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Approached by Doms - 10/12/2006 3:35:39 PM   
IWantToPunish


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Status: offline 		I am new to this lifestyle and the web site.  My profile says that I am dominate and I have no interest in being dominated.  My question to all of you Doms, Sirs, and Masters is; why do I keep getting messages from males who are labeled dominate ( not switch ) on their profiles wanting to either be dominated by me or to "hook up" as one so eloquently put it?  Am I missing something?  Any suggestions on how I should respond ( or if I should respond ) to these "Doms"? 
Thanks for Your advice.
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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/12/2006 3:53:05 PM   
KatyLied


Posts: 13029
Joined: 2/24/2005
From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline 		First word of advice:

Learn the difference between dominate and dominant.

Beyond that:

There are men who enjoy a challenge, getting a domme to submit to them would fill that need.  There are also men who think that all dommes have a bit of sub in them.


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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/12/2006 4:23:34 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


Posts: 2464
Joined: 1/26/2006
From: North Carolina
Status: offline 		Welcome to the internet. I am a collared slave and still receive offers from Dominants. Some maybe cant read or dont care. Just ignore and move on.

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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/12/2006 5:05:37 PM   
stockingluvr54


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Joined: 6/22/2006
Status: offline 		I would think alot has to do with the fact that you're young, physically fit and gorgeous......and most men are uh?.....well... men. (alot of em think with the little head).....jmo

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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/12/2006 5:10:29 PM   
Najakcharmer


Posts: 2121
Joined: 5/3/2004
Status: offline 		My profile says "seeking friends only....if you call me Mistress you get blocked and deleted."  Guess what 90% of the emails I get start with.  I get propositions from dominant men, too. 

These guys just flat out don't read.  That's all there is to it.  They don't give a damn what anyone else on this site wants, they just wanna get their rocks off and they really don't care about anyone or anything else in the least.  That degree of selfishness and disrespect is truly ugly, but unfortunately it's basically the norm on adult sites. 

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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/12/2006 5:26:24 PM   
DiurnalVampire


Posts: 8125
Joined: 1/19/2006
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		Get used to it. There are quite a few Doms labeled as such that will offer themselves to you also.  Some are fake, that isnt limited to fake subs.  They are looking for wank material, jsut as miuch as fakes that lable themselves subs.
Others think a Domme is a challenge, that we really do want to be dominated and havent admitted it yet. It doesnt make sense, we could say the same thing of them, however its how some people think.

IF you get a message from someone who is very obviously not who/what you want, then delete and move on.  You'll get lots, and if there are too many issues, set up your filter to move al the mail form dominants into the junk.  That way you can ignore them completely.

DV

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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/12/2006 5:57:08 PM   
Najakcharmer


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire
set up your filter to move al the mail form dominants into the junk.  That way you can ignore them completely.


Some of  my good buddies here are male doms, so I'm not ignoring my friends just because there's some major assholes in the mix.  Folks who are on the site strictly to seek a partner and are not interested in friendly chat with someone outside their parameters for a partner probably could narrow down their junk mail that way however. 



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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/12/2006 6:01:43 PM   
IWantToPunish


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for the advice.  Sorry about the misspelling.

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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/12/2006 6:41:26 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		The response wasnt to help you, Najak. You already know what you are looking for, and whom you do and dont want to talk to.  I was replying to the OP, so that she can filter out the Doms she is getting. Being that she is new to the site, chances are very high she doesnt have any Dom friends on here, so it will work wel for her.

DV

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If you cannot change your mind, how are you so sure you still have one? -proverb

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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/12/2006 6:45:40 PM   
Najakcharmer


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

The response wasnt to help you, Najak. You already know what you are looking for, and whom you do and dont want to talk to.  I was replying to the OP, so that she can filter out the Doms she is getting. Being that she is new to the site, chances are very high she doesnt have any Dom friends on here, so it will work wel for her.


Probably not yet, but lifestyle folks of all orientations can offer good advice and friendship.  That might be even more valuable to a new person than to an experienced one.

