us with chocolate and a fresh pack of thigh high nylons :)
 
I'd  seek out the munches and clubs- go to workshops they offer.  Immerse yourself in the lifestyle activities that are offered.  Once you become a familiar face.. people will start to take more interest in you.  Unfortunately, this is no different than the vanilla world.  You have to market yourself.  Scope out your competition.  Observe what seems to be working and if it is "you" then adapt.

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RE: Question: - 10/11/2006 11:12:41 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		It can get discouraging. Have you tried getting out into your local community? If you would, that puts you way above what the rest are willing to do.

The slave of a friend of mine used to do a presentation when he was not collared called "How to serve when there's no one to serve". In it , he called for volunteering in your local community...working with groups and such. Still, again, this means getting out from behind the computer.

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RE: Question: - 10/11/2006 11:16:51 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Thigh High NYLONS?

Ohhhhhhh, I'm fair disappointed in you, LOTUS.

Ron  

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RE: Question: - 10/11/2006 11:21:04 AM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Thigh High NYLONS?

Ohhhhhhh, I'm fair disappointed in you, LOTUS.

Ron  


Oh here.. TAKE Them then!!!!   They will be far more attractive on you than those tube socks and sneakers :)



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RE: Question: - 10/11/2006 12:44:07 PM   
mnottertail


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Garter belts long up silk stockings, fuck me boots......a girl can't go wrong accessorizing with the basics.



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RE: Question: - 10/11/2006 2:15:26 PM   
MistressDolly


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quote:

ORIGINAL: plzblisterme

How does one keep interest when they have no luck finding a Mistress?
   david

Ummmm b/c it's in your best interest.

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RE: Question: - 10/11/2006 3:47:27 PM   
joyinslavery


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Status: offline 		To the OP, I guess my question to you would be why post this in the 'Ask a Mistress' forum as opposed to asking the same question in the 'Ask a Submissive/Slave' forum?  If you're sincerely looking for ways to stay 'motivated', seems to me that forum would provide much more practical advice. 

Then again, it wouldn't provide as much 'exposure'. 

Hope it works out.   

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RE: Question: - 10/12/2006 6:53:15 AM   
MisPandora


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ORIGINAL: plzblisterme

How does one keep interest when they have no luck finding a Mistress?
   david

Question what one is doing to find one's Mistress.

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RE: Question: - 10/12/2006 7:31:00 AM   
MsSonnetMarwood


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Status: offline 		When I saw your screen name posting this thread, it made me recall some of your other threads.  To refresh my memory, I took a quick browse through.  You complain about prodommes.  You complain about people from other countried contacting you here.   You complain about a fetish party you went to where no one was playing (nor were you).  You're looking for a really specific fetish to engage in.

Honestly...it rather reminds me of our other resident complainer who can't find a domme and doesn't seem to know why.

Yes, it's sometimes tough to keep a positive attitude.  However, if you're looking online to meet someone real time who will engage in the specific fetish you want AND a D/s based relationship, then you're pretty much going to be out of luck.  Turn off the computer and get involved in your local scene.  But most of all - keep a positive attitude about it.  Don't go running to the message boards to complain if you don't meet someone who interests you.  Don't complain that no one you meet lives up to what YOU think you want.   Keep an open mind about it.

I'm sure you're well aware that there are far fewer dommes out there than there are subs.  It's going to take time and it's not guaranteed that it will ever happen - unless of course you have a sour attitude, and that DOES guarantee it won't happen.



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RE: Question: - 10/12/2006 7:37:44 AM   
MisPandora


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ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood

When I saw your screen name posting this thread, it made me recall some of your other threads.  To refresh my memory, I took a quick browse through.  You complain about prodommes.  You complain about people from other countried contacting you here.   You complain about a fetish party you went to where no one was playing (nor were you).  You're looking for a really specific fetish to engage in.

Honestly...it rather reminds me of our other resident complainer who can't find a domme and doesn't seem to know why.

Yes, it's sometimes tough to keep a positive attitude.  However, if you're looking online to meet someone real time who will engage in the specific fetish you want AND a D/s based relationship, then you're pretty much going to be out of luck.  Turn off the computer and get involved in your local scene.  But most of all - keep a positive attitude about it.  Don't go running to the message boards to complain if you don't meet someone who interests you.  Don't complain that no one you meet lives up to what YOU think you want.   Keep an open mind about it.

I'm sure you're well aware that there are far fewer dommes out there than there are subs.  It's going to take time and it's not guaranteed that it will ever happen - unless of course you have a sour attitude, and that DOES guarantee it won't happen.


Did you use fast reply?  Because I'm not the one complaining! Really, I'm not LOL

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RE: Question: - 10/12/2006 7:44:12 AM   
MissyRane


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Status: offline 		well I have been to a prodomme they don't do anything but taking your money away and leave you with a sore butt
I've been to all bdsm parties there are and I only find some snobbish strange hens that don't do anything but having their slaves wear chastity and have them kneeling without doing anything at all it has to be the dullest parties i've EVER been to!
and what is wrong with people from other countries contacting me? since when did i ask them to contact me? they're stupid!
why should i not be on here since all the parties and all the real offline bdsm-fetish-everything sux
and then all the socalled dommes on here seem to be fake
and why on earth would i need to be patient my profile is outstanding! Dommes should be waiting in Qs for me to attend them
and now people are saying i'm not optimistic
you see why do you think i'm here i am optimistic i want real people..but there don't seem to be any real people here but me, and it makes no difference online/offline you people are just plain dull

ahem..I couldn't resist..

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RE: Question: - 10/12/2006 8:34:50 AM   
MstrssPassion


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quote:

ORIGINAL: plzblisterme

How does one keep interest when they have no luck finding a Mistress?
   david

quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

Keep interest in what?


Is it any wonder why you don't have any luck finding anyone, you don't follow through with what you initiate.

Why would you have any luck finding anyone when you don't even offer the courtesy of answering when someone is attempting to find clarity in YOUR questions...

What a waste of time

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