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Remember ur introduction into the BDSM lifestyle? - 10/14/2006 7:13:53 PM

DesireDeeva

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(Short version) My 1st was over 15yrs.ago, I was a hairstylist/makeup artist in Chicago,IL. he was a very handsome German guy who visited every other month on business, turns out that he was into sexual asphyxia,freaked me out at 1st because I know that people have died from this...he asked me about my clothes/shoe size & would bring new domina gear for me to wear as I practiced to become a FemDom, he was lotsa fun & taught me alot about the lifestyle, so when I asked "why" he choose me to do these things with, he said it was all about my "Aura"...

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RE: Remember ur introduction into the BDSM lifestyle? - 10/14/2006 7:33:27 PM

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Yes, I remember it fondly, I don't want to share the details. Except to say it was special to me and always will be.

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RE: Remember ur introduction into the BDSM lifestyle? - 10/14/2006 7:58:14 PM

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Ahhhhh yes, I do remember my introduction to BDSM. What a wonderful man!!

Thanks for bringing up such wonderful memories,..........

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RE: Remember ur introduction into the BDSM lifestyle? - 10/14/2006 8:27:04 PM

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Read the "story of O" years and years ago.. didn't ever know there were real Doms and subs, till i got a computer.. went into a vanilla chat room.. met a man.. started chatting.. discussing fantasies..( easy in the anonymous online chatroom, lol) He told me i had "submissive" fantasies.. had me go check out castlerealm and some other sites .. had me find some submissives in a D/s chatroom to talk to.. all in all He handled teaching me in a very Honorable way.. just showed me how to find the info out for myself.. didn't try to teach or train me Himself.
at least until i asked Him to.. ;) a few months later.,

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RE: Remember ur introduction into the BDSM lifestyle? - 10/14/2006 10:14:26 PM

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Yes, I remeber my first physical introduction. About seven years ago. However, I've had fantasies since I was a teen, and just never knew others had them, and that there was this massive comunity out there. I also remember my first regression awakening, when the memories flodded back and I remembered things burried deep inside my head.

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RE: Remember ur introduction into the BDSM lifestyle? - 10/15/2006 3:04:03 AM

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I was introduced in an online MUD and I enjoyed it soo deeply that I had to learn more. It was almost two years later that I found people that I could play with.

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RE: Remember ur introduction into the BDSM lifestyle? - 10/15/2006 3:59:13 AM

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I vaguely remember it... I was a LOT younger then I am now.... that's pretty much what I remember.

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RE: Remember ur introduction into the BDSM lifestyle? - 10/15/2006 4:39:23 AM

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Desire Deeva:
"I asked "why" he choose me to do these things with, he said it was all about my "Aura"."

I too see and feel the aura surrounding many and often when encountering another an inner peace befalls me. Most certainly I can relate to this mans reasoning.

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RE: Remember ur introduction into the BDSM lifestyle? - 10/15/2006 4:52:38 AM

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Wonderful memories.

I was VERY lucky, had a lovely introduction with a very experienced Dom.

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RE: Remember ur introduction into the BDSM lifestyle? - 10/15/2006 5:00:27 AM

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yeah... what a sad and sorry day that was.

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RE: Remember ur introduction into the BDSM lifestyle? - 10/15/2006 5:05:13 AM

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yeah, it was the day i turned on the PC...LOL

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RE: Remember ur introduction into the BDSM lifestyle? - 10/15/2006 8:16:54 AM

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He found me online in a vanilla chatroom (didn't know what vanilla was back then!). He led me into a Femdom chatroom to meet his friends - all of whom are local. A few weeks later I met him for lunch, then met them at a house play party. I already knew I was a strong, independent woman, but I had never thought of myself as dominant (I totally laugh about that now!). One of his friends became my mentor and I collared him a few months later.

I will never forget that first play party though. I was mesmerized watching the different scenes in all the rooms - violet wand, clothespins, fire, crops, paddles, a cage, all kinds of restraints including rope, and wax (oh my gawd!) It wasn't really intimidating, more fascinating than anything else. Everyone was so friendly, so welcoming, and so non-threatening. I quickly found a group of local friends for munches and more parties, then the dungeon opened and we had a place to play more regularly.

That original collar and I broke up after nearly 3 years together, and now, 10 years later, we are back together again. We have grown up a lot since then. Time has mellowed us, and allowed me to learn so much more about this craft. Our lives are in very different places now and we can experience time together in ways that we only fantacized about before.

Now, I find myself enjoying leading others gently into this lifestyle as they explore and learn. I feel like I need to be an ambassador of sorts to show them that there are some wonderfully genuine people out there and to help them learn to spot those who only intend to use them (not in a good way). When at the dungeon, I typically find myself in the "teacher" role for new Dommes and subs. Once in while (I really wish it was more frequently), I even find a Dom or Domme who actually knows what they are doing and I get to watch and drool and wish it was me on the other side.

Anyway...that's how it all started for me.

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RE: Remember ur introduction into the BDSM lifestyle? - 10/15/2006 1:13:15 PM

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Now this is a funny story realy. I was watching WaxWork (the original) when i was somewhere between 13-15 I forget. I seen the Marquis De Sade Charicter make a woman beg to be whiped with a singfle tail. I was mezmerized. Then off to the library i went to learn more about Him. I found not only the perversions but the mentality and intelligence of the Marquis to be rather refreshign in his Discriptions of his motives and such that I been a studier of all things D/s (relationship dynamic) and BDSM (play oriented)

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