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YourMasterKai -> Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/13/2006 9:55:00 AM)

I'm a Male Dom and my slave is a female slave.

We are looking for some fresh ideas during playtime, we've tried the following:-

+ Spanking [hand, hairbrush, small chain]
+ Ice Play
+ Wax Play [tried but my slave was scared]
+ Bondage [tied to bed]
+ Blindfolds
+ Face Slapping
+ Breast Beating

So we're looking for any new ideas please...




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/13/2006 9:59:16 AM)

Try wax again.  Why was the slave scared?  Did youburn them with the wax?  Out of the 2% of people I know who don't like wax play, 1% thought it was too boring, and 1% always played with someone who didn't know what they were doing and burned them. 




YourMasterKai -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/13/2006 10:01:19 AM)

I knew what I was doing and I didn't burn her, but she was scared of the flame.




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/13/2006 10:10:14 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: YourMasterKai

I knew what I was doing and I didn't burn her, but she was scared of the flame.

Then don't use flames.  Melt the wax in a crock pot and use your hands and a ladel to coat her.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_154985/mpage_1/key_wax%252Cplay/tm.htm#155014
Wax Play

Wax Play
This is my general wax play design, easily modifiable if you want to
include multiple people.

Supplies: wax, long tip lighter, sheet or tarp, baby oil, knife,
baby powder, blindfold, (if using a crock pot, ladle, spatula,
paintbrush, any other spreading toys that look interesting)

Get the wax: Either two blocks of paraffin and two glassed church
candles melted together in a crock pot, or just the church candles
for easier transporting. I haven't noticed much temperature
derivation using these types of candles, but white wax is harder to
see where it falls and green tends to just look black on a person.
Start prep at least 2 hours before the scene by lighting the candles
or starting the wax to melt. If the candles are cold, it will take
longer and the wax won't melt as evenly

Prep the area: Flat surface is necessary, a bondage or massage
table usually works fine and is padded. Outside is nice because you
don't have to worry about getting wax on anything. If you are on
the floor, put a flannel sheet or comforter down first to keep
things from being too cold. Cover with an old sheet or tarp, and if
you're off the floor, cover the area nearby as well. Wax will get
everywhere! Lay out all supplies beforehand, you don't want to have
to leave burning candles or naked person alone too long. Also, make
sure your area is well-heated. Even though the wax will get them
warm and give them a nice shell, when it comes off they will feel
the cooler air.

Prep the people: Don't wear your good fetish gear! Again, wax will
get everywhere. For the waxer, wear throw away clothes and/or an
apron. For the waxee, get them naked and blindfolded. I like to
have their focus totally on the wax sensations and you don't have to
worry about wax splattering into eyes. Lay them down on the
surface, starting stomach down usually works best.

Start the scene: Start to connect with the bottom by massaging
their skin, letting them relax into position and get used to your
touch. Massage the baby oil onto their skin. Not only does this
feel yummy, but prevents wax from painfully sticking to hair and
makes it much easier to peel or scrape off. Once you're fully into
the scene, you can get into the wax.

Waxing: I start generally about 18 inches above the persons skin.
Get a good full layer all over their body. Be careful about
dripping on the sides as the skin is more sensitive. Once you've
established an initial layer, you can have more fun with sensations,
bringing the wax lower or higher to build heat (the higher the wax,
the more the splatter). You can paint the wax on, let it drip
slowly or just wash it over them with a ladle. The feet are also
lots of fun. On the stomach, be careful of the belly button.
Sometimes it's good just to put a plug of wax in there or cover it
with a cotton ball.

Removing wax: Wax is likely to still be slightly soft and pliable.
If you're peeling the wax, getting as much in one motion is a very
awesome feeling for the sub. Slowly start at the edges and pull up,
gathering the wax as you go. If you scrape, just press down gently
and pull towards the wax and down. There's always a few drips and
splatters to scrape off. If you've used oil, it should come off
fairly easily. Don't try to get off every piece of wax- a good
shower will do the best job at that.

After the wax: Once you've removed the wax, I sprinkle babypowder
all over the skin. The skin is very sensitive at this point and the
cool softness of the powder feels like rose petals just falling
down. You can rub the powder in and smooth over the skin. This
will help dry off some of the oil as well.

If you want to reuse your sheet, put it in the freezer to freeze the
wax, take it outside and get as much as you can off by shaking or
pulling it. Then toss in the washer and drier to remove the rest.




RedSavageSlave -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/13/2006 10:14:37 AM)

Do a search on BDSM checklists.. you should be able to pull up one with a list of ideas you can sit down discuss and try if it appeals to you.




YourMasterKai -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/13/2006 10:22:40 AM)

Thanks both of you, particularly LuckyAlbatross, although more ideas would be welcomed..




Focus50 -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/13/2006 1:37:52 PM)

Crikey - a whopping 18 years old and you're already all out of ideas!  No wonder I shake my head at doms who find the lifestyle wayyyyy too soon!
 
Kink alone doesn't sustain anyone for long.  It's human nature to become bored with repetition, no matter what you're doing.  However, when something has purpose and goals, which in turn feeds your own passions and desires, there never seems to be enough time....
 
