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windy135 -> Jealousy (10/14/2006 8:15:06 AM)
Has anyone ever acted jealous (like that girl/guy they never wanted to act like) and then felt like a complete idiot afterward? There was nothing to be jealous of, your imagination got the best of you. How did you get over it? I don't even know how to approach my boyfriend/Dom. I don't want to be that girl. Kind of a boring question but I was hoping someone could give me some pointers on how approach my Dominate boy friend (he doesn't know I got as jealous as I did) and how could I control such feelings in the future. Thank you, Wendy*

KenDckey -> RE: Jealousy (10/14/2006 8:24:30 AM)
Feelings are normal. It is the way we choose to act upon those feelings that is important. I don't think I have a jealous bone in my body. I caught my ex with a guy. I just told him that when he was through he could leave and cloed the door. She was pissed cause he left right then and didn't get off. LOL He never came back either. LOL that kept her pissed even more. Action - Be polite Reaction - she didn't get what she wanted and tortured herself far more than I could.

Kalira -> RE: Jealousy (10/14/2006 9:41:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: windy135 Has anyone ever acted jealous (like that girl/guy they never wanted to act like) and then felt like a complete idiot afterward? There was nothing to be jealous of, your imagination got the best of you. How did you get over it? I don't even know how to approach my boyfriend/Dom. I don't want to be that girl. Kind of a boring question but I was hoping someone could give me some pointers on how approach my Dominate boy friend (he doesn't know I got as jealous as I did) and how could I control such feelings in the future. Thank you, Wendy* Jealousy is a natural emotion; and there is nothing wrong with feeling it. What matter is HOW you handle it. If it is handled badly, the relationship will suffer; if it is handled honestly and openly, chances are it will strengthen the relationship. Your best bet is to tell him how you felt, why you felt that way and then go from there. Be honest and open about it.

SlaveAkasha -> RE: Jealousy (10/14/2006 10:03:05 AM)
I admit I get jealous sometimes also, so I know how you feel. It's normal to feel that way and there is nothing wrong with it. I agree with others, it's all in how you handle it. It's when jealousy gets ugly and out of hand it's a problem for a relationship. I would just calmly talk to your Sir about why you were jealous, be open with him. I think a little jealousy is healthy, and can even help a relationship. It makes me feel sort of good when someone I am with feels that way. It might do the same for your Sir, he might actually feel flattered by it. Masters Akasha

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Jealousy (10/14/2006 11:40:13 AM)
Jealousy, like so many other emotions, is based in fear. And, fear is often the result of an over-active imagination. How many times have we sat and been afraid of what MIGHT happen? I know I have. You've admitted your feelings...that's a big step in getting through it. Talk with the people involved and tell them why you felt this way...perhaps they might have had similar feelings, too, and it will open up the relationship a little. Master Fire

windy135 -> RE: Jealousy (10/15/2006 9:57:34 PM)
Wow thank's everyone. It was one of those moments when you forget what to do. I wish I could just not care as much as I care. Everything is fine now. My reaction to him wasn't crazy but I could have handled it better. Just another thing I will work on. Thanks for the replies.

jesskitty -> RE: Jealousy (10/16/2006 11:45:04 AM)
i think be honest and voice it..i think relationships that have alot of communication and understanding are some of the best ones. everyone gets jealous i belive, its a human emotion. i think the difference between being 'that girl/guy' that's jealous and expressing your jealousy is where you discuss things, find a comfort level and learn not to act crazily aobut it as 'that girl/guy' does.

KatyLied -> RE: Jealousy (10/16/2006 12:01:06 PM)
I don't have a huge problem with jealousy, but envy strikes a chord with me. I find myself wanting what others have. Of course I tend to romanticize what they have and think it's perfect, all the while not appreciating what I have. I meditate once a week on the subject of negative emotion. As far as a relationship, I think that jealousy is very harmful. And where does it get you? It can get you a partner who will want to be driven away from you, so it can become self-fulfilling. Jealousy is useless, it won't prevent an unfortunate thing like that happening, and I think in some cases it can speed up the process.

corsetgirl -> RE: Jealousy (10/16/2006 8:45:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied I don't have a huge problem with jealousy, but envy strikes a chord with me. I find myself wanting what others have. Of course I tend to romanticize what they have and think it's perfect, all the while not appreciating what I have. I meditate once a week on the subject of negative emotion. As far as a relationship, I think that jealousy is very harmful. And where does it get you? It can get you a partner who will want to be driven away from you, so it can become self-fulfilling. Jealousy is useless, it won't prevent an unfortunate thing like that happening, and I think in some cases it can speed up the process. Excellent statement! [:D]

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