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Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/14/2006 9:45:46 AM

findmedaddy

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I don't spend a lot of time on the forums, but it would be hard for even a casual reader not to have noticed all the notes about people who don't answer messages.

I just wanted to say that the male dominants I've approached have almost unfailingly answered my messages, and I appreciate it. Only two haven't -- one because I think he never came back to the site after posting his profile, and another for reasons I don't know. He's still here and he read the two messages I sent.

I think it's remarkable that dominants are so willing to respond to messages. I don't know if I'm typical, but at least in my case, it's hard to write the note in the first place, so even if (maybe even especially if) the return message simply says that he doesn't feel we're compatible, I am grateful for it.

Thanks,

findmedaddy

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/14/2006 10:22:08 AM

happypervert

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That's because male dominants don't get a lot of gals writing to them so they tend to welcome anything dropping into their box and reply. Almost all the complaints about no replies come from men, and it is either because their notes are so dumb they don't merit a reply or the gals are overwhelmed by notes from on-line Romeos that they are simply unable to answer them all.

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/14/2006 10:55:01 AM

Lordandmaster

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What confuses me more than people who don't respond is people who WRITE TO YOU and then never even read your reply.

Like what was the fucking point?

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/14/2006 11:37:17 AM

Mavis

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

What confuses me more than people who don't respond is people who WRITE TO YOU and then never even read your reply.

Like what was the fucking point?

LOL. :: raises hand :: guilty! and i can explain!

i have written a few from the boards here, asking about a post, or once when i had a book for sale, i invited interested buyers to mail me.. but i never got any mail. i found it ALL in my bulk folder early last week. Hell, i didn't even know there was a bulk folder, i somehow stumbled on mail controls, etc.

So now, there is a TON of mail to reply to, and it's going slowly. i did a cursory reading of all the names i recognised from the boards, but haven't gotten down the list yet, so those P/people would see me as haveing opened T/their mail and not replying. i figure T/they'll understand when they get T/their reply, or if T/they see this post.

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/14/2006 12:17:48 PM

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As a Dominant male, I consider replying just plain common courtesy. Sometimes my reply is a simple, not at this time or we would not be right for one another. Some times when I write submissives I am simply saying good luck or congratulations on finding the one you wanted. In some cases, no reply on their part is expected. If it comes I will write them back acknowledging it and the fact they have shown that they know manners. Sometimes I do not reply if we have exchanged several emails anf it appears we can not make it onto the same page. Why go over the same things again?

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/14/2006 3:32:47 PM

Focus50

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Yep, almost every fem/sub openly states she'll answer polite and sincere mail etc, but the fact is very few do. Most who do reply usually like a bit of determination on the male's part and will repond after the second msg or so.

From my male/Dom perspective, it is a lottery and I've usually got two or three attempts in me before I cut my losses and mentally "blacklist" them as a typical timewaster. I've recently sent a second msg to an interesting lady down south, whose profile specifically states something like "be rude, be ignored"! Well I'm never rude and she has read both - and thus far, nothing!

With two notable exceptions, I find it a sad indictment of fem/subs on the Net that the ones I share regular mail with have all contacted me, first! That said, I haven't replied to one who wrote two days ago.... lol Better get to that now....

Focus.

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/14/2006 5:30:26 PM

mstrjx

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I answer the majority of my male. Within the last couple of weeks I had a couple of lovely Nigerian women send me emails, but I didn't want to get caught up in a scam. Then there was the one that didn't initially say that she was Russian, but it turned out she was. That wasn't going to go very far.

Most of my mail has to do with my writings here, and I do always respond. Every once in a while I might be an inquiry into my profile, but not often.

Why, as I live and breathe, I'm getting a CM email right this very second. Must go answer.

Jeff

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/15/2006 5:42:19 AM

adaddysgirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

What confuses me more than people who don't respond is people who WRITE TO YOU and then never even read your reply.

Like what was the fucking point?

i have never understood this either. This has happened to me a couple of times. Someone will write an interest email, i respond (once was even to say 'not interested')....and 2 weeks later the thing still hasn't been opened.

Right....what was the point?

DG

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/15/2006 6:22:25 AM

findmedaddy

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There's a bulk folder?? Uh-oh....