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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/12/2006 6:56:20 PM   
Lashra


Posts: 4900
Joined: 2/9/2006
Status: offline 		They seem Dommes as a challenge in which to conquer or they truly want to explore their sub side (less common). Either way just ignore them and if they keep it up just block them eventually they will tire and go annoy someone else.

~Lashra


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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/12/2006 8:45:53 PM   
theRose4U


Posts: 3403
Joined: 8/22/2005
Status: offline 		Funny thing about what you bring up... Men tend to service themselves the same way whether they're dom or sub that day.

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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/12/2006 9:01:50 PM   
Veryfewcan


Posts: 57
Joined: 11/18/2005
Status: offline 		Don't worry about the game-players. They exist in all parts of society and especially on the internet. Get a good laugh and move on. Always remember, they don't know who is cooking tonight...lol.
I do and so do You.

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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/13/2006 9:29:08 PM   
diamonddreamlove


Posts: 770
Joined: 5/19/2006
Status: offline 		My initial profile said i wanted real time so would like a Dom close to home.  After a geography lesson or two some of the Doms figured out that New York is not close to Missouri.  Neither is North Carolina or California.  But i kept my map handy and was able to help with geography whenever necessary and wow have a Dom from my state and near my town.  And He knows geography!!!!!  Good luck.

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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/13/2006 11:23:59 PM   
theRose4U


Posts: 3403
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Status: offline 		Funny thing happens when the "little dom" is in control, his one eye is usually occupied looking at other things.

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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/15/2006 2:08:12 AM   
shadevarr


Posts: 360
Joined: 7/2/2006
Status: offline 		Lol, I don't think it is a matter of Doms thinking with their dicks but more of horny boys taking on the label of Dom on the assumption that subs are an easy lay. I have this desire at times to take them into my dungeon and beat them for just wanting to use someone and not care about them as well. Don't let them discourage you nor should anyone make gross overgeneralizations.

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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/16/2006 4:17:05 AM   
DivaDuchess


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Status: offline 		Set your mail filter to move everything from those you do not wish to receive, to the bulk folder then ... make friends with the 'BLOCK' key  *s*




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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/16/2006 4:53:32 AM   
FangsNfeet


Posts: 3758
Joined: 12/3/2004
Status: offline 		Guys are horny and most will hit on anything that moves.

Now that's out of the way, also know that some doms do not want a sub in there personal relationships. Some find it difficult to inflict pain on the one they love. Because of this, some seek a compainion with like minded thoughts for which they will have a vanilla relationship with. Both will give scenes and sessions with other subs and may take on a slave for home use but will stay vanilla with each other for the most part.

You'll always see proclaimed doms who want the challenge of dominating other doms. That's just the way it is so keep a tazor with you at all times.

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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/17/2006 6:44:59 AM   
Celeste43


Posts: 3066
Joined: 2/4/2006
From: NYS
Status: offline 		Don't feel bad, I'm submissive and yet I get unsolicited letters from males calling me Mistress. I've decided that somehow they've learned to write, but not read!

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RE: Approached by Doms - 10/17/2006 11:42:50 AM   
Master96


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Joined: 2/13/2006
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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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There are men who enjoy a challenge, getting a domme to submit to them would fill that need. There are also men who think that all dommes have a bit of sub in them.



I guess women maybe enjoy such challenge as well. I remember a thread about how Doms would feel if they were approached by a Domme, you have to ask LA for the link....lol

Also, I don't know from where these guys get such concepts. I would be upset if someone said that all Doms have a bit of sub in them. If such idea were true, that would make them switches not Doms.

To the OP, who wants to punish.... lol, I agree with this quote:

quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

Welcome to the internet.... Some maybe cant read or dont care. Just ignore and move on.


Good luck, and punish well

< Message edited by Master96 -- 10/17/2006 11:44:46 AM >

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Understand that actions will always speak louder than words.


Before you speak, ask yourself..
Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?
Does it improve upon the silence? - Sai Baba

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