But for you, I'd recommend you put the toys away and get off your arse and learn about life in general.  To me, it sounds like your BDSM is nothing more than about being cool to be different; that you have no idea why you're even here beyond mere kink.  Experience junkies usually find there's only so much variety.  Poor you, you're finding that as a teenager!
 
Everything you do reflects who you are and while your profile is a shocker, it's what I'd expect from someone lacking life experience in general.  So I'd suggest you back off on the "easy kink" and go and get your shit together at all levels.  IE, your own job, home, financial security etc; all the things that teach maturity and responsibility esp for a dom.  Once you have that happening, life and kink will not be so boring because there'll be purpose in what you seek or try to achieve.
 
Focus.




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/13/2006 1:46:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50
Everything you do reflects who you are and while your profile is a shocker, it's what I'd expect from someone lacking life experience in general.  So I'd suggest you back off on the "easy kink" and go and get your shit together at all levels.  IE, your own job, home, financial security etc; all the things that teach maturity and responsibility esp for a dom.  Once you have that happening, life and kink will not be so boring because there'll be purpose in what you seek or try to achieve.

Focus.


That was such a better answer than I would have given.  It's good that I'm not the only poster here :)




mstrjx -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/13/2006 3:29:02 PM)

Bungie jumping?  A bit of bondage.  And if you think she'll be a little loud, I don't see most bungie jumpers gagged.

Just a thought.

Jeff




YourMasterKai -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/13/2006 3:48:07 PM)

Thanks for the advice, we're not just in it for the kink though, and this is a long term relationship style, it's just we like to explore different activities and ideas so we thought we'd ask for advice here...




BitaTruble -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/13/2006 4:09:14 PM)

Check out the other side - click on 'edit profile' .. and then 'interests'. There are three BDSM options. Click on any one (or all) of those and it will bring up a whole bunch of things which you can google and check out to see if you would be interested in learning about them.

Celeste




Lordandmaster -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/13/2006 4:11:17 PM)

Try a gang bang.




mnottertail -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/13/2006 5:50:28 PM)

Lam, that is certainly a grand idea.

To the OP,
If that is too tame, rent her out as a toilet at street dances.

Hope this helps,
Ron
(added:  In the neighborhood you know, you don't wanna get all crazy right away. I mean; not in the yellow pages right outta the chute.)




MadRabbit -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/13/2006 6:22:31 PM)

I have to say I agree wholeheartedly with Focus50. Take it from someone close to your own age.

When I first entered the lifestyle, I was all too eager to learn about kinky toys and wanted the whole world all at once. But with the help of several patient mentors, I became to realize just how much being a Dominant went far beyond simply sex. It had to do with maturity, responsibility, self control, structure and stability to say the least.

I wish to be a Dominant and not simply a Top so I have stopped even looking for any kind of real relatioship until I can get my personal life in order, finish school in a couple of years and have the income and stable life to have a collared submissive of my own. I still have play partners and am learning as a Top. But I still have a long way to go before I can ever be a Dominant.




Focus50 -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/14/2006 4:12:16 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50
Everything you do reflects who you are and while your profile is a shocker, it's what I'd expect from someone lacking life experience in general.  So I'd suggest you back off on the "easy kink" and go and get your shit together at all levels.  IE, your own job, home, financial security etc; all the things that teach maturity and responsibility esp for a dom.  Once you have that happening, life and kink will not be so boring because there'll be purpose in what you seek or try to achieve.

Focus.


That was such a better answer than I would have given.  It's good that I'm not the only poster here :)

Lol, you're just not as cynical and sceptical as I am.  It comes from the need to keep a close eye on those mischievous fem/subs. ;-)

And "Ask a Master" would be a mighty slow Forum if not for all the women (mostly subs) posting in here.
 
Focus. 




gypsylee -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/14/2006 4:34:52 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50

...And "Ask a Master" would be a mighty slow Forum if not for all the women (mostly subs) posting in here.
 


know thy enemy i say ;)

lol Lordandmaster & mnottertail. you guys... such scallywags!

edited cos it censored me for posting an "at" symbol. how rude.




RedSavageSlave -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/14/2006 10:26:50 AM)

I should have checked the profile.. I find it interesting that he has so few experiences but is looking for more slaves... go figure.




shadevarr -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/14/2006 11:51:27 AM)

Read everything you can find. There is a wealth of knowledge out there but also do not skimp on some of the fiction. My subs mind is the best sex toy I own but if you are just looking for a few kinks, try clothespins on sensitive places for 5-10 minutes.




SirDraven -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/14/2006 2:13:26 PM)

Im thinking kidnapping and interogation but as you are new to all this that might be a bit much.

Your 18 you know all about wax play and Im 38 and dont know that much??

Is it me or is something a bit odd here?




Focus50 -> RE: Fresh Ideas For Playtime (10/14/2006 2:33:19 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: RedSavageSlave

I should have checked the profile.. I find it interesting that he has so few experiences but is looking for more slaves... go figure.

Not really a mystery for a newbie dom - their fantasies usually dictate they "want it all", with no concept of the obligations and responsibilities involved.  The only bigger ego boost than having someone perpetually available to "suck this, bitch" is to have more than one at your disposal to do it!
 
Gotta love fantasies - it wasn't that long ago that the godawful Pamela Anderson was marketed as "every man's fantasy"!  Yeah, righttttt - there'll always be urban myths....

Focus.




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