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/15/2006 6:56:21 AM

MrrPete

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50

Yep, almost every fem/sub openly states she'll answer polite and sincere mail etc, but the fact is very few do.

I have to agree with focus here. It doesn't matter how well written the email they just don't reply. If they've read my email and haven't replied in a week I delete the sent message.

I was raised to be a gentleman and since "discovering what it is that I like to do" I'm now a Dominant Gentleman.

So when I don't get a reply I chalk it up to bad manners and move on. But it still irks me to spend at least 30 mins composing just to get dissed.

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/15/2006 8:39:13 AM

stockingluvr54

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MrrPete

quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50

Yep, almost every fem/sub openly states she'll answer polite and sincere mail etc, but the fact is very few do.

I have to agree with focus here. It doesn't matter how well written the email they just don't reply. If they've read my email and haven't replied in a week I delete the sent message.

I was raised to be a gentleman and since "discovering what it is that I like to do" I'm now a Dominant Gentleman.

So when I don't get a reply I chalk it up to bad manners and move on. But it still irks me to spend at least 30 mins composing just to get dissed.

Pretty much agree with your train of thought! I've all but quit responding to profiles. Like you mentioned.....you spend 30 min typing your ass off trying to write a well written thoughtful response and nadda. Every once in awhile a profile will stand out and I'll send a quick paragraph inviting the person to check out my profile and respond with questions,etc. if the feel we have anything in common? I'll also comment privately on a persons' post if I feel it's a real good one....but that's about it anymores.......

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/15/2006 9:02:47 AM

CrappyDom

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I get really fucking enraged when those stupid little fucking cunts don't realize what a nice fucking guy I am. It makes we want to grab them by the throat and throttle them. I just hate the fucking stuck up little bitches here. Why don't the little sluts respond to me?

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/15/2006 9:15:35 AM

sublizzie

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I respond to any emails I receive. It also gets me into trouble when the person on the other end has a good sense of humor and a command of the English language. It happens so seldom that they can use the language that I can get sucked into a conversation with a wanker just because he knows how to compose a sentence.

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/15/2006 9:26:18 AM

Nimkii

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I get emails from the staff on collar me thats it. apperently being poly and open and honest about it. is a bit difficult. but what ever, if I get mail and there not out to waste my time then I will respond to it. other then that the rest of them can go fuck themselves with there 25 mile long lists saying what they won't do when according to them they have no limits

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/15/2006 9:38:01 AM

stockingluvr54

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

I get really fucking enraged when those stupid little fucking cunts don't realize what a nice fucking guy I am. It makes we want to grab them by the throat and throttle them. I just hate the fucking stuck up little bitches here. Why don't the little sluts respond to me?

LMMFAO!

That describes the old stockingluvr..... Now the newer..much nicer...more mellow stockingluvr doesn't get too excited because I don't waste my time anymore responding to profiles..... Kind of a catch-22...oh well

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/15/2006 10:13:22 AM

findmedaddy

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Perhaps I should be sorry I brought it up! I only meant to say thanks. LOL.

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/15/2006 6:30:19 PM

stockingluvr54

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quote:

ORIGINAL: findmedaddy

Perhaps I should be sorry I brought it up! I only meant to say thanks. LOL.

Hell...don't be sorry about anything....your post was very legit...we just get sidetracked around here once in awhile.....

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/16/2006 7:30:07 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

What confuses me more than people who don't respond is people who WRITE TO YOU and then never even read your reply.

Like what was the fucking point?

lol, I have had that happen and I have to admit it is very annoying. why attempt to engage me in a conversation if your going to turn around and never say a word back to me?

I dont fancy conversations with posts, lol.

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/16/2006 7:57:40 AM

MistressCamille

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mavis
i found it ALL in my bulk folder early last week. Hell, i didn't even know there was a bulk folder, i somehow stumbled on mail controls, etc.

Thanks for mentioning that. I hadn't checked mine in months and sure enough, there were some lost messages in there.

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RE: Not a Question, Just an Observation - 10/16/2006 8:22:21 AM

HalloweenWhite

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

What confuses me more than people who don't respond is people who WRITE TO YOU and then never even read your reply.

Like what was the fucking point?

Lmao.

Good question.

HalloweenWhite.